I try to compare a married woman's life with mine but it's just not the same I feel whenever I want advice about what to do with my relationship. I'm not 33 and I'm not going to pretend like I am. Is there anybody that can refer me to something that helps young adults with relationship advice?Are there any websites, books, or magazines out there for young adults in dating/relationship advice?
not that i can think of, but the good thing about a relationship is you can make it up as you go along....
you don't need to have someone else keeping your relationship alive, believe in yourself....
good luckAre there any websites, books, or magazines out there for young adults in dating/relationship advice?
There is alot of different pages on relationships here.I think you can see them all from this one page.But I have personally been there and to the blog.Some interesting stuff.
cosmopolitan.com
cosmogirl.com
seventeen.com
You should read the book 'Not all the good ones are taken'
Yessssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!! It's called cosmopolitan!
it has all the tips and tricks on how to get oyur man happy,
Monday, August 23, 2010
Can a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
please no one younger than 18Can a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
sure im meCan a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
whats the problem?
Post your problem here -- ???helloooooo
I can try
Sure I can try to help. IM me!
what is your question?
your willing to take advice from someone that says they are a female over 18 by a screenname? my god, half the people on this thing aren't who they say they are. isn't that why everyone alters their name?
sure im meCan a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
whats the problem?
Post your problem here -- ???helloooooo
I can try
Sure I can try to help. IM me!
what is your question?
your willing to take advice from someone that says they are a female over 18 by a screenname? my god, half the people on this thing aren't who they say they are. isn't that why everyone alters their name?
I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
I'm only in 7th grade at Liberty Middle School, but there is this girl, Caitlin, and every time I am around her, I get this really weird/good feeling in my chest, and my stomach, even in my head. We have gone out on and off several times, and broken up every time for unknown reasons. Now we are okay friends, but I really want to be more than friends. But I don't know how she feels. Every time I try to talk about us, she sort of changes the subject, but I don't want to antagonize her about it, so I just let that happen. The first time we went out, my friend hooked us up on sort of a blind-date. And she really liked me, but I knew absolutely nothing about her other than her name, Caitlin Nunn, and after about a week, I broke up with her because we never spent any time together but walking to school. After that we became really really good friends, and I went out with this girl Paige for like 3 months, then we broke up. And it was really obvious that Caitlin liked me again, and I liked her, more so than the first time, so I asked her out again, and she said yes. Every thing went flawlessly for about 2 months, we went on frequent dates, we went to parties, and birthdays together, we went to sleep-over-ish parties together, and we even slept together like 3 times (NOT SEX), we cuddled a lot, we did everything together, and then one day after school I came up behind her and kissed her, and said hey. Then she turned to look at me and gave me a kind of...feel bad face, I guess, and I knew that face, and I slowly said, are you going to break up with me? and she frowned and nodded yes slowly. So I said can we still be friends, and she smiled slightly and said yes.
So we hugged, and sat down, ready to go outside during the YMCA after school program. Next couple weeks were horrible, due to the fact that I still really really liked her, and I wasn't sure about her feelings. Then one day I went out on a limb and asked her out suddenly while at the YMCA after a game of kick ball with my friends. She said yes.
We went out for 3 days before she broke up with me again. That was about 3 months ago. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, she told me she liked me again, and if it led somewhere, she didn't want it to be weird between us in any way. But apparently her feelings for me passed again, and she told me we could be friends. And now, she gives me a look every now and then, that makes me feel like she may have feelings for me again, but I don't want to get to hopeful, so I try and try and try to ignore it. But every time I see her, and every time I talk to her, I get an amazing feeling inside of me, and I just want to hold her, and never let go. I think she likes me again, but I am not entirely sure. She still gives me that look every day or two. And I want her to like me, but I don't know what to do.
Please help me?
And please nobody say ';Love isn't possible in middle school'; or, ';forget love, and do your homework or something';I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
i'm not going to say that you're too young to be in love because you've already pointed out that you don't want to hear that so this is what i'm going to say:
from like 4th grade-8th grade i really liked this guy who happened to be my best friend...well, my best friend from like 4th-7th grade. in 8th grade somehow, though remaining friends we weren't nearly as close. i didn't know why, but for some reason i assumed it was his fault. i came up with all of these ways to tell him that i wanted to be friends again and that it was weird how he was drifting away. then one day i realized it was my fault. because i liked him (and i never told him or anyone) i had kind of begun to pull away from him. i was nervous to call him or hang out alone and that was why we weren't the good friends we used to be. when i graduated high school, i found out that he had liked me in 7th grade.
i know that sounds like it has nothing to do with your situation, but basically what i'm trying to say is you have to say what you need to say because you never know what people are thinking, and if you don't say it, it might never be said.
and sorry, but i have to add this. you may now think that it's love, but in not too long,you will realize what you're feeling in 7th grade does not possibly compare what love really is.I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
Sorry dude ive felt that way but its physically impossible at the age your at.its just infatuation and lust.
i know this will .. kinda be a chest-feeling stopper,
and thanks by the way for letting me know where GUYS get that feeling,
but this is not love.
it can, howEVER, easily turn into love. if she ended up liking u that way back and she ended up spending much much time with u and knowing u better than ANYONE has or does, then it will be love. but only if that happens.
i have experienced love before,
altho i cannot show it and i cannot express it,
and i have also experienced that feeling that ur getting (altho in girls it occurs just above our *****) and it means that u just have strong affection to her and strong passion. that makes the love u might have sometime for her a lot more passionate, long lasting, and good
its basicly a before-love feeling that comes on and sometimes leaves later on.
i mean, even if u did love her, that feeling may leave even if u love her forever
love can leave too. u can love someone and later on only like them and still have affection for them.
love is like a care for someone.
NO, i am not talking about the care that u tell urself u have for her,
im talkin bout the care u dont even KNOW u have for her. like when she gets in a big bad sitch and u feel like crying even tho shes fine.
love is when u know her better than all her friends know her, and u know things that others dont even nearly UNDERSTAND about her.
love is possible in middle skool, its just rare. love is often mistaken for like, and want. love is more than like, and want, and everything. its awesome. its the light of life. its the most cherished emotion that God made so, according to most.
u should never forget love and put homework in front of it, altho if it isnt real, then u should of course forget about the mistake u have made by forgetting everything else thats important too.
i could never even TELL u (it has to be experienced) how hard it really is to sit there and think about how uve thought u loved someone that u didnt. i mean, u may stay up day and night thinkin bout her and thinkin bout touchin her, or anything, but that dont always mean that u love her. it just means that she is on ur mind.
just cuz shes on ur mind dont mean u love her.
expressing love has better rewards than hiding it tho.
So we hugged, and sat down, ready to go outside during the YMCA after school program. Next couple weeks were horrible, due to the fact that I still really really liked her, and I wasn't sure about her feelings. Then one day I went out on a limb and asked her out suddenly while at the YMCA after a game of kick ball with my friends. She said yes.
We went out for 3 days before she broke up with me again. That was about 3 months ago. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, she told me she liked me again, and if it led somewhere, she didn't want it to be weird between us in any way. But apparently her feelings for me passed again, and she told me we could be friends. And now, she gives me a look every now and then, that makes me feel like she may have feelings for me again, but I don't want to get to hopeful, so I try and try and try to ignore it. But every time I see her, and every time I talk to her, I get an amazing feeling inside of me, and I just want to hold her, and never let go. I think she likes me again, but I am not entirely sure. She still gives me that look every day or two. And I want her to like me, but I don't know what to do.
Please help me?
And please nobody say ';Love isn't possible in middle school'; or, ';forget love, and do your homework or something';I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
i'm not going to say that you're too young to be in love because you've already pointed out that you don't want to hear that so this is what i'm going to say:
from like 4th grade-8th grade i really liked this guy who happened to be my best friend...well, my best friend from like 4th-7th grade. in 8th grade somehow, though remaining friends we weren't nearly as close. i didn't know why, but for some reason i assumed it was his fault. i came up with all of these ways to tell him that i wanted to be friends again and that it was weird how he was drifting away. then one day i realized it was my fault. because i liked him (and i never told him or anyone) i had kind of begun to pull away from him. i was nervous to call him or hang out alone and that was why we weren't the good friends we used to be. when i graduated high school, i found out that he had liked me in 7th grade.
i know that sounds like it has nothing to do with your situation, but basically what i'm trying to say is you have to say what you need to say because you never know what people are thinking, and if you don't say it, it might never be said.
and sorry, but i have to add this. you may now think that it's love, but in not too long,you will realize what you're feeling in 7th grade does not possibly compare what love really is.I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
Sorry dude ive felt that way but its physically impossible at the age your at.its just infatuation and lust.
i know this will .. kinda be a chest-feeling stopper,
and thanks by the way for letting me know where GUYS get that feeling,
but this is not love.
it can, howEVER, easily turn into love. if she ended up liking u that way back and she ended up spending much much time with u and knowing u better than ANYONE has or does, then it will be love. but only if that happens.
i have experienced love before,
altho i cannot show it and i cannot express it,
and i have also experienced that feeling that ur getting (altho in girls it occurs just above our *****) and it means that u just have strong affection to her and strong passion. that makes the love u might have sometime for her a lot more passionate, long lasting, and good
its basicly a before-love feeling that comes on and sometimes leaves later on.
i mean, even if u did love her, that feeling may leave even if u love her forever
love can leave too. u can love someone and later on only like them and still have affection for them.
love is like a care for someone.
NO, i am not talking about the care that u tell urself u have for her,
im talkin bout the care u dont even KNOW u have for her. like when she gets in a big bad sitch and u feel like crying even tho shes fine.
love is when u know her better than all her friends know her, and u know things that others dont even nearly UNDERSTAND about her.
love is possible in middle skool, its just rare. love is often mistaken for like, and want. love is more than like, and want, and everything. its awesome. its the light of life. its the most cherished emotion that God made so, according to most.
u should never forget love and put homework in front of it, altho if it isnt real, then u should of course forget about the mistake u have made by forgetting everything else thats important too.
i could never even TELL u (it has to be experienced) how hard it really is to sit there and think about how uve thought u loved someone that u didnt. i mean, u may stay up day and night thinkin bout her and thinkin bout touchin her, or anything, but that dont always mean that u love her. it just means that she is on ur mind.
just cuz shes on ur mind dont mean u love her.
expressing love has better rewards than hiding it tho.
Im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?={?
im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?i loves him so much that even him cannot imagine.and he does loves me too.but now,im so torn apart because of this relationship thingy.i miss him so much...and itll be months since i can see him again...Im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?={?
me and tons of my friends have been in long distance relationships and only one has worked. how long is the distance and how long have yall been together? if it's not that far then youll be ok. but if yall are just starting to date, then i'd call it quits because there will be tons of trust issues. sorry. and good luck!
me and tons of my friends have been in long distance relationships and only one has worked. how long is the distance and how long have yall been together? if it's not that far then youll be ok. but if yall are just starting to date, then i'd call it quits because there will be tons of trust issues. sorry. and good luck!
Can a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
please no one younger than 18Can a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
sure im meCan a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
whats the problem?
Post your problem here -- ???helloooooo
I can try
Sure I can try to help. IM me!
what is your question?
your willing to take advice from someone that says they are a female over 18 by a screenname? my god, half the people on this thing aren't who they say they are. isn't that why everyone alters their name?rimmel
sure im meCan a female who has yahoomessenger give me advice on my relationship?
whats the problem?
Post your problem here -- ???helloooooo
I can try
Sure I can try to help. IM me!
what is your question?
your willing to take advice from someone that says they are a female over 18 by a screenname? my god, half the people on this thing aren't who they say they are. isn't that why everyone alters their name?
I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
I'm only in 7th grade at Liberty Middle School, but there is this girl, Caitlin, and every time I am around her, I get this really weird/good feeling in my chest, and my stomach, even in my head. We have gone out on and off several times, and broken up every time for unknown reasons. Now we are okay friends, but I really want to be more than friends. But I don't know how she feels. Every time I try to talk about us, she sort of changes the subject, but I don't want to antagonize her about it, so I just let that happen. The first time we went out, my friend hooked us up on sort of a blind-date. And she really liked me, but I knew absolutely nothing about her other than her name, Caitlin Nunn, and after about a week, I broke up with her because we never spent any time together but walking to school. After that we became really really good friends, and I went out with this girl Paige for like 3 months, then we broke up. And it was really obvious that Caitlin liked me again, and I liked her, more so than the first time, so I asked her out again, and she said yes. Every thing went flawlessly for about 2 months, we went on frequent dates, we went to parties, and birthdays together, we went to sleep-over-ish parties together, and we even slept together like 3 times (NOT SEX), we cuddled a lot, we did everything together, and then one day after school I came up behind her and kissed her, and said hey. Then she turned to look at me and gave me a kind of...feel bad face, I guess, and I knew that face, and I slowly said, are you going to break up with me? and she frowned and nodded yes slowly. So I said can we still be friends, and she smiled slightly and said yes.
So we hugged, and sat down, ready to go outside during the YMCA after school program. Next couple weeks were horrible, due to the fact that I still really really liked her, and I wasn't sure about her feelings. Then one day I went out on a limb and asked her out suddenly while at the YMCA after a game of kick ball with my friends. She said yes.
