What keeps a guy in a relationship? male advice please!!?

my boyfriend and i have been together for about 8 months now. i really love him and i want to make him as happy as he makes me. i read on the internet that the things that makes guys happy most of all is sex.


but this would mean any girl can make my bf happy. there must be other stuff that make a guy stick around when he's in a relationship.


so then what can a girl do to make her man cherish her and the relationship even more?What keeps a guy in a relationship? male advice please!!?
Well go up to him and tell him how you fell and ask him if theres anything you can do! If he says sex dump him he's not worth, but If he says your the only thing I need to feel happy than hes a keeper!What keeps a guy in a relationship? male advice please!!?
Honey, let me tell you something, if you are afraid that the only way to keep your man is to have sex with him when you are not ready, you are wrong.





If he really loves you then he will wait for you when you are ready.





Listening to other people, reading articles in mags, or reading stuff on the internet, does not matter, all that matters is what you think and feel.





Who cares what other people think and feel, if you are not ready then you are not ready.





If he loves you enough to respect the fact that you are not ready, then he is worth keeping, but if he does not, then maby it is time for you to rethink your relationship with him.
If he loves you he will be with you. Nothing else will make him stay. Not even sex. Maybe for a while but like you said he can get that anywhere.





Oh I just saw that you asked for male's advice. Sorry.
Well, it's not so much that sex will keep a guy around, because as you pointed out, any girl can have sex with a guy. The reality is though that a lack of sex will probably cause him to leave.





but to answer your question, guys like to know that you appreciate them, that you mean a lot to them, and that they do something/make you feel a way that no other guy could.





Overall, just make them feel like they're the only guy in the world(but don't go overboard or they will think it's fake)
spend a lot of time with him also you need to make sure that he has some personal time alone when he wants it. you need to be a loving girlfriend to him. that's all i would do if i were you
the only thing you can do is sit back and relax not it his choice if he want to be with u. and that not true about guy only want sex i been with my boyfriend for 2 year in a half and he haven't ask for sex yate becAUSE he know i'm saving myself for marriage.but dont get me wrong we touch touch but not more then that.we have talk about that situation because i want 2 but more then that nothing else.
What keeps me in a relationship?...commitment, honestly, trust, loyalty, faithfulness. If you want to make your man happy just keep doing what you been doing you know? try switching things up sometimes...cook for him, take him out to places..etc..etc. He'll be like wow! keep the spark going and turn it into a wild fire yadadigg?! okay you get the point. lol
Control him seems to keep guys in way longer than they should. It's sad.





If you really are in love, he'll stay, and it's wrong to try to make him not leave if you aren't.
Do things that he is interested in with him even if you don't like it. Baseball, video games whatever he is into.
Hello!


Every girl who has sex does not do it with the same personality and there is a different chemistry involved. Hopefully he see's much more then just what you are like in bed! You have to be able to relate on other levels too. Can you guys have a conversation, or do some fun things together besides whats done in the bedroom? I do think sometimes women will hold the sex card over the mates head, and if they are not happy with something in that man, they do withhold sex alot of times.





Just communicate with each other and above ANYTHING, be honest with one another!





Here's to you're relationship!
If you think that sex is the only thing that will keep your guy, you are in a bad relationship. What does he do to make you happy. If its things like taking you out to eat or see a movie, then return the favor. Give him a gift or just tell him that he's doing a real good job at making you happy. Don't ever resort to sex as a way to keeping a guy.
baby maken
It isn't as simple as lots of sex. She has to be sane, fun, trustworthy, employed (at least employable), have a sense of humor, compassionate, low maintenance, understanding, open minded, and I'm sure another dozen things I'm not coming up with off the top of my head. What it really comes down to is we have to be compatible.
You just both have to love each other and work at it. I can't give you a better answer than that. If I could, I would put it in a bottle and sell it. All the luck in the world.
do you know what he likes, try to get into that, thats why my girlfriend and I are together, because we have alot in common
I know I am not a guy...





But sex doesn't keep them in it long term. My boyfriend just told me the reasons why he sticks by me are:





1. I'm honest and loyal.


2. I'm fun and I make him laugh.


3. I love him for who he is and not who I want him to be


4. I am also like a best friend and I can listen to him without judging him.


5. I am his biggest cheerleader. He's been through a lot and he has been able to open up to me because I have been patient and he trusts me.


6. And I don't nag.


7. And I am full of surprises.





Oh and he just added - ';You still dress up once in awhile for me'; - in his own words... (that was nice - I never realized he noticed that - hee hee)





So those are words from a guy - not necessarily from me.
Feeling special and feeling loved. Sex is not the long term answer. It will keep him interested for a short while but then all the mystery is gone and he will get bored with you. Do special things for him...read Cosmo magazine for some ideas although some are probably a little mature for you.
never believe what you read over the internet. Follow your heart it will lead the way. Just being there when he needs to talk. always stand by him and listen to him even if you don't agree on what he is saying.
No theres way more to a relationship then sex! Umm, do little sweet things for him. Things he won't expect. Write him a letter, when he's at work or out get one of those markers you use to write on cars and write how much you miss him and you can't wait to see him. . . Take him out one night (your treat), pamper him. . . .