We went out for 3 days before she broke up with me again. That was about 3 months ago. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, she told me she liked me again, and if it led somewhere, she didn't want it to be weird between us in any way. But apparently her feelings for me passed again, and she told me we could be friends. And now, she gives me a look every now and then, that makes me feel like she may have feelings for me again, but I don't want to get to hopeful, so I try and try and try to ignore it. But every time I see her, and every time I talk to her, I get an amazing feeling inside of me, and I just want to hold her, and never let go. I think she likes me again, but I am not entirely sure. She still gives me that look every day or two. And I want her to like me, but I don't know what to do.
Please help me?
And please nobody say ';Love isn't possible in middle school'; or, ';forget love, and do your homework or something';I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
i'm not going to say that you're too young to be in love because you've already pointed out that you don't want to hear that so this is what i'm going to say:
from like 4th grade-8th grade i really liked this guy who happened to be my best friend...well, my best friend from like 4th-7th grade. in 8th grade somehow, though remaining friends we weren't nearly as close. i didn't know why, but for some reason i assumed it was his fault. i came up with all of these ways to tell him that i wanted to be friends again and that it was weird how he was drifting away. then one day i realized it was my fault. because i liked him (and i never told him or anyone) i had kind of begun to pull away from him. i was nervous to call him or hang out alone and that was why we weren't the good friends we used to be. when i graduated high school, i found out that he had liked me in 7th grade.
i know that sounds like it has nothing to do with your situation, but basically what i'm trying to say is you have to say what you need to say because you never know what people are thinking, and if you don't say it, it might never be said.
and sorry, but i have to add this. you may now think that it's love, but in not too long,you will realize what you're feeling in 7th grade does not possibly compare what love really is.I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
Sorry dude ive felt that way but its physically impossible at the age your at.its just infatuation and lust.
i know this will .. kinda be a chest-feeling stopper,
and thanks by the way for letting me know where GUYS get that feeling,
but this is not love.
it can, howEVER, easily turn into love. if she ended up liking u that way back and she ended up spending much much time with u and knowing u better than ANYONE has or does, then it will be love. but only if that happens.
i have experienced love before,
altho i cannot show it and i cannot express it,
and i have also experienced that feeling that ur getting (altho in girls it occurs just above our *****) and it means that u just have strong affection to her and strong passion. that makes the love u might have sometime for her a lot more passionate, long lasting, and good
its basicly a before-love feeling that comes on and sometimes leaves later on.
i mean, even if u did love her, that feeling may leave even if u love her forever
love can leave too. u can love someone and later on only like them and still have affection for them.
love is like a care for someone.
NO, i am not talking about the care that u tell urself u have for her,
im talkin bout the care u dont even KNOW u have for her. like when she gets in a big bad sitch and u feel like crying even tho shes fine.
love is when u know her better than all her friends know her, and u know things that others dont even nearly UNDERSTAND about her.
love is possible in middle skool, its just rare. love is often mistaken for like, and want. love is more than like, and want, and everything. its awesome. its the light of life. its the most cherished emotion that God made so, according to most.
u should never forget love and put homework in front of it, altho if it isnt real, then u should of course forget about the mistake u have made by forgetting everything else thats important too.
i could never even TELL u (it has to be experienced) how hard it really is to sit there and think about how uve thought u loved someone that u didnt. i mean, u may stay up day and night thinkin bout her and thinkin bout touchin her, or anything, but that dont always mean that u love her. it just means that she is on ur mind.
just cuz shes on ur mind dont mean u love her.
expressing love has better rewards than hiding it tho.
So we hugged, and sat down, ready to go outside during the YMCA after school program. Next couple weeks were horrible, due to the fact that I still really really liked her, and I wasn't sure about her feelings. Then one day I went out on a limb and asked her out suddenly while at the YMCA after a game of kick ball with my friends. She said yes.
We went out for 3 days before she broke up with me again. That was about 3 months ago. About 2 or 3 weeks ago, she told me she liked me again, and if it led somewhere, she didn't want it to be weird between us in any way. But apparently her feelings for me passed again, and she told me we could be friends. And now, she gives me a look every now and then, that makes me feel like she may have feelings for me again, but I don't want to get to hopeful, so I try and try and try to ignore it. But every time I see her, and every time I talk to her, I get an amazing feeling inside of me, and I just want to hold her, and never let go. I think she likes me again, but I am not entirely sure. She still gives me that look every day or two. And I want her to like me, but I don't know what to do.
Please help me?
And please nobody say ';Love isn't possible in middle school'; or, ';forget love, and do your homework or something';I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
i'm not going to say that you're too young to be in love because you've already pointed out that you don't want to hear that so this is what i'm going to say:
from like 4th grade-8th grade i really liked this guy who happened to be my best friend...well, my best friend from like 4th-7th grade. in 8th grade somehow, though remaining friends we weren't nearly as close. i didn't know why, but for some reason i assumed it was his fault. i came up with all of these ways to tell him that i wanted to be friends again and that it was weird how he was drifting away. then one day i realized it was my fault. because i liked him (and i never told him or anyone) i had kind of begun to pull away from him. i was nervous to call him or hang out alone and that was why we weren't the good friends we used to be. when i graduated high school, i found out that he had liked me in 7th grade.
i know that sounds like it has nothing to do with your situation, but basically what i'm trying to say is you have to say what you need to say because you never know what people are thinking, and if you don't say it, it might never be said.
and sorry, but i have to add this. you may now think that it's love, but in not too long,you will realize what you're feeling in 7th grade does not possibly compare what love really is.I'm in middle school, but I think I am in love, I need relationship advice.?
Sorry dude ive felt that way but its physically impossible at the age your at.its just infatuation and lust.
i know this will .. kinda be a chest-feeling stopper,
and thanks by the way for letting me know where GUYS get that feeling,
but this is not love.
it can, howEVER, easily turn into love. if she ended up liking u that way back and she ended up spending much much time with u and knowing u better than ANYONE has or does, then it will be love. but only if that happens.
i have experienced love before,
altho i cannot show it and i cannot express it,
and i have also experienced that feeling that ur getting (altho in girls it occurs just above our *****) and it means that u just have strong affection to her and strong passion. that makes the love u might have sometime for her a lot more passionate, long lasting, and good
its basicly a before-love feeling that comes on and sometimes leaves later on.
i mean, even if u did love her, that feeling may leave even if u love her forever
love can leave too. u can love someone and later on only like them and still have affection for them.
love is like a care for someone.
NO, i am not talking about the care that u tell urself u have for her,
im talkin bout the care u dont even KNOW u have for her. like when she gets in a big bad sitch and u feel like crying even tho shes fine.
love is when u know her better than all her friends know her, and u know things that others dont even nearly UNDERSTAND about her.
love is possible in middle skool, its just rare. love is often mistaken for like, and want. love is more than like, and want, and everything. its awesome. its the light of life. its the most cherished emotion that God made so, according to most.
u should never forget love and put homework in front of it, altho if it isnt real, then u should of course forget about the mistake u have made by forgetting everything else thats important too.
i could never even TELL u (it has to be experienced) how hard it really is to sit there and think about how uve thought u loved someone that u didnt. i mean, u may stay up day and night thinkin bout her and thinkin bout touchin her, or anything, but that dont always mean that u love her. it just means that she is on ur mind.
just cuz shes on ur mind dont mean u love her.
expressing love has better rewards than hiding it tho.
Im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?={?
im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?i loves him so much that even him cannot imagine.and he does loves me too.but now,im so torn apart because of this relationship thingy.i miss him so much...and itll be months since i can see him again...Im in the centre of a long-distance relationship.please advice me what works to make it work?={?
me and tons of my friends have been in long distance relationships and only one has worked. how long is the distance and how long have yall been together? if it's not that far then youll be ok. but if yall are just starting to date, then i'd call it quits because there will be tons of trust issues. sorry. and good luck!
me and tons of my friends have been in long distance relationships and only one has worked. how long is the distance and how long have yall been together? if it's not that far then youll be ok. but if yall are just starting to date, then i'd call it quits because there will be tons of trust issues. sorry. and good luck!
I've become the pyscho gf i never wanted to be.. i need some relationship advice?
So basically my boyfriend and I(19 and 21), on and off for about 3 years, are long distance until may. we're about 1000 miles away so its very difficult. on top of that we've had so many problems between his drug addiction and lying, and me just not getting the healthy relationship i know i'm worth. i've been there for him through all of his b.s and dont get the respect i deserve in return. but in addition- not everything is my fault. because the past year has stressed me out so much i've become the most insecure person ever- and i never used to be that way i've always thought i was a great catch! its caused me to panick and pick fights with him all of the time and always burst into tears- i could imagine why he wouldnt want to talk to me sometimes now. yesterday when i didn't hear from him all afternoon and night and none of today, and i completely had a nervous break down and did the whole text message harrassment and calling hundreds of times. his phone had broke and when i finally did get ahold of him i completeeely broke down balling- on top of him now getting the like 50 texts and messages i left. i dont know what's happened to me- i've never ever been like this in a relationship before- ive literally turned into a psycopath. after i finally talked to him and made a pathetic scene i just hung up and just stopped. i know how horrible ive made myself look. my question is there any way to fix this situation whatsoever. i dont mean getting back together- but at least helping it a little. i just called him a little while ago to appologize and shortly explain myself but when i ended it with ';i think the only way i wont be like this is if i find someone that likes me as much as i like them'; he basically just hung up on me. should i just leave it now? i'm going home in 2 weeks for a couple of weeks should i at least give it until then?I've become the pyscho gf i never wanted to be.. i need some relationship advice?
I think that relationship is affecting you more than doing you any good. In my personal opinion, best would be to leave it all behind and try to first, acquire some self-confidence, self-esteem, and logic.
First be happy with yourself, love yourself and feel sane and alright, then you can start dating.
It'd be so much better to you if you ended that, really, it won't do you much good and it'll just block you from finding any new possibilities in the future.
Good luck.I've become the pyscho gf i never wanted to be.. i need some relationship advice?
There's a concept I would have thought you learned in high school called ';white space.'; It means break up your narrative into paragraphs and bullets where necessary. It makes it legible. I'm sorry, you use no caps, you have no paragraphs or other white space. Your question is effectively illegible.
DONT STOP BELIEVING, HOLD ON TO THAT FEELING!
say your sorry
Wow... brutal truth... its not going to work out! I am really sorry but your insecurities in this particular relationship will never go away. Also, even though you may have not known that you had these insecurities, the posibilities of you taking this to the next relationship is a very high posibility. Take your time... you need some space (a break) from this relationship. Focus on yourself right now. I know you have the fear of him being with someone else because of all the drama that has been going on lately, but if he really loves you, he's going to wait for you.
Good luck!
No. You've wasted enough time with this space cadet. End it now, and don't look back anymore.
No-one needs that kind of horrible co-dependent nonsense .... don't date any one particular person for a while, you need a break from the emotional upheaval, love.
I think that relationship is affecting you more than doing you any good. In my personal opinion, best would be to leave it all behind and try to first, acquire some self-confidence, self-esteem, and logic.
First be happy with yourself, love yourself and feel sane and alright, then you can start dating.
It'd be so much better to you if you ended that, really, it won't do you much good and it'll just block you from finding any new possibilities in the future.
Good luck.I've become the pyscho gf i never wanted to be.. i need some relationship advice?
There's a concept I would have thought you learned in high school called ';white space.'; It means break up your narrative into paragraphs and bullets where necessary. It makes it legible. I'm sorry, you use no caps, you have no paragraphs or other white space. Your question is effectively illegible.
DONT STOP BELIEVING, HOLD ON TO THAT FEELING!
say your sorry
Wow... brutal truth... its not going to work out! I am really sorry but your insecurities in this particular relationship will never go away. Also, even though you may have not known that you had these insecurities, the posibilities of you taking this to the next relationship is a very high posibility. Take your time... you need some space (a break) from this relationship. Focus on yourself right now. I know you have the fear of him being with someone else because of all the drama that has been going on lately, but if he really loves you, he's going to wait for you.
Good luck!
No. You've wasted enough time with this space cadet. End it now, and don't look back anymore.
No-one needs that kind of horrible co-dependent nonsense .... don't date any one particular person for a while, you need a break from the emotional upheaval, love.
I am ';hanging out'; with a girl on saturday and i wanna relationship, any advice people? besides be myself lol?
Be confident in yourself and what you're hoping for. The entire idea behind 'be yourself' is retarded; you need to 'Be your best qualities'. Yeah that would be a better statement.
Be polite, open doors for her, etc.
Maybe bring a small present. Nothing -serious- though.
No matter who else is around, treat her right no matter what.I am ';hanging out'; with a girl on saturday and i wanna relationship, any advice people? besides be myself lol?
after hanging out with her just say to her ';i really enjoyed myself today, and i really like you... so i was just wondering if you wanted to go out with me'; its as simple as that, and make sure you ask before you go your separate way or any time when the mood is right that way it wont be awkward if she says ';no';
OH! and be sure to hint that you like her while your hanging out so maybe she'll pick up on it
GOOD LUCK =)I am ';hanging out'; with a girl on saturday and i wanna relationship, any advice people? besides be myself lol?
Have an awesome time. Make sure she has an awesome time.
Don't be tooo over the top feely or flirty.
When it comes time to part, then ask her if she would be interested in going out sometime. Word it in a way that she knows you mean a date. If she had an awesome time, she should say yes, and you two can start dating.
(In regards to the first response- careful with that. A lot of women, myself included, would be insulted and grossed out if a guy called me ';hun'; or ';honey';)
is it this saturday or every saturday? if every saturday, be cool don't press it. you may begin to spend other time than saturdays. if you mean you'll meet her just this saturday, see how things go, ask her what she's doing sunday and if you are both free, come up with an idea of something to do. a matinee would be good on sunday to not be out late before school or work. if she goes for it, maybe she wants more of a relationship! good luck... and be yourself.
Just hang out with her, dude. Don't worry about it, and see where it goes. One of the most important things I've learned about dating is that I don't want a girl I have to bend over backwards to impress. Maybe try asking her, at the end of the date, if she wants to go out again, so you can find out if she's interested too.
STICK IT IN HER POOPER!!!!!!
No but seriously, you should probably slowly go into a relationship by giving her hints such as getting close to her, flirting, etc. Then once you build a nice, healthy relationship, follow the former advice. :)
are you hanging out with this girl because you like her or just because you want to have a relationship. if it's the former, then tell her how you feel. good luck!!!
Progressively push the envelope. Call her hun or honey and see how she takes it. Maybe place a hand on her shoulder. That should push the boundaries far enough to ask her out.
Good luck, comrade!
first, be yourself, cause if all else fails, then you
are screwed. but takes things slowly and let nature
take its course.
if want to be with her then when you meet her tell her how you feel. Girls love to hear that boys like them it makes them feel good
then ur in a relationship, or rather a first date. U should know,cuz most girls don't ask, so therefor u must have right?
you might want to flirt with her a little bit if you do want your relationship with her to go somewhere :)
Give hints or just ask her out right. And be yourself :D
wear a cool hat. something from the 80's like with a poofball on it or something
The naked man.
I hope this helps!!
Be polite, open doors for her, etc.
Maybe bring a small present. Nothing -serious- though.
No matter who else is around, treat her right no matter what.I am ';hanging out'; with a girl on saturday and i wanna relationship, any advice people? besides be myself lol?
after hanging out with her just say to her ';i really enjoyed myself today, and i really like you... so i was just wondering if you wanted to go out with me'; its as simple as that, and make sure you ask before you go your separate way or any time when the mood is right that way it wont be awkward if she says ';no';
OH! and be sure to hint that you like her while your hanging out so maybe she'll pick up on it
GOOD LUCK =)I am ';hanging out'; with a girl on saturday and i wanna relationship, any advice people? besides be myself lol?
Have an awesome time. Make sure she has an awesome time.
Don't be tooo over the top feely or flirty.
When it comes time to part, then ask her if she would be interested in going out sometime. Word it in a way that she knows you mean a date. If she had an awesome time, she should say yes, and you two can start dating.
(In regards to the first response- careful with that. A lot of women, myself included, would be insulted and grossed out if a guy called me ';hun'; or ';honey';)
is it this saturday or every saturday? if every saturday, be cool don't press it. you may begin to spend other time than saturdays. if you mean you'll meet her just this saturday, see how things go, ask her what she's doing sunday and if you are both free, come up with an idea of something to do. a matinee would be good on sunday to not be out late before school or work. if she goes for it, maybe she wants more of a relationship! good luck... and be yourself.
Just hang out with her, dude. Don't worry about it, and see where it goes. One of the most important things I've learned about dating is that I don't want a girl I have to bend over backwards to impress. Maybe try asking her, at the end of the date, if she wants to go out again, so you can find out if she's interested too.
STICK IT IN HER POOPER!!!!!!
No but seriously, you should probably slowly go into a relationship by giving her hints such as getting close to her, flirting, etc. Then once you build a nice, healthy relationship, follow the former advice. :)
are you hanging out with this girl because you like her or just because you want to have a relationship. if it's the former, then tell her how you feel. good luck!!!
Progressively push the envelope. Call her hun or honey and see how she takes it. Maybe place a hand on her shoulder. That should push the boundaries far enough to ask her out.
Good luck, comrade!
first, be yourself, cause if all else fails, then you
are screwed. but takes things slowly and let nature
take its course.
if want to be with her then when you meet her tell her how you feel. Girls love to hear that boys like them it makes them feel good
then ur in a relationship, or rather a first date. U should know,cuz most girls don't ask, so therefor u must have right?
you might want to flirt with her a little bit if you do want your relationship with her to go somewhere :)
Give hints or just ask her out right. And be yourself :D
wear a cool hat. something from the 80's like with a poofball on it or something
The naked man.
I hope this helps!!
DONT YOU GUYS HATE HOW LITTLE 6-7th graders come here & ask about relationship advice?
Seriously, when i was in the 6th grade, i still had the thought of ';Girls are better then boysss'; and whatever. I didnt even KNOW what the idea of 'dating' was. I am 18 years old and i still havnt had a boyfriend. and it makes me sickkk to see little kids from the age of 11 who have bf/gf or are asking for help on how to get a boy to like them or to flirt....ive even ran into some questions that had to do with 'sex' seriiously wtfff?? Enjoy being a kid, you have lots of time to date around and have boyfriends and makeout and have sex and whatever when your much muchhh older. Enjoy your childhood seriously wow whats the rushhh?? WHO AGREES WITH MEEE??DONT YOU GUYS HATE HOW LITTLE 6-7th graders come here %26amp; ask about relationship advice?
OMG you're my favorite person today. hahahah i was totally just talking about this with one of my friends, we were like what? girlfriends? boyfriends?
when i was that old my best friend was a guy, and those kind of thoughts never even crossed my mind. sure, there were those kids that thought they were cool because they were like ';together'; but it's really, what do you do? you don't drive. you don't have a job. what are you going to do? haha you know? hahaha
haha i mean, i wouldn't go back to junior high if you paid me, because it was kind of horrible. lol. and it's only worse now-kids are mean and cruel, and apparently, they think it's important to have a bf/gf. it's ridiculous. i'm 17 and haven't had a boyfriend either. sure, i've dated a couple of ppl, but like, what's the rush? it's not like i want to get married anytime soon.
hahahaa. so yes. i totally agree with you.
=]DONT YOU GUYS HATE HOW LITTLE 6-7th graders come here %26amp; ask about relationship advice?
Actually I wish there had been more resources like the Internet, chats, blogs, etc. when I was in 6th or 7th grade. Of course not everything posted is appropriate for someone of that age %26amp; not all the info on the Internet is reliable, but I applaud anyone trying to utlize resources that are available to them!
It really annoys me, but i was exactly the same. I have liked guys since I was like in pre-school and so has everyone in my school. I never actually had a bf tho. I just thought they were hot. Also, I never cared about impressing a guy that young. Hopefully you don't think of me as a little kid. I'm 13 almost 14, but act 18.
i agree with you.
i hate seeing middle schoolers with caked make-up and boyfriends.
like wth, wait until you're fully developed or something.
i agree but there stupid questions build my points so i could move up another level
OMG you're my favorite person today. hahahah i was totally just talking about this with one of my friends, we were like what? girlfriends? boyfriends?
when i was that old my best friend was a guy, and those kind of thoughts never even crossed my mind. sure, there were those kids that thought they were cool because they were like ';together'; but it's really, what do you do? you don't drive. you don't have a job. what are you going to do? haha you know? hahaha
haha i mean, i wouldn't go back to junior high if you paid me, because it was kind of horrible. lol. and it's only worse now-kids are mean and cruel, and apparently, they think it's important to have a bf/gf. it's ridiculous. i'm 17 and haven't had a boyfriend either. sure, i've dated a couple of ppl, but like, what's the rush? it's not like i want to get married anytime soon.
hahahaa. so yes. i totally agree with you.
=]DONT YOU GUYS HATE HOW LITTLE 6-7th graders come here %26amp; ask about relationship advice?
Actually I wish there had been more resources like the Internet, chats, blogs, etc. when I was in 6th or 7th grade. Of course not everything posted is appropriate for someone of that age %26amp; not all the info on the Internet is reliable, but I applaud anyone trying to utlize resources that are available to them!
It really annoys me, but i was exactly the same. I have liked guys since I was like in pre-school and so has everyone in my school. I never actually had a bf tho. I just thought they were hot. Also, I never cared about impressing a guy that young. Hopefully you don't think of me as a little kid. I'm 13 almost 14, but act 18.
i agree with you.
i hate seeing middle schoolers with caked make-up and boyfriends.
like wth, wait until you're fully developed or something.
i agree but there stupid questions build my points so i could move up another level
Am i doing the wrong thing? where should i go from here? single-relationship advice please?
So lately i've been trying to get back on the dating scene since i my ex dumped me for another girl a few months ago now.
Now we were together for a while, so im rusty on the dating situations....
Ive been chatting and catching up with one guy (lets call him guy 1) and he is a sweetie. and we talk a lot, but were both busy with work so we have only been on about 3 dates. I dont know if his too interested, cause he hasn't asked to hang out again... so im not to sure where thats going. should i ask to catch up again and ask when his few or??
guy 2, i just met him 2 weeks ago, and his lovely, i've been on only one date with him. but again were very busy and its hard to find time. anyways his lovely. but doesnt know im talking to the guy 1. should he know? should i see this one? he lives a bit further away, but is very nice, funny and smart.
what should i do? should i keep talking to both of them? am i leading them on? please any advice will helpAm i doing the wrong thing? where should i go from here? single-relationship advice please?
Personally think you should go with guy one. Just had a good vibe when I read it. And no, guy two doesnt need to know about guy one. Your not commited at all so have fun. And you should text or call him to organise something. I bet he's waiting round to hear from you. He's made the effort the first few times and now he wants to see if hes efforts will pay off.
Contact him! Least then ull know and you always have guy two in the background if needed.eye look
Now we were together for a while, so im rusty on the dating situations....
Ive been chatting and catching up with one guy (lets call him guy 1) and he is a sweetie. and we talk a lot, but were both busy with work so we have only been on about 3 dates. I dont know if his too interested, cause he hasn't asked to hang out again... so im not to sure where thats going. should i ask to catch up again and ask when his few or??
guy 2, i just met him 2 weeks ago, and his lovely, i've been on only one date with him. but again were very busy and its hard to find time. anyways his lovely. but doesnt know im talking to the guy 1. should he know? should i see this one? he lives a bit further away, but is very nice, funny and smart.
what should i do? should i keep talking to both of them? am i leading them on? please any advice will helpAm i doing the wrong thing? where should i go from here? single-relationship advice please?
Personally think you should go with guy one. Just had a good vibe when I read it. And no, guy two doesnt need to know about guy one. Your not commited at all so have fun. And you should text or call him to organise something. I bet he's waiting round to hear from you. He's made the effort the first few times and now he wants to see if hes efforts will pay off.
Contact him! Least then ull know and you always have guy two in the background if needed.
Put yourself in my shoes.. What would you do in my situation. (COLLEGE/ RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!)?
I'm 17 and live in Miami. I just got accepted into a university that has campuses here in Miami, North Carolina, Rhode Island, and Colorado. I even got a scholarship.
Going out of state for college would be amazing. It'll be a great experience.
BUT..
I really don't want to leave my boyfriend behind. I feel like we have something true, and i don't want lose that. I know I may sound childish, and stupid. But honestly, put yourself in my shoes. Would you leave someone special behind for about four years? Only seeing them probably once a month? What should i do?Put yourself in my shoes.. What would you do in my situation. (COLLEGE/ RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!)?
wow... thats a tough one.. but you never know because the way i see it is that if a really good door opened for you, then you should go for it. I mean, its for your good you can still talk to your BF and he might end up moving with you later... myself, i would do it, and keep contact with my GF
Going out of state for college would be amazing. It'll be a great experience.
BUT..
I really don't want to leave my boyfriend behind. I feel like we have something true, and i don't want lose that. I know I may sound childish, and stupid. But honestly, put yourself in my shoes. Would you leave someone special behind for about four years? Only seeing them probably once a month? What should i do?Put yourself in my shoes.. What would you do in my situation. (COLLEGE/ RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!)?
wow... thats a tough one.. but you never know because the way i see it is that if a really good door opened for you, then you should go for it. I mean, its for your good you can still talk to your BF and he might end up moving with you later... myself, i would do it, and keep contact with my GF
Some issues involving my boyfriend and the romance (or lack thereof) in our relationship. Advice?
Well, we've been dating for almost three years now, and I've noticed over the last year or so we've become more like best friends who touch eachother and less 'lovers'. There's nothing romantic about our relationship, even if I try to make an effort by putting his arm around me or holding hands.
We've talked about it, and we've decided that the lack of connection is starting to drive us away from eachother. He's being distant and I'm becoming needy. But we do still really love eachother.