My girlfriend of 13 years Is unsure of our relationship,o need some advice.?

She's out with her friends a lot recently some are singles,her sis is getting married next year too,is it me?do I need to man up and commit?o love her and my life would suck without her..My girlfriend of 13 years Is unsure of our relationship,o need some advice.?
Well, after 13 years of a good relationship you'd think that you would've done something. Granted, all couples are different, and I'm not telling you to go put a ring on her finger. Sit her down and find out when she's thinking about all of this. Obviously if you guys have been together this long you don't have a lack of communication or problem talking about issues, so just treat this as you would any other topic. Good luck! :)My girlfriend of 13 years Is unsure of our relationship,o need some advice.?
Of course she's unsure of the relationship, you guys have been together 13 years and you haven't made one serious committment? Seriously dude, she's looking to settle down with someone, and if she doesn't think your it for her, she will go look elsewhweree (sooner rather than later). I'm assuming she's got to be in her early 30's? I mean most women by then are long married, have a solid career, and have children, she's already lack 2 out of 3. If you do love her, then ask her to marry you. If not your going to lose her.
You know... you've been together 13 years and you haven't married her. Do right by her and put a ring on her finger. She's prolly really upset her sister is getting married and she's still dating. If you're not careful you may lose her. If you're sure you love her and want to be with her then why not marry her. Man up, you can do it. Good luck!
13 years and no ring??!!!!!! You must have the best girlfriend in the world, go get her a ring now and propose now cuz she is sooo done with you soon if you don't. SERIOUSLY. I don't blame her.
u have dated a girl for 13 years???? kool thanks..im 11 and wanna date my bff's bro and since we r really young he said maybe we can stay together a while....


now for ur answer:


just ask her what is bothering her... she would understand

Need some advice about a relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. For the most part we have had great relationship. But lately there have been some bumps in the road.





I feel like he is unable to commit to me, and I feel as if he is too busy with his friends and such to have be in his life. He always seems to see his friends more then seeing me. It is upsetting how as soon as his friends text him he is up and gone, but if I need him to do something it is like pulling teeth.





I feel like he is scared to be close to me and I do not know what to say to him.Need some advice about a relationship?
You dont give an age group here but you sound fairly young especially in mentioning him and his friends.Sounds like youre losing out to peer pressure. A young guy will let his friend rule his world over his girlfriend. I dont think hes afraid to get close, its just he considers his friends closer right now. This all comes down to just how much are you willing to put up with here? Everyone has a point of where enough becomes enough and things start to change and sense youre getting close to yours. Only you know where that point is and what you want. Just decide whether youre better off with or without him and go from there. Good luck

rimmel

Need some advice regarding intimate relationship with my girlfriend?

need some advice of what to do and how to convince her that going down on her and have some foreplay before we get into the climax is the best thing to do.





im her 1st boyfriend and shes my 21st girlfriend and still i dont know how to convince her..





thanks!Need some advice regarding intimate relationship with my girlfriend?
You have been pushing her too fast. Slow down with the sex and show her some respect. Since you are her first boyfriend she is very inexperienced compared to the whore-hound that you are. She may even think that you love her, which is her big mistake. You are taking advantage of her if you are trying to get her to do things that she is not comfortable with.

What is the best advice you could give to someone in a relationship? ?

Always be honest and treat the other person how you would like to be treated!What is the best advice you could give to someone in a relationship? ?
USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!What is the best advice you could give to someone in a relationship? ?
true to the core of ur heart and honesty is always the best policy

If you've ever been in a secret relationship, how was it? Mind giving me advice?

Me and my girlfriend wants to be back together but i'm scared that we will get caught again because she will get in trouble again by her parents.





My friends told me that i should never post pictures with her on facebook and i should attempt a secret relationship.





If you've ever been in one, what are your experience?? how did it turn out??If you've ever been in a secret relationship, how was it? Mind giving me advice?
um k, i am in a ';secret relationship'; right now...i personally think its for the best...cause usually other ppl will say stuff that might break the relationship

My friend needs advice regarding a bad relationship with her BF?

I have been dating my best friend for the past 7 years. He and I have always had a lot of fun; though he has always participated in acts I do not agree with (He does drugs and drinks a lot). I have been supporting him and his habits for at least 6 of the past 7 years, and now we have 2 kids (a girl age 2 and a boy age 7months). He has been unwilling to keep a job for more than 3 months at a time, quitting stating that it drove him crazy. He has discovered online gaming (World of Warcraft, Also known as WOW) and now he sits at the computer all day and night, in his underwear while I work, take care of the kids and house 鈥?not to mention pay all the bills as he is not working. He does not cook, clean or help out in any way that does not involve complaining about how little we have.