Does anyone have any advice?
How do you spark romance in a relationship?Some issues involving my boyfriend and the romance (or lack thereof) in our relationship. Advice?
You can't spark a romance if there is nothing to spark. Try and remember what attracted you too each other in the first place. It has only been three years, it is probably just stress from work and family that is coming between the two of you.
When and if the two of you have a night off together try to pop in a movie; make some popcorn; sit on the couch (snuggle) and enjoy each other with no intention of having sex after wards. Also you may try rubbing his shoulders when he gets home from work if you know that he has had a rough day.
If he begins to show you the same attention, maybe surprise you with dinner ready when you get home from work then you guys will be just fine.
I have been married 15 yrs and it is all about give and take. You can't do all the giving or all the taking then it just doesn't work. Communication is also a very big key in making it work, always be honest and open.
Best of luck to you, God Bless.
We've talked about it, and we've decided that the lack of connection is starting to drive us away from eachother. He's being distant and I'm becoming needy. But we do still really love eachother.
Does anyone have any advice?
How do you spark romance in a relationship?Some issues involving my boyfriend and the romance (or lack thereof) in our relationship. Advice?
You can't spark a romance if there is nothing to spark. Try and remember what attracted you too each other in the first place. It has only been three years, it is probably just stress from work and family that is coming between the two of you.
When and if the two of you have a night off together try to pop in a movie; make some popcorn; sit on the couch (snuggle) and enjoy each other with no intention of having sex after wards. Also you may try rubbing his shoulders when he gets home from work if you know that he has had a rough day.
If he begins to show you the same attention, maybe surprise you with dinner ready when you get home from work then you guys will be just fine.
I have been married 15 yrs and it is all about give and take. You can't do all the giving or all the taking then it just doesn't work. Communication is also a very big key in making it work, always be honest and open.
Best of luck to you, God Bless.
What the best advice you ever gave or received about relationship?
never leave the one u love for the one you like because the one that you like will leave you for the one that they loveWhat the best advice you ever gave or received about relationship?
~Love isn't love without love~
~ to want someone to truly love u, u must truly love them~What the best advice you ever gave or received about relationship?
Before marriage, keep both eyes open, afterwards, keep one eye shut.
~Love isn't love without love~
~ to want someone to truly love u, u must truly love them~What the best advice you ever gave or received about relationship?
Before marriage, keep both eyes open, afterwards, keep one eye shut.
Expiate in a relationship.need advice.?
There is a guy who loved me. First i couldnt have a relationship with him because i was in a bad mood because of my break up with my ex. After some months the same situation happened. i loved him..and we were ready to start a relationship when a girl friend of me told me she loved him with all her heart etc...and i gave up...because i didnt want to make her sad...and i hurt him...
he now has a gf...he still loves me..i still love him and i know i have made mistake..i cant ever hurt people i feel so bad..we have talked and he knows i feel sorry now..:) it's the least i could do to talk to him and tell him how i felt. he said i hurt myself too...and i know i have made a HUGE mistake,...but the only advice i want from you guys is to tell me what else i can do to AT LEAST show my true self:) show i am sorry..and repair something IF ANY:)Expiate in a relationship.need advice.?
i would tell him exactly how i feel start by telling him everything from day one if he really really loves you and you feel the same way you too should be together. True love is hard to fine life is giving u another chance by still having him around u in one way or another so fallow ur hart and do whats going to make YOU happy
he now has a gf...he still loves me..i still love him and i know i have made mistake..i cant ever hurt people i feel so bad..we have talked and he knows i feel sorry now..:) it's the least i could do to talk to him and tell him how i felt. he said i hurt myself too...and i know i have made a HUGE mistake,...but the only advice i want from you guys is to tell me what else i can do to AT LEAST show my true self:) show i am sorry..and repair something IF ANY:)Expiate in a relationship.need advice.?
i would tell him exactly how i feel start by telling him everything from day one if he really really loves you and you feel the same way you too should be together. True love is hard to fine life is giving u another chance by still having him around u in one way or another so fallow ur hart and do whats going to make YOU happy
Lost in my relationship--need advice?
Why am i feeling this way? Someone help me?
am a firm believer of while taking Anti-depressants you have a hard time finding attachment/love/emotions towards anything or anyone. At 23 years old I feel life has become so hard on me. I have been through many tragic events over the past 4 years, from losing my mother, grandfather and being in ICU after a bad car accident life has really been an ongoing struggle. About 3.5 years ago right after my mother passed away I began taking Anti-depressant medication first lexapro and now zoloft. Through these times I have found myself to be cold hearted and emotionless towards my family and my previous and current girl fiend. I am like a walking zombie with my arms out looking to feel some form of emotion. I pack my life with going to school, working and eating to keep away from these ongoing negative thoughts that eat at my brain on a daily basis. These obsessive thoughts are all focused on my girlfriend and I make her out to be someone she is not. When I first met her I was crazy over how she looked and treated me and now that two years have passed, its actually gotten a lot better but my mind and body will not accept it. I tell myself she is ugly, not good enough for me, and this confuses the crap out of me. If I were to draw you a person who I would want to be my wife without question it would be her. We do share the same qualities, outlooks on life and get along very well for the most part. In my past relationships and the current one, i feel the need to push people away and because I have no feelings- Its an escape from having to deal with any of this. I turn to inter coarse and other sexual activities to bring out some type of feelings. I am struggling so bad with this and it hurts so much, you have no idea. I would like to hear what you would have to say about this. I thank you very much for giving me your time. Hope to hear from you soon.
Ps: I got to counseling and my grl is away on vac for a month and the questions of wether or not I love her are still obsessive amongst my thoughts. I let her on great terms. My mind doesnt want me to have a connection.
12 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.Lost in my relationship--need advice?
I think talking to someone like a psychologist is your best bet
When you get to the point where your own thoughts have power over your emotions, and you're unhappy most of the time, you probably can't deal with it yourself. As far as ';trying'; to have emotions, i think i know exactly what you mean. And i have no idea what causes this or how you change it. It seems like I'm incapable of experiencing any extreme of emotions besides melancholy and apathy. What keeps me going is the belief that it will change in the future. I've read studies about the teenage and young adult brain chemistry, and it is a time of frequent and rapid change. Taking pills doesn't help that, in my opinion.
I can relate to almost all the things you talk about, but i can't offer any advice. I struggle too with obsessive thoughts or thoughts which seem to disagree with what i actually believe i think.
If your anything like me, i know how hard it is to talk aboutLost in my relationship--need advice?
the best solution is to pray. Confess your problems to God and he is ready to help you no matter what!
my anwser is to ask god to help you he loves you
It's good that you're getting counseling and you should keep doing this. Maybe you feel the need to detach from your girlfriend because deep down you still love her and are trying to protect all of your emotions. I really don't know though, and even if I'm right I don't know how you can fix that. Our emotions do strange things after going through extreme pain. What it does boil down to tho is that if you don't want to breakup with your girlfriend and even if you don't like her all the time you can't imagine yourself without her, then you still love her. Give yourself time, eventually things will stabilize.
well, it sounds like you aren't only lost in your relationship, but you're
well the first step is recognizing it.. which you've done, congratulations :]
somewhat in need of spontaneity in your life. it sounds like you do the same things every day as if you're programmed to.. which could be a contributing factor in the way you're feeling
to start, you could find a hobby you feel you enjoy and eventually connect to .. whether it be cooking, collecting something, photography, writing, art, a sport or whatever
- just find something you're passionate about to provide an oasis for you, when you feel bored or lost
and you obviously have feelings considering you have feelings about your situation now, and you felt the things you felt when you met your girlfriend.. and when you went through trauma recently you just might not be in touch with them
take time to meditate everyday-
reflect on your day.. what you enjoyed, what you hated, what made your day different from every other day, whether it be an interaction with a co-worker.. or a change in your eating pattern. no day is exactly alike.. so try to be more aware of your surroundings
-also, taking time to meditate will help you connect with your own feelings
the more you do it, the more easily it will come to you without thinking about it.. self-reflection will become involuntary
with the girl-
it sounds like you're in a great relationship, and it sounds like its just almost too good to be true, so you dont believe it.
the self improvement things i mentioned will help here too.
the first step to feeling more confident in a relationship is feeling more confident in yourself! :] also it sounds like she understands what youre going through .. if not, talk to her about it! that will help too!
also, try working out and exercising! when you work out, your body releases adrenaline and endorphins which make you feel happy and fit! if you incorporate things that make you feel good into your everyday routine, you'll feel a lot better !
hope i helped you out! any more questions, add details and il try to get back to you!
okay first maybe you could try lower and lower doses of the meds. that may help a little emotion back. i know what your talkin about. my brother had the same reaction to this stuff. and show her you still love her and think she is beautiful and is very much good enough for you by doing something to show her your REAL feelings for her: :)
hope this helped?
am a firm believer of while taking Anti-depressants you have a hard time finding attachment/love/emotions towards anything or anyone. At 23 years old I feel life has become so hard on me. I have been through many tragic events over the past 4 years, from losing my mother, grandfather and being in ICU after a bad car accident life has really been an ongoing struggle. About 3.5 years ago right after my mother passed away I began taking Anti-depressant medication first lexapro and now zoloft. Through these times I have found myself to be cold hearted and emotionless towards my family and my previous and current girl fiend. I am like a walking zombie with my arms out looking to feel some form of emotion. I pack my life with going to school, working and eating to keep away from these ongoing negative thoughts that eat at my brain on a daily basis. These obsessive thoughts are all focused on my girlfriend and I make her out to be someone she is not. When I first met her I was crazy over how she looked and treated me and now that two years have passed, its actually gotten a lot better but my mind and body will not accept it. I tell myself she is ugly, not good enough for me, and this confuses the crap out of me. If I were to draw you a person who I would want to be my wife without question it would be her. We do share the same qualities, outlooks on life and get along very well for the most part. In my past relationships and the current one, i feel the need to push people away and because I have no feelings- Its an escape from having to deal with any of this. I turn to inter coarse and other sexual activities to bring out some type of feelings. I am struggling so bad with this and it hurts so much, you have no idea. I would like to hear what you would have to say about this. I thank you very much for giving me your time. Hope to hear from you soon.
Ps: I got to counseling and my grl is away on vac for a month and the questions of wether or not I love her are still obsessive amongst my thoughts. I let her on great terms. My mind doesnt want me to have a connection.
12 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.Lost in my relationship--need advice?
I think talking to someone like a psychologist is your best bet
When you get to the point where your own thoughts have power over your emotions, and you're unhappy most of the time, you probably can't deal with it yourself. As far as ';trying'; to have emotions, i think i know exactly what you mean. And i have no idea what causes this or how you change it. It seems like I'm incapable of experiencing any extreme of emotions besides melancholy and apathy. What keeps me going is the belief that it will change in the future. I've read studies about the teenage and young adult brain chemistry, and it is a time of frequent and rapid change. Taking pills doesn't help that, in my opinion.
I can relate to almost all the things you talk about, but i can't offer any advice. I struggle too with obsessive thoughts or thoughts which seem to disagree with what i actually believe i think.
If your anything like me, i know how hard it is to talk aboutLost in my relationship--need advice?
the best solution is to pray. Confess your problems to God and he is ready to help you no matter what!
my anwser is to ask god to help you he loves you
It's good that you're getting counseling and you should keep doing this. Maybe you feel the need to detach from your girlfriend because deep down you still love her and are trying to protect all of your emotions. I really don't know though, and even if I'm right I don't know how you can fix that. Our emotions do strange things after going through extreme pain. What it does boil down to tho is that if you don't want to breakup with your girlfriend and even if you don't like her all the time you can't imagine yourself without her, then you still love her. Give yourself time, eventually things will stabilize.
well, it sounds like you aren't only lost in your relationship, but you're
well the first step is recognizing it.. which you've done, congratulations :]
somewhat in need of spontaneity in your life. it sounds like you do the same things every day as if you're programmed to.. which could be a contributing factor in the way you're feeling
to start, you could find a hobby you feel you enjoy and eventually connect to .. whether it be cooking, collecting something, photography, writing, art, a sport or whatever
- just find something you're passionate about to provide an oasis for you, when you feel bored or lost
and you obviously have feelings considering you have feelings about your situation now, and you felt the things you felt when you met your girlfriend.. and when you went through trauma recently you just might not be in touch with them
take time to meditate everyday-
reflect on your day.. what you enjoyed, what you hated, what made your day different from every other day, whether it be an interaction with a co-worker.. or a change in your eating pattern. no day is exactly alike.. so try to be more aware of your surroundings
-also, taking time to meditate will help you connect with your own feelings
the more you do it, the more easily it will come to you without thinking about it.. self-reflection will become involuntary
with the girl-
it sounds like you're in a great relationship, and it sounds like its just almost too good to be true, so you dont believe it.
the self improvement things i mentioned will help here too.
the first step to feeling more confident in a relationship is feeling more confident in yourself! :] also it sounds like she understands what youre going through .. if not, talk to her about it! that will help too!
also, try working out and exercising! when you work out, your body releases adrenaline and endorphins which make you feel happy and fit! if you incorporate things that make you feel good into your everyday routine, you'll feel a lot better !
hope i helped you out! any more questions, add details and il try to get back to you!
okay first maybe you could try lower and lower doses of the meds. that may help a little emotion back. i know what your talkin about. my brother had the same reaction to this stuff. and show her you still love her and think she is beautiful and is very much good enough for you by doing something to show her your REAL feelings for her: :)
hope this helped?
Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
I am bisexual. I just came out at the beginning of this year. I left a male
fiancee of two years for the first girl I ever liked/dated/kissed. She is
the only person I've ever been in love with. We've broken up four or maybe five times now though... we both claim to love eachother so much but we can't ever seem to be together. I broke up with her for the first time a few weeks ago. I had just lost my job and my parents were trying to kick me out and I was living with a friend or in my car for a while... and I just couldn't handle it. And this time, like all the times in the past when she has dumped me, one of us will say something and wel'll start talking again... she calls it ';keeping us a possibility';. She'll say shes been drinking non stop since we broke up, I'll tell her I miss her, she'll say we can't be together because she fucks everything up and she's scared because of how close we are and all this ultimately leaving me with something to the tune of
Her(10:40:44 PM): why do we love each other so much?
Me (10:41:22 PM): i wish i knew.
Her(10:41:39 PM): then why cant we stand each other long enough to be together?
Me (10:42:04 PM): if i knew i'd fix it.
Her (10:43:57 PM): i hate this.
And she'll get off saying I love you before she goes and then the next day
it's like we're exes or strangers again. We do this ALL THE TIME though...
we've been on and off since... hell... 5 or 6 months ago? I love her so
much but it's pure torment when we aren't together and then when we are
together she hardly makes the effort to call once every three days. I don't
think I can love anyone else, I have tried.
She'll talk about stuff like ';our wedding'; and kidnapping a kid for us to
raise together... and how she wants it to be US even if it means getting
married with a ring pop in vegas... but then the next day, it's like...
nevermind. Forget everything I said.
I tell her not to plan much.. because I'm 18 and she's 16 and she's bi and
it would not take much at all for her to change her mind. Don't get my
hopes up. She's not ready to grow up like that... but I deeply believe in
the saying... if you love someone let them go, if they return they were
always yours, if they don't they never were.. and she keeps coming back..
but I wonder sometimes if it's for the ego boost she gets when i pour out my heart for her...
there is a possiblility that she could be very actively cheating on me and she does drugs... mainly weed and extasy... and she drinks a lot... she recently decided to go to rehab... but the people she hangs out with do that stuff all the time... i love her... but idk
IDK.
What do you all think??
and all you close minded people can go jump off a cliff. I don't wanna hear it.
Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
Well, it can be very difficult to talk to someone you love about drugs, especially when the people they hang with are doing it, because you can't expect them to leave their druggy friends.
But, if she's playing some sort of cat and mouse game, don't take it too personnally... you're eightteen and she's sixteen. I know that's only a two years difference, but in such a hormonal time in your life, they can be SUCH a difference. You are most likely in a more mature, stable emotional condition than she is. At 16, she's likely to be naturally flip-floppy, and she can never be positively sure of what she wants, be it a man or a woman, you or someone else, until she's grown up and reaches the same stage you might already be in.
16 and 18 are vastly different when it comes to the love scene. They really are. I think you are mature enough that you already have a developed sense of what you want in a person... as for her, not so much. Her preferences are still evolving and changing.
I hope that made some sense...Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
She does drugs. That's your answer right there. E irreparably alters your brain chemistry. She sounds like a nightmare dramabomb. You might want to distance yourself from this, it doesn't appear that it's going to go anywhere pretty.
sounds pretty insane, and very hot, too hot mayb, i was engaged to a venezualen tiger and she and i broke bcaus of the heat getting to hot, i dont think a human being can handle that level of hot love for a very long time, but she was my 1st love too, and i still think about her 6 yrs later, she saved my life by breaking my heart, b well, good luck with your roller coaster ride of your life
Wow! That was very intense to read, but I feel for you. Here is my advice, even if you probably dont want to hear it. I think it is a destructive relationship. Even if you love each other so much, It is evidant that things will not be able to work out till you both maybe grow a few years older, you know? I think that you should take a break. maybe not see each other for a few months, and see where things go maybe in january? This will give you both time to really re-think everything and see where you stand. You should not be putting yourself thorugh torture if you love someone. Even if you truely do love someone, maybe they dont love you the same way back, you know?
I hope i helped.
hunnny.
im bisexual as well.
firt time relationships with girls-have to be the worst.
your a new bisexual and havent had much practice with women.
yu both need a break.
remain close friends-but see other people.
if in a little while, you both still have feelings forr each other, go for it!
GOOD LUKK:]
Man.....
That's a tough one.
UM, I'm a lesbian, so I can kinda understand what your going through.
I think that you should remain very close, but see other people.
I'm just asking this, When did she start doing drugs?? It's just bad if she does that. So you just came out, well maybe your just a little frustrated with your parents kicking ya out and all.
Just give all ya can to her and maybe see other people at the same time.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
She's is 16. From the looks of it, she doesn't know what she wants just like ALMOST every teenager. You're both young and maybe think that you won't find another person like the other, Move On! I think you should live your life and not be so dependent on having a person to lean on. When you can learn to walk on your own finding that person who will carry you will be so much easier and WORTH THE WAIT.
Honestly, if you can't stay together, then the relationship should probably just end, because it's just going to be a painful cycle.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but sometimes the people who fall in love just aren't compatible. And while they're in love, their personalities clash all the time and it's fighting, breaking up and getting back together over and over.
Plus, it sounds like she has her own issues with drug abuse, and while you could still be supportive as a friend, I would just end the relationship, it seems like a bit of a mess.eye look
fiancee of two years for the first girl I ever liked/dated/kissed. She is
the only person I've ever been in love with. We've broken up four or maybe five times now though... we both claim to love eachother so much but we can't ever seem to be together. I broke up with her for the first time a few weeks ago. I had just lost my job and my parents were trying to kick me out and I was living with a friend or in my car for a while... and I just couldn't handle it. And this time, like all the times in the past when she has dumped me, one of us will say something and wel'll start talking again... she calls it ';keeping us a possibility';. She'll say shes been drinking non stop since we broke up, I'll tell her I miss her, she'll say we can't be together because she fucks everything up and she's scared because of how close we are and all this ultimately leaving me with something to the tune of
Her(10:40:44 PM): why do we love each other so much?
Me (10:41:22 PM): i wish i knew.
Her(10:41:39 PM): then why cant we stand each other long enough to be together?
Me (10:42:04 PM): if i knew i'd fix it.
Her (10:43:57 PM): i hate this.
And she'll get off saying I love you before she goes and then the next day
it's like we're exes or strangers again. We do this ALL THE TIME though...
we've been on and off since... hell... 5 or 6 months ago? I love her so
much but it's pure torment when we aren't together and then when we are
together she hardly makes the effort to call once every three days. I don't
think I can love anyone else, I have tried.
She'll talk about stuff like ';our wedding'; and kidnapping a kid for us to
raise together... and how she wants it to be US even if it means getting
married with a ring pop in vegas... but then the next day, it's like...
nevermind. Forget everything I said.
I tell her not to plan much.. because I'm 18 and she's 16 and she's bi and
it would not take much at all for her to change her mind. Don't get my
hopes up. She's not ready to grow up like that... but I deeply believe in
the saying... if you love someone let them go, if they return they were
always yours, if they don't they never were.. and she keeps coming back..
but I wonder sometimes if it's for the ego boost she gets when i pour out my heart for her...
there is a possiblility that she could be very actively cheating on me and she does drugs... mainly weed and extasy... and she drinks a lot... she recently decided to go to rehab... but the people she hangs out with do that stuff all the time... i love her... but idk
IDK.
What do you all think??
and all you close minded people can go jump off a cliff. I don't wanna hear it.
Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
Well, it can be very difficult to talk to someone you love about drugs, especially when the people they hang with are doing it, because you can't expect them to leave their druggy friends.
But, if she's playing some sort of cat and mouse game, don't take it too personnally... you're eightteen and she's sixteen. I know that's only a two years difference, but in such a hormonal time in your life, they can be SUCH a difference. You are most likely in a more mature, stable emotional condition than she is. At 16, she's likely to be naturally flip-floppy, and she can never be positively sure of what she wants, be it a man or a woman, you or someone else, until she's grown up and reaches the same stage you might already be in.
16 and 18 are vastly different when it comes to the love scene. They really are. I think you are mature enough that you already have a developed sense of what you want in a person... as for her, not so much. Her preferences are still evolving and changing.
I hope that made some sense...Disfunctional teenage lesbian relationship seeks advice?
She does drugs. That's your answer right there. E irreparably alters your brain chemistry. She sounds like a nightmare dramabomb. You might want to distance yourself from this, it doesn't appear that it's going to go anywhere pretty.
sounds pretty insane, and very hot, too hot mayb, i was engaged to a venezualen tiger and she and i broke bcaus of the heat getting to hot, i dont think a human being can handle that level of hot love for a very long time, but she was my 1st love too, and i still think about her 6 yrs later, she saved my life by breaking my heart, b well, good luck with your roller coaster ride of your life
Wow! That was very intense to read, but I feel for you. Here is my advice, even if you probably dont want to hear it. I think it is a destructive relationship. Even if you love each other so much, It is evidant that things will not be able to work out till you both maybe grow a few years older, you know? I think that you should take a break. maybe not see each other for a few months, and see where things go maybe in january? This will give you both time to really re-think everything and see where you stand. You should not be putting yourself thorugh torture if you love someone. Even if you truely do love someone, maybe they dont love you the same way back, you know?
I hope i helped.
hunnny.
im bisexual as well.
firt time relationships with girls-have to be the worst.
your a new bisexual and havent had much practice with women.
yu both need a break.
remain close friends-but see other people.
if in a little while, you both still have feelings forr each other, go for it!
GOOD LUKK:]
Man.....
That's a tough one.
UM, I'm a lesbian, so I can kinda understand what your going through.
I think that you should remain very close, but see other people.
I'm just asking this, When did she start doing drugs?? It's just bad if she does that. So you just came out, well maybe your just a little frustrated with your parents kicking ya out and all.
Just give all ya can to her and maybe see other people at the same time.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
She's is 16. From the looks of it, she doesn't know what she wants just like ALMOST every teenager. You're both young and maybe think that you won't find another person like the other, Move On! I think you should live your life and not be so dependent on having a person to lean on. When you can learn to walk on your own finding that person who will carry you will be so much easier and WORTH THE WAIT.
Honestly, if you can't stay together, then the relationship should probably just end, because it's just going to be a painful cycle.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but sometimes the people who fall in love just aren't compatible. And while they're in love, their personalities clash all the time and it's fighting, breaking up and getting back together over and over.
Plus, it sounds like she has her own issues with drug abuse, and while you could still be supportive as a friend, I would just end the relationship, it seems like a bit of a mess.
Anyone good at relationship/friendship advice i really need it?
k so theres this girl that wanted to get with me after she broke up with her messed up BF(he was abusive). i kind of wanted her too but i felt like it wont work b/c we been friends for about 2 yrs and i wanted to go with someone who is her friend (i felt like going out with her friend about last month and the girl that wants to get with me broke up with her BF about a week ago) i did go with her for a couple of days but it felt weird b/c i felt more like a friend than BF/GF. i explained that to her and it was ok but then i probably messed up when i told her that i wanted to go with her friend. basically i wasted both of our times with this relationship, shes pi$$ed off at me and told me how it would feel like if you loved someone but they didnt love you back and they wanted to get with your friend. i feel like sh*t right now and the reason i didnt tell her earlier was that i somewhat wanted to be in this relationship but later on i didnt feel right to me. so what im asking for is that what would you do if someone like me did this too you and i dont care if u say something like u would hate me or never talk to me again b/c i need some honest opinionsAnyone good at relationship/friendship advice i really need it?
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Trouble in the relationship, need advice (Long story)?
Ok, I've been with her for 7 months so far.
Me and her were seperated after 2 months, long story. We've spend five months apart. Anyway, we have an oath/vow to eachother, and as rediclous as it may be to you: we vow not to talk to the opposite sex.
We've both steadily held this oath until today....
It was on MySpace.
She had a MySpace for just friends, and then one just for all the other people (7.1k friends, I have 6.5k on mine). Anyway, she decided not to keep the one that's just for friends, she never uses it. So her sister wanted it, so she gave it to her. Changed the name, and password.
So unreluctantly, I try to sign on, and the password is changed. Okay, I log into her email, and request another one (Her sister's profile). I then finally get on and I go into the messages, and there's a message with this boy. This boy is a kid who asked her out a month or so ago, and she rejected. It's also the boy who SHE added on her main myspace a few days earlier, which broke into a fight (for obvious reasons), but, she claimed it was her sister who wanted to add him.
Okay, I have no reason to be skeptical, I trust her.