At this time, neither of our kids wants much to do with him as he constantly ignores them, or sends them to me for whatever they need, be it a drink or snack or anything.My friend needs advice regarding a bad relationship with her BF?
Trash the computer so he can't use it. Tell him he gets a job -- and KEEPS it -- or he gets out....no middle ground here. And he cuts the drinking or drugs...or he finds his way to the door...again -- no middle ground. TWO LITTLE KIDS are watching every single thing he does...don't you suppose that they might learn that it's ';ok'; to do these things too???





It wouldn't be much of a hardship on you financially to do it on your own --- you already are!My friend needs advice regarding a bad relationship with her BF?
Sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him he either needs to shape up or ship out. You love him but it's time to grow up and be the adult, be a husband and a father to you and your children. If he can't see that he's be selfish and pig-headed.
That is a lot of crap to deal with. Sounds like he works long enough to have money for drugs, and quits.


Well, I don't think that it is a healthy environment for the kids or you. I would leave. File or child support. The state will make him keep a job or go to jail.


Move in with a friend, or family where you will have support emotionally, and with the kids.


You sound like you are doing it yourself anyhow. get out.
Well to me it sounds like your in a situation that you need to get out of. It is a little harder with the fact that you have two kids with him, but if it was me i would give him the options of getting a job and holding it or to find a new place to live. Its one thing to play games online to make it all you do and not contribute to the house or bills is just wrong and you need to put your foot down,.
you need to law down the law in your house. tell him that you want him off the drugs for good. if he gets caught, you get caught, and your children get taken away. tell him that he needs to have a job by the end of the month. if he doesn't want to, then kick him out. you're pretty much raising those kids by yourself now as it is.
It's hard to hear but it sounds like this guy wasn't much of a mate to begin with. WOW is an addictive game and your relationship isn't the first one to be ruined by it. They should have a support group, I swear! (WOWOW - Widows of World of Warcraft) Not only are you going to be better off without this guy in your life but so are your children. He is not a provider at all and any husband/father needs to be. You already have two children you don't need the responsibilities of treating him like the third. Get out of this relationship and put your money to better use, like saving to put your kids through college, not buying your man's next fix or six pack. He's already gone this long without helping out so there's no reason to think he's ever going to change. You should have left him before this.
I know that you probably don't want to hear this because you love him, but it sounds like he needs a little bit of a reality check. Maybe you should tell him that your going to have to break things off with him untill he gets his sh*t together. That is just so out of control. You should break up with him, so it will force him to have to do something for himself.
1ST consider separation. if he will not move out, take the checkbook and the kids as well as your immediate needs, such as clothing, hygiene, school supplies, etc. and find a shelter for yourself and the childlren. The biggest problem you will fact is to not let him know where you are and anyone who might inform him of your whereabouts. Then contact the service of a pro bono lawyer. There are some who will work according to your financial needs. 2nd, if this doesn't wake him up, go through with the divorce. You certainly have nothing at all to lose. But if you stay you may lose your sanity.
What's your question? You're the one that keeps sleeping with him without protection and producing more kids that you can't support finanically, emotionally or physically. You're the one that enables him to drink and do drugs and pay for online gaming. You're the one that lets him live there for free.





If you don't like your situation, you're the one that has to change it.
Sounds like you're better off without him. Kick him out.
Why did you love him and decide to have kids with him in the first place? Stop paying his bills, giving him money, and if he doesn't pay his share, kick him out of the house as a bad tenant. Feel lucky that you never married him, no painful and expensive divorce.
Wow, well, I think the first thing that comes to mind is:


GET A DIVORCE


I know it's harder to do it than to say it, but some people need to hit rock bottom to realize what they have lost...


Maybe you want to consider getting him into rehab, he needs to want to go there, if you can't convince him you can do it by force, it all depends where you live but in Mexico it is not illegal to MAKE people go by force, they can go pick him up between 4 or 5 guys and don't let him out of the center for 3 months, it is a lot cheaper over there and there's people from all over, you just need to plan a vacation to Mexico and have them pick him up, if you don't want to help him then just dump him!
OK. What? First, it would have been wise to not have kids unmarried, but that aside, what is the question?





Does she think she or her kids will be better off with no dad rather than a substandard dad?





She has made a mistake too many people make thinking they don't HAVE to commit. So they aren't willing to commit to marriage, but they have kids...brilliant. And now they realize the enormous gravity of the mistake, and wonder what to do.





They screwed up. Period. Now she has to stick it out till the kids turn 18/leave the house/graduate high school. No matter how usless this guy is he is 100x better than having no dad at all.





Unless and until he becomes abusive, she is stcuk for her kids sake.





As far as the guy being lazy, this is where her NOT being married might help. If he doesn't work she can withhold cash for toys and fun. And she should. If the guy has a problem with it let me know I'll straighten his loser **** out for her.