Anyway, the message that was in the profile went as follows:
';Omg im srry lol dont talk to me on my myprofile talk to me here, and dont call me my name, say Renata';
him ';ok but i won't like it :(';
';lol why? and message me dont comment me';
........
What
The
@#$?
I flipped out on her completly, I was soo close to like... ending it, I don't know what to think.
She explained it to me, she said it was a joke, and inside joke because he's her friend's brother and always calls her by her sister's name.
Either way, she knows she messed up.
Big time.
She said she knew I'd find out and that she couldn't tell me cause she knows I get mad, she said she can't tell me anything.
And no I don't think she's cheating on me or anything, I trust her on a high level. I mean, we're apart, we don't have sex, I have no money, I have nothing, except my love. She's paying my way to live with her, giving me a job, a place to live. We talk about marriage and children all the time, she's getting a tattoo with my name on it. Like... I don't know what to think, I feel like throwing up, what do I do?Trouble in the relationship, need advice (Long story)?
Maybe she is tired of supporting your lazy butt? And complaining and arguing. Perhaps this isn't the relationship you are needing to stay in because you have problems that you aren't dealing with very well.Trouble in the relationship, need advice (Long story)?
I can't judge but I think this kind of relationship sounds unhealthy. You say you have trust but you don't want her to talk to the oppossite sex? And vice versa. Not to mention there is not enough space. You shouldn't be reading her emails. It seems too posseive to me. I think that you guys should give eachother more trust.
explain 2 her about it i just feel like i dont know wwht 2 think nd stuff nd all
???
mac it to her sister
I'm sorry, but she's obviously cheating, or at least flirting with this guy.
That ';inside joke'; story, was obviously a huge line of BS. ';Message me, but don't comment me';...yeah she's a huge *** liar.
Me and her were seperated after 2 months, long story. We've spend five months apart. Anyway, we have an oath/vow to eachother, and as rediclous as it may be to you: we vow not to talk to the opposite sex.
We've both steadily held this oath until today....
It was on MySpace.
She had a MySpace for just friends, and then one just for all the other people (7.1k friends, I have 6.5k on mine). Anyway, she decided not to keep the one that's just for friends, she never uses it. So her sister wanted it, so she gave it to her. Changed the name, and password.
So unreluctantly, I try to sign on, and the password is changed. Okay, I log into her email, and request another one (Her sister's profile). I then finally get on and I go into the messages, and there's a message with this boy. This boy is a kid who asked her out a month or so ago, and she rejected. It's also the boy who SHE added on her main myspace a few days earlier, which broke into a fight (for obvious reasons), but, she claimed it was her sister who wanted to add him.
Okay, I have no reason to be skeptical, I trust her.
Anyway, the message that was in the profile went as follows:
';Omg im srry lol dont talk to me on my myprofile talk to me here, and dont call me my name, say Renata';
him ';ok but i won't like it :(';
';lol why? and message me dont comment me';
........
What
The
@#$?
I flipped out on her completly, I was soo close to like... ending it, I don't know what to think.
She explained it to me, she said it was a joke, and inside joke because he's her friend's brother and always calls her by her sister's name.
Either way, she knows she messed up.
Big time.
She said she knew I'd find out and that she couldn't tell me cause she knows I get mad, she said she can't tell me anything.
And no I don't think she's cheating on me or anything, I trust her on a high level. I mean, we're apart, we don't have sex, I have no money, I have nothing, except my love. She's paying my way to live with her, giving me a job, a place to live. We talk about marriage and children all the time, she's getting a tattoo with my name on it. Like... I don't know what to think, I feel like throwing up, what do I do?Trouble in the relationship, need advice (Long story)?
Maybe she is tired of supporting your lazy butt? And complaining and arguing. Perhaps this isn't the relationship you are needing to stay in because you have problems that you aren't dealing with very well.Trouble in the relationship, need advice (Long story)?
I can't judge but I think this kind of relationship sounds unhealthy. You say you have trust but you don't want her to talk to the oppossite sex? And vice versa. Not to mention there is not enough space. You shouldn't be reading her emails. It seems too posseive to me. I think that you guys should give eachother more trust.
explain 2 her about it i just feel like i dont know wwht 2 think nd stuff nd all
???
mac it to her sister
I'm sorry, but she's obviously cheating, or at least flirting with this guy.
That ';inside joke'; story, was obviously a huge line of BS. ';Message me, but don't comment me';...yeah she's a huge *** liar.
Give the correct advice about my relationship and maybe you will get 10 points?
Me and my gf/ex, moe, got together 07/02/06. ( so for a little over a yr and 2 months). throughout the relationship we have both done bad things. Sometimes i overract over the smallest things, and one time when we went on a break i attempted to kiss this other girl but it didnt even happen. She has lied to me about many things, mostly about being with other people, once with this guy i hated, and now she lied about being w/ this girl that likes her. She ended up kissing the girl twice (which is so hypocritical since she was just yelling at me for attempting to kiss that girl on our break). and the other girl thinks they are dating and sent me a mean message saying to give up and that moe just wants to be friends. When i confront moe saying i dont wanna tlk to u anymore, especially when that bi*ch is in your life, she said she'd tell her to screw off just to get me to look at her again. She says she wants to be w/ me, but then she says we fight too much. i love her. do i stay w/ her?Give the correct advice about my relationship and maybe you will get 10 points?
Well, you guys have gone through a lot of stuff and only you can measure if your love is worth the pain, do you know what I mean? I could tell you Yes go back with her or HELL NO don't do that! but only you have gone through everything and can tell what's best to do so this is my suggestion.
Close your eyes and ask yourself: Do I really love Moe that much that I'm willing to give it another try and go for it? Is this really worth it? And I'm possitively sure the answer will come to you really fast.
Good luck with everything and my best wishes to you.Give the correct advice about my relationship and maybe you will get 10 points?
Sounds like too much trouble to maintain.
Also a pointer for you: place blame where blame is due. Just because she may have kissed someone YOU don't approve of is not a reason to strike out at anybody and everybody. You need to address YOUR issues with HER and leave everyone else OUT OF IT, even if they try to meddle and influence the outcome.
If it's true that you fight a lot, perhaps she doesn't like that and doesn't want it. Who instigates these fights? ';I overreact over the smallest things?...'; Perhaps you need to review what's worth fighting over and what isn't. Dealing with touchy subjects works a lot better with clear communication in a relaxed manner as opposed to yelling and name-calling.
There's a saying that goes: ';The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.'; To me it sounds like your relationshipo with Moe is too damaged to salvage. So, with your NEXT partner, make a pact to BE HONEST with one another, BE GENTLE when it comes to disagreements, and exercise some self-control when it comes to doing ';bad things.';
Thing is, it sounds like you KNOW what you should do. You just need to do them.
Wow - sounds like a big convoluted mess to me, with a lot of deception and game-playing going on. Have you considered finding a boyfriend? IF you can find a straight one out there, that might help to facilitate some stability in your life. Good luck, whatever you decide!
no
seems like you've been through a lot together...mostly drama. I personally wouldn't stay, you shouldn't be with someone that doesn't know how to be honest. Honesty is the most important factor in any relationship, without that there's no trust and well...with no trust, there isn't really a relationship in the first place, at least not a healthy one.
good luck.
I believe you need to see someone else and move on with your life.All of that animosity is stressful and damaging to any relationship.There appears to be too many problems to overcome.The bottom line is that it will only get worse.And who wants to live every day fighting and arguing?If you love something,set it free...Ever heard that?If you two were meant to be together,time will bring you full circle and you will not have done or said awful things to one another.Sometimes in order to show your love,you just have to walk away.If she is that crazy about you,she will cut her ties and follow you.Otherwise,time will heal those things that you cant fix right now.No ugly words,and no hard feelings no matter how much it hurts you.Stay strong and you will be better off for it in the long run.Hugs!
No. Sounds like you both need to do some growing up before you are ready to make a commitment to just one person. That isn't a bad thing- that is just what people need to do before they are ready to settle down with just one person. You aren't ready yet. Play the field - enjoy spending times with lots of different people so you know what you like and dislike about being with people. Then when you think the right person is in your life you will have some experience and know if you are ready to stop looking to see what else is out there.
OK, being brutally honest, it sounds like you *both* have issues in your lives you need to resolve before you can committ one hundred per cent to a relationship with anyone.
People who care about each other don't want to spend time making each other miserable, fighting about rubbish and playing headgames with each other.
Your relationship sounds more like some sort of nasty competition than a loving space you can go to for comfort, warmth and companionship in this harsh world.
Maybe you could consider couples or individual counselling, or having a 'break' from relationships altogether for a while, until you figure out just what it is you want in your own life, and from your partner.
Good luck and best wishes :-)
i think that if you still love her you should try to make it work. but only if she stops cheating on you. maybe you should take a longer break. a break where you can both cool down, sleep with other people etc... try couple counseling too.
10 points lol =] i have like almosr 3k of those things
Take a step back and look at the relationship. Both of you have strayed...she has lied...you say you fight too much. I think it might be time to call it quits. You tired a break before and that didn't work. It might be better to end it for good.
Well, you guys have gone through a lot of stuff and only you can measure if your love is worth the pain, do you know what I mean? I could tell you Yes go back with her or HELL NO don't do that! but only you have gone through everything and can tell what's best to do so this is my suggestion.
Close your eyes and ask yourself: Do I really love Moe that much that I'm willing to give it another try and go for it? Is this really worth it? And I'm possitively sure the answer will come to you really fast.
Good luck with everything and my best wishes to you.Give the correct advice about my relationship and maybe you will get 10 points?
Sounds like too much trouble to maintain.
Also a pointer for you: place blame where blame is due. Just because she may have kissed someone YOU don't approve of is not a reason to strike out at anybody and everybody. You need to address YOUR issues with HER and leave everyone else OUT OF IT, even if they try to meddle and influence the outcome.
If it's true that you fight a lot, perhaps she doesn't like that and doesn't want it. Who instigates these fights? ';I overreact over the smallest things?...'; Perhaps you need to review what's worth fighting over and what isn't. Dealing with touchy subjects works a lot better with clear communication in a relaxed manner as opposed to yelling and name-calling.
There's a saying that goes: ';The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.'; To me it sounds like your relationshipo with Moe is too damaged to salvage. So, with your NEXT partner, make a pact to BE HONEST with one another, BE GENTLE when it comes to disagreements, and exercise some self-control when it comes to doing ';bad things.';
Thing is, it sounds like you KNOW what you should do. You just need to do them.
Wow - sounds like a big convoluted mess to me, with a lot of deception and game-playing going on. Have you considered finding a boyfriend? IF you can find a straight one out there, that might help to facilitate some stability in your life. Good luck, whatever you decide!
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seems like you've been through a lot together...mostly drama. I personally wouldn't stay, you shouldn't be with someone that doesn't know how to be honest. Honesty is the most important factor in any relationship, without that there's no trust and well...with no trust, there isn't really a relationship in the first place, at least not a healthy one.
good luck.
I believe you need to see someone else and move on with your life.All of that animosity is stressful and damaging to any relationship.There appears to be too many problems to overcome.The bottom line is that it will only get worse.And who wants to live every day fighting and arguing?If you love something,set it free...Ever heard that?If you two were meant to be together,time will bring you full circle and you will not have done or said awful things to one another.Sometimes in order to show your love,you just have to walk away.If she is that crazy about you,she will cut her ties and follow you.Otherwise,time will heal those things that you cant fix right now.No ugly words,and no hard feelings no matter how much it hurts you.Stay strong and you will be better off for it in the long run.Hugs!
No. Sounds like you both need to do some growing up before you are ready to make a commitment to just one person. That isn't a bad thing- that is just what people need to do before they are ready to settle down with just one person. You aren't ready yet. Play the field - enjoy spending times with lots of different people so you know what you like and dislike about being with people. Then when you think the right person is in your life you will have some experience and know if you are ready to stop looking to see what else is out there.
OK, being brutally honest, it sounds like you *both* have issues in your lives you need to resolve before you can committ one hundred per cent to a relationship with anyone.
People who care about each other don't want to spend time making each other miserable, fighting about rubbish and playing headgames with each other.
Your relationship sounds more like some sort of nasty competition than a loving space you can go to for comfort, warmth and companionship in this harsh world.
Maybe you could consider couples or individual counselling, or having a 'break' from relationships altogether for a while, until you figure out just what it is you want in your own life, and from your partner.
Good luck and best wishes :-)
i think that if you still love her you should try to make it work. but only if she stops cheating on you. maybe you should take a longer break. a break where you can both cool down, sleep with other people etc... try couple counseling too.
10 points lol =] i have like almosr 3k of those things
Take a step back and look at the relationship. Both of you have strayed...she has lied...you say you fight too much. I think it might be time to call it quits. You tired a break before and that didn't work. It might be better to end it for good.
PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP....NEED ADVICE..?
i dont want any stupid answers. this is serious.so if you want to write stupid comments then dont bother. recently iv been having a serious relationship with a beautiful young women. shes great and i feel like i could spend the rest of my life with her. the only problem is it hurts her during sex. i know some people say bigger is better but i cant see it being the case for me. i have always been freakishly ';well endowed'; and felt proud.. but when i found it hurts her i was saddened. i dont want to hurt her. does anyone have any ideas or suggestions on what i can do? does it become a little ';easier'; for girls over time? everyone says to take it slow but its not just the problem of taking it slow, its also the problem of trying to fit the thing in.
and no, i am not going to go into any details of how long or thick it is so dont even ask. i get enough of it at work. thanksPROBLEM WITH SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP....NEED ADVICE..?
she needs to lubricate herself before you get in. Try as much lubrication as possible and go in slowly. Vaginas stretch, remember when women give birth, baby passes thru the birth canal, which is vagina. That being said, it time, hers will accommodate you. All you got to do is use lots of lube, unless she's got some kind of condition, then she needs to go to a gynecologist and check it out.
and no, i am not going to go into any details of how long or thick it is so dont even ask. i get enough of it at work. thanksPROBLEM WITH SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP....NEED ADVICE..?
she needs to lubricate herself before you get in. Try as much lubrication as possible and go in slowly. Vaginas stretch, remember when women give birth, baby passes thru the birth canal, which is vagina. That being said, it time, hers will accommodate you. All you got to do is use lots of lube, unless she's got some kind of condition, then she needs to go to a gynecologist and check it out.
Need some life/relationship/everything advice please...?
Life is really hard right now. Please don't give any harsh answers, I've already been hard enough on myself. I was in a 3 year relationship with a man and things started to go bad about a year ago, and I became suicidal. I ';attempted'; suicide a few times and ended up in the psych ward about 4 times total in the last 12 months. The relationship I was in ended and I started doing better and meeting new people. I started seeing a man I met at the hospital and we became close, but after a couple months I became interested in his brother and I started seeing his brother. Well we've been seeing eachother ever since (about 6 months now) and the other brother is not pleased about the situation and has threatened suicide, etc. and the second brother is feeling guilty about everything and they live together so the 1st brother makes it really difficult for him to come and visit me. I am really insecure and take everything personally and suffer from severe depression and lately I just don't know my status with the second brother because even though we are still seeeing eachother he is not a good communicator and he never tells me how he feels or anything. I have been feeling suicidal again lately and wondering what to do. Nothing is really that stable in my life, my housing isn't, my job isn't and I guess my relationship isn't either. I am 27 years old and feel old and unacomplished. I don't know what I have to look forward to with bad credit cuz with bad credit I can't get a stable place to live, the economy is bad and I hate my job, but if I lost my job I'd be screwed. If my bf left me I feel like I'd be an emotional wreck and couldn't work anyways. I am just lost, confused, depressed broke, etc. Any advice? I just keep thinking lately of ways to kill myself, but am hoping for some advice that will give me some hope....
thank you.Need some life/relationship/everything advice please...?
well u shoulnt have a boyfrend u should focus on ur self first.sek some counsling and get on some medications to stabilize ur self.get a phiciatrist to.they can diagnose u.i have been threw that.if u any questions feel free to e mail me at jamescutie88@yahoo.com ur not alone.Need some life/relationship/everything advice please...?
The most incomprehensible thing about the universe is that it is comprehensible. -Albert Einstein
thank you.Need some life/relationship/everything advice please...?
well u shoulnt have a boyfrend u should focus on ur self first.sek some counsling and get on some medications to stabilize ur self.get a phiciatrist to.they can diagnose u.i have been threw that.if u any questions feel free to e mail me at jamescutie88@yahoo.com ur not alone.Need some life/relationship/everything advice please...?
The most incomprehensible thing about the universe is that it is comprehensible. -Albert Einstein
ConFuSed..Friendship Or RelationShip?? Need AdVice?
for years ive had like this boy, hes a cancer. when we first met i did not like him we always fought but a lil later we became the best of friends, well we always made intense eye contact, and had so much in common, well that was when we were at the same school he left and i went to a diff school, a couple years later at a mutual friend party all we did was stare at each other well he made the friend move n gave me his number n so i called n requested him on facebook , well everyday we talked i founded out he had a Girlfriend of 2 months, a month after he broke up w/ her( i dont know if that was cuz of me) well he would give lil hints all the time that he was interested but at the time i was scare, I STILL am about doing that w/ what a great friendship we have. So 1 day i sent him a Vday card saying how i valued him n how i appreciate the beauty of a friendship w/ him, well he never responsed all i know a month later his friend tried to talk to me ( to make a long story short he set it up)i was soOOo hurt he tried calling me i didnt answer.its a different between testing some 1 vs disrespect. Im in college so 1 day in July he sent me a letter sayin ''I need you a friend,somebody that can be my girlfriend ,im tried of playin games, holla @ me!'; est then i havent responsed to him ive been home from college too. IDk wat to do??...ConFuSed..Friendship Or RelationShip?? Need AdVice?
respond to him. you don't have to answer him yes or no about being his girlfriend.
be friends is good. ;) from there u see how it goes.ConFuSed..Friendship Or RelationShip?? Need AdVice?
I say date him, it sounds to me like you want to but you're just scared of losing your friend. You're not losing him your just taking your friendship to a different level
ok it sounds to me like he needs a friend a u need him. this is tough but i wood suggest being his friend and waiting to see if anything else comes from it
TALK TO HIM!! you obviously still like him and he likes you!
ignore him first, but if he really insist just talk to him and tell him how you fell. goodluck!
hey firstly u should decide that what u want to do want to ave frnship or really relationship....
if you really like him too much than u can say him yes bt if you hv feelings just like frnd so u can hv a better frnship so inspite of being confused u must decide whatever u want to do....
He is obviously sorry, I think you sbould give him another chance. If he does it again, then forget him.
i think you should try being his girlfriend. call him and try. but if after a couple of months you still dont feel confortable tell him how you really feel
so do the same process with him get his no contact on his email or chat on facebook or something like that %26amp; than taste him go on dates if u like
him than live with him or leave him
if u like this answer than please mark this as good answer so i will get 10 points %26amp; i wish u ill get ur good partner for whole life
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respond to him. you don't have to answer him yes or no about being his girlfriend.
be friends is good. ;) from there u see how it goes.ConFuSed..Friendship Or RelationShip?? Need AdVice?
I say date him, it sounds to me like you want to but you're just scared of losing your friend. You're not losing him your just taking your friendship to a different level
ok it sounds to me like he needs a friend a u need him. this is tough but i wood suggest being his friend and waiting to see if anything else comes from it
TALK TO HIM!! you obviously still like him and he likes you!
ignore him first, but if he really insist just talk to him and tell him how you fell. goodluck!
hey firstly u should decide that what u want to do want to ave frnship or really relationship....
if you really like him too much than u can say him yes bt if you hv feelings just like frnd so u can hv a better frnship so inspite of being confused u must decide whatever u want to do....
He is obviously sorry, I think you sbould give him another chance. If he does it again, then forget him.
i think you should try being his girlfriend. call him and try. but if after a couple of months you still dont feel confortable tell him how you really feel
so do the same process with him get his no contact on his email or chat on facebook or something like that %26amp; than taste him go on dates if u like
him than live with him or leave him
if u like this answer than please mark this as good answer so i will get 10 points %26amp; i wish u ill get ur good partner for whole life
good luck
Doubt best friend relationship???? Need advice and third persons view!!!?
So I have this best friend who he claims to be my best friend and claims I'm his best friend ever. Like he would only tell me personal things he wouldnt tell anyone and he says we will be friends forever and how he can not imagine to not have me in his life.
But then some of his actions make me doubt this. For example we rarely talk on the phone but ALOT on aim (pretty much everyday)because hes doesnt have his own cellphone n everything...its kinda complicated but anyways when he does call me those certain times,,its about homework and he makes his number private so I dont have his phone number on record. But like im always on aim because of my sidekick so I guess he always uses this to talk but then he would call other girls to talk more than he would ever talk 2 me. Like in school, sometimes I feel he isnt as close to me as he rly says he is like he would sometimes pick other ppl to work with instead of me and isnt as excited to walk with me as with his ';girlfriend'; whom he claims to rather lose than me so im rly confused.
btw...i use to like him too if that has anything to do with it
I just need advice because I dont know if he really treats me as a best friend or not. Does he mean wut he says? Am I rly his best friend?
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I don't think that he is your best friend...sounds to me like this guy is using you for homework help. The fact that he makes his telephone # private when he talks to you speaks volumes itself about how he wishes to keep the relationship between him and you.
If I were you, I would gradually stop helping him with his homework. If he still calls you afterwards, then you know that he is your friend and not just using you. Good luck! :)Doubt best friend relationship???? Need advice and third persons view!!!?
Maybe he doesn't want you to think that he wants it to become anything other than a friendship.
Well, let's just say guys are complicated. My ';best friend'; (who's also a guy) never invites me to his parties because he thinks I'm ';too young'; (meanwhile, we're only a little bit a part in age). He barely acknowledges me at school, and when he does, it's just a wave and smile. Yet on IM , he constantly talks to me and tells me how we're going to be best friends forever.
You're not the only one, but don't worry. If he confides in you, then you're most than likely his best friend.
Hope you feel better!
- ariaa bliss . %26lt;3
But then some of his actions make me doubt this. For example we rarely talk on the phone but ALOT on aim (pretty much everyday)because hes doesnt have his own cellphone n everything...its kinda complicated but anyways when he does call me those certain times,,its about homework and he makes his number private so I dont have his phone number on record. But like im always on aim because of my sidekick so I guess he always uses this to talk but then he would call other girls to talk more than he would ever talk 2 me. Like in school, sometimes I feel he isnt as close to me as he rly says he is like he would sometimes pick other ppl to work with instead of me and isnt as excited to walk with me as with his ';girlfriend'; whom he claims to rather lose than me so im rly confused.
btw...i use to like him too if that has anything to do with it
I just need advice because I dont know if he really treats me as a best friend or not. Does he mean wut he says? Am I rly his best friend?
-thanksDoubt best friend relationship???? Need advice and third persons view!!!?
I don't think that he is your best friend...sounds to me like this guy is using you for homework help. The fact that he makes his telephone # private when he talks to you speaks volumes itself about how he wishes to keep the relationship between him and you.
If I were you, I would gradually stop helping him with his homework. If he still calls you afterwards, then you know that he is your friend and not just using you. Good luck! :)Doubt best friend relationship???? Need advice and third persons view!!!?
Maybe he doesn't want you to think that he wants it to become anything other than a friendship.
Well, let's just say guys are complicated. My ';best friend'; (who's also a guy) never invites me to his parties because he thinks I'm ';too young'; (meanwhile, we're only a little bit a part in age). He barely acknowledges me at school, and when he does, it's just a wave and smile. Yet on IM , he constantly talks to me and tells me how we're going to be best friends forever.
You're not the only one, but don't worry. If he confides in you, then you're most than likely his best friend.
Hope you feel better!
- ariaa bliss . %26lt;3
A little bit of relationship/love advice for a 16 yr old please?
Thing is, Im 16 and fairly recently got dumped by someone i had initially met online ( and later for real too ). We were together about 7 months after which he said he had no time for me since he was starting college and a new life etc random crap. I later found out he actually had a crush on this emo girl who went to the same college...so he lied.
Anyway thats not what matters - im pretty much over it, and i dont like being single. Ive tried going back to the same sites like Tagged and meeting friends like that, which works as long as you're sensible about it, which i am. Ive met and seen some cute guys,who were all nice but none match what im looking for - im not asking for a lot, seriously.
Just what all girls want, someone who cares and maybe gives a hug now and again, at least okay looking physically, gives attention and listens to you rambling about your day.
So, my question to all you good people out there - are there better ways to find someone for a relationship rather than local friends and online people? If yes, please tell me what they are, I'd be grateful as frankly, i think im a really emotional person and i find love/being in love an important part of life.
'; any time spent not in love is time wasted'; lol
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Kristina.A little bit of relationship/love advice for a 16 yr old please?
I wouldn't worry about relationships at your age. go out with your friends and enjoy yourself.A little bit of relationship/love advice for a 16 yr old please?
Plenty more fish in the sea hun ! But I think you should wait a while before getting into anything serious just yet. your life is just beginning, take your time, don't grow up too quickly, cos before you know it you will wonder where the time went.
Anyway thats not what matters - im pretty much over it, and i dont like being single. Ive tried going back to the same sites like Tagged and meeting friends like that, which works as long as you're sensible about it, which i am. Ive met and seen some cute guys,who were all nice but none match what im looking for - im not asking for a lot, seriously.
Just what all girls want, someone who cares and maybe gives a hug now and again, at least okay looking physically, gives attention and listens to you rambling about your day.
So, my question to all you good people out there - are there better ways to find someone for a relationship rather than local friends and online people? If yes, please tell me what they are, I'd be grateful as frankly, i think im a really emotional person and i find love/being in love an important part of life.
'; any time spent not in love is time wasted'; lol
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Kristina.A little bit of relationship/love advice for a 16 yr old please?
I wouldn't worry about relationships at your age. go out with your friends and enjoy yourself.A little bit of relationship/love advice for a 16 yr old please?
Plenty more fish in the sea hun ! But I think you should wait a while before getting into anything serious just yet. your life is just beginning, take your time, don't grow up too quickly, cos before you know it you will wonder where the time went.
Problems getting into a relationship. Some Advice (Women need some input please as well as the guys)?
Ya as the title suggests I have not been in a relationship for a while. About like 5 or 6 years which i can't understand why. I mean I feel sometimes as if I can't find her and I am blinded by the light or something. Seriously I need some advice about how to sway my love life in other direction and eventually find her. I feel in my heart I will find her but sometimes I feel doubtful cause nothing is even happening. If you guys could give me some pointers I would greatly appreciate it.Problems getting into a relationship. Some Advice (Women need some input please as well as the guys)?
My advice is to accept people for who they are and not try to place mental or emotional restrictions (on your part) on their personalities. You're not perfect, so don't expect them to be. I've never understood how people can be so alone when there are so many people out there who want to be with someone. I've never been alone because there's no reason for it.
Drop your expectations and you will have a blast sorting through all the available women. And despite what you see on the surface as physical beauty, you'll find that once you get to know someone their physical beauty changes. That means that a gal that isn't all that the instant you lay eyes on her could turn out to be Miss America, and the other way around.
I'm not all that to look at, but I have a beauty of a wife. For some reason she sees something in me that I or others don't see. And I am constantly amazed, especially when I look at her, that I am lucky enough to own her love. It could work that way for you too.Problems getting into a relationship. Some Advice (Women need some input please as well as the guys)?
1st - don't look for ';her';. It's like trying to find a unicorn. Just let it happen. That's probably your problem, you're trying to find your ideal mate right off the bat and sometimes you have to have ';auditions'; first. Just start seeing people and try out different types of women, you never know who might turn into your soul mate.
aite man...this is what i do...im flirty with almost every girl. and when i do that...one of them will fall for it...and then you got her. another thing is be yourself. and definately keep your appearance good. I mean dont go walkin into somewhere lookin rough. just keep your head high and keep trying. you'll find her
it is your Selestina you need to feel good about your self if you fill about your self go for it but the lord dose things for a reason it just might no be your time to be in a relationship some times you are better off being by your self
you will find some one everyone needs time to just wait for the right person to come along never dough your self just wait and start going out with your friends to places and you will see girls or even over the internet ask girls for there numbers xxxx just dont hide away just make an effort
Just start talking to ladys.
The more you open yourself the more opportunities well get handed to you.
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There's plenty out there you just have to give a look. : P
You can email me I would be glad to help you out in anyway I possibly can. trinimendoza@gmail.com or allalonesinceuleft@yahoo.com
My advice is to accept people for who they are and not try to place mental or emotional restrictions (on your part) on their personalities. You're not perfect, so don't expect them to be. I've never understood how people can be so alone when there are so many people out there who want to be with someone. I've never been alone because there's no reason for it.
Drop your expectations and you will have a blast sorting through all the available women. And despite what you see on the surface as physical beauty, you'll find that once you get to know someone their physical beauty changes. That means that a gal that isn't all that the instant you lay eyes on her could turn out to be Miss America, and the other way around.
I'm not all that to look at, but I have a beauty of a wife. For some reason she sees something in me that I or others don't see. And I am constantly amazed, especially when I look at her, that I am lucky enough to own her love. It could work that way for you too.Problems getting into a relationship. Some Advice (Women need some input please as well as the guys)?
1st - don't look for ';her';. It's like trying to find a unicorn. Just let it happen. That's probably your problem, you're trying to find your ideal mate right off the bat and sometimes you have to have ';auditions'; first. Just start seeing people and try out different types of women, you never know who might turn into your soul mate.
aite man...this is what i do...im flirty with almost every girl. and when i do that...one of them will fall for it...and then you got her. another thing is be yourself. and definately keep your appearance good. I mean dont go walkin into somewhere lookin rough. just keep your head high and keep trying. you'll find her
it is your Selestina you need to feel good about your self if you fill about your self go for it but the lord dose things for a reason it just might no be your time to be in a relationship some times you are better off being by your self
you will find some one everyone needs time to just wait for the right person to come along never dough your self just wait and start going out with your friends to places and you will see girls or even over the internet ask girls for there numbers xxxx just dont hide away just make an effort
Just start talking to ladys.
The more you open yourself the more opportunities well get handed to you.
( :
There's plenty out there you just have to give a look. : P
You can email me I would be glad to help you out in anyway I possibly can. trinimendoza@gmail.com or allalonesinceuleft@yahoo.com
Single Mom :: In a relationship??? Need advice from other single moms!
I have a 5 year old little girl. I have been with this man for a year and a half. I dont want to get into all the details... since we know relationships are complicated. But I wanna know what I should find most important being with someone.. and already having a little girl. Like what characteristics I should look for in him.. that makes me want to hold on. For awhile now.. I have been un happy... and I just dont know what to do anymore. I want advice from those that are now married to someone.. and you started off just being a single mom and found the right one. And also from those.. that are going through what I am. Single Mom :: In a relationship??? Need advice from other single moms!
Hi chicks. I'm not married yet but i've found the one. I have a six year old son from a previous relationship also so i know where you're coming from. You should definitely find his relationship with your daughter most important. How does he interact with her and does he put her first like you do? My partner also has kids from a previous relationship. He has great understanding and treats Jack like his own even though it has been tough as my son rejected him and was very protective of me. It's been a rocky road for all of us, to be fair but communication is definitely key here chicks and we've made it out the other side (very happily now). Are you not happy because of the way your partner treats your daughter? Or is it he doesn't make you happy anymore? because these are two very separate issues. You just have to remember that your choices now affect your daughter too so choose wisely whether or not you want to be with this man.......good luck xxxSingle Mom :: In a relationship??? Need advice from other single moms!
if your man buts you and your little girl first thats the most important thing, if he makes you happy, if your not in the relantionship your kids can sense it. and thats one thing you dont want, your kids always comes first and as long as this other bloke knows that an can be happy with that.
i am in the same type of situation as you, up untill a few days ago my partner of about a year jus bugged me, dont no y and cant explain, he was like a puppy dog and it bugged me, i couldnt take no more ended it and 2 days later got back together. I realised what i had lost and how much he loves me and my daughter who is nearly 4. Dont know what advice to give, i looked at it as do i love him and splitting up made me see i love him so so much!! im not saying you should split up. xx
He should have feelings for you and your girls.
Does he care/love your girl as well.
Do not rush into getting married.
i was single mom for 5 years. if you are unhappy in the relationship you shouldn't be in it. you have your child to consider now. i started dating my current husband 2 years ago. we had dated back in 1996, so i already knew him. he is incredible with my daughter, and they have an awesome relationship that i have been able to watch grow. i know relationships are hard and adding a child to the mix makes it much more difficult. my advice to you is if you aren't happy in your current relationship you need to get out of it. the longer you are in it, the harder it will be to leave.
Hi chicks. I'm not married yet but i've found the one. I have a six year old son from a previous relationship also so i know where you're coming from. You should definitely find his relationship with your daughter most important. How does he interact with her and does he put her first like you do? My partner also has kids from a previous relationship. He has great understanding and treats Jack like his own even though it has been tough as my son rejected him and was very protective of me. It's been a rocky road for all of us, to be fair but communication is definitely key here chicks and we've made it out the other side (very happily now). Are you not happy because of the way your partner treats your daughter? Or is it he doesn't make you happy anymore? because these are two very separate issues. You just have to remember that your choices now affect your daughter too so choose wisely whether or not you want to be with this man.......good luck xxxSingle Mom :: In a relationship??? Need advice from other single moms!
if your man buts you and your little girl first thats the most important thing, if he makes you happy, if your not in the relantionship your kids can sense it. and thats one thing you dont want, your kids always comes first and as long as this other bloke knows that an can be happy with that.
i am in the same type of situation as you, up untill a few days ago my partner of about a year jus bugged me, dont no y and cant explain, he was like a puppy dog and it bugged me, i couldnt take no more ended it and 2 days later got back together. I realised what i had lost and how much he loves me and my daughter who is nearly 4. Dont know what advice to give, i looked at it as do i love him and splitting up made me see i love him so so much!! im not saying you should split up. xx
He should have feelings for you and your girls.
Does he care/love your girl as well.
Do not rush into getting married.
i was single mom for 5 years. if you are unhappy in the relationship you shouldn't be in it. you have your child to consider now. i started dating my current husband 2 years ago. we had dated back in 1996, so i already knew him. he is incredible with my daughter, and they have an awesome relationship that i have been able to watch grow. i know relationships are hard and adding a child to the mix makes it much more difficult. my advice to you is if you aren't happy in your current relationship you need to get out of it. the longer you are in it, the harder it will be to leave.
Family straining on our relationship..tips/advice?
Okay so I am 17, almost 18, I plan on moving out in June, but for now I am stuck under my parents roof, Well I have to babysit my sister and brother who are 13 and 12. I babysit them like once a week, and its aggravating.
I think that they are old enough to stay home alone for the evening, but my mother doesnt think they are (yet I was babysitting at that age!)
My brother does nothing but sit on the computer, its a constant battle to get things done with him. So my boyfriend has been over alot more and he gets them to listen, but now my mother is pissed at my boyfriend for telling him what to do, my mom has not said anything to me but to my older sister about it.(my older sis doesnt live at home) .
I cant take it..I hate being home, because my parents dont do anything about it..I have talked to my mom about it once and it changed for about a week...
My boyfriend and I have fought over this several times because I have given up on it, and he thinks that I will just give up and do the same thing to our kids..I have given up trying to discipline them, what should I do?
Oh and now that I told him what my sister said he said he wont come over my house when I am babysitting then..Ugh!!Family straining on our relationship..tips/advice?
Tell your mom that until she learns to deal with how your boyfriend CONTROLS your brother, that you wont babysit.
%26amp; dont do it.
Tell her you won't do it anymore,
At first I was on your mothers side, cause its only once a week. But if your mom was mad at your boyfriend because he tells your brother what to do, then thats just stupid. If you guys are babysitting, then YOU guys are in control. your brother %26amp; mother should suck it up.Family straining on our relationship..tips/advice?
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well honestly babe, im the youngest of my sisters, and im 18 and i get where you're coming from COMPLETELY. I just want to be treated like an adult for gods sake u know? but my parents think im this little girl whos absolutely clueless about everything. Im not. infact im very mature and know alot more than they do but they're just too stubborn to realise that their youngest is finally all grown up.That might be the deal (sort of) with your parents.they are unwilling to recognize the fact that you are basically an adult. so, what you need to do is, have that talk with your parents again, and say whatever you held back on saying last time. If they don't listen and things go back to being the same in a week, have that conversation again. Just don't blow up and make a scene and start fighting with your parents. They'll appreciate the fact that you are taking time to have a conversation with them. Show them that you really are an adult. As for your little brother and sister, dont give up on them. The only reason they listen to your boyfriend and not you is because they see him as an authority figure. So maybe you might need to work on how you come across when you babysit. Are you passive about things? Or do you decipline too harshly? Try talking to them more. have a conversation so they see you as a friend and less like their older sister being a prick. and just let them know whats up u know? well i hope this helps..and only a little more time b4 ur 18 and get to move out! lucky girl..wish i culd do that...
Suck it up til your 18. My neice is 14 and she always has to babysit her lil brothers and they are aweful and if she tries to disipline them SHE is the one to get in trouble. I feel bad for her, and I can see how you feel. Tell him its not your fault that theres nothing you can really do about it. Ya never know, he may have family issues that You will have to try to deal with later and he will want you around.
tell your mother that SHE is the mother not you and it should be HER raising them not YOU and since they WONT listen to you and only your boyfriend tell her that if she wants it any other way she'll grow up mature and take on the responsibility of her own children. if my mom done that i'd threaten to cease communication commencing on the day i moved out until she grew up a little. (i'm 20 now and moved out/married when i was 17)
my mother used to do the same thing with my sister.. but i told her i was tired of it and she had a choice. she could either be fair.. responsible.. and start raising her own kids rather than having one of her kids raise her other kids.. or she could risk losing her kid until she was straightened up.
I think that they are old enough to stay home alone for the evening, but my mother doesnt think they are (yet I was babysitting at that age!)
My brother does nothing but sit on the computer, its a constant battle to get things done with him. So my boyfriend has been over alot more and he gets them to listen, but now my mother is pissed at my boyfriend for telling him what to do, my mom has not said anything to me but to my older sister about it.(my older sis doesnt live at home) .
I cant take it..I hate being home, because my parents dont do anything about it..I have talked to my mom about it once and it changed for about a week...
My boyfriend and I have fought over this several times because I have given up on it, and he thinks that I will just give up and do the same thing to our kids..I have given up trying to discipline them, what should I do?
Oh and now that I told him what my sister said he said he wont come over my house when I am babysitting then..Ugh!!Family straining on our relationship..tips/advice?
Tell your mom that until she learns to deal with how your boyfriend CONTROLS your brother, that you wont babysit.
%26amp; dont do it.
Tell her you won't do it anymore,
At first I was on your mothers side, cause its only once a week. But if your mom was mad at your boyfriend because he tells your brother what to do, then thats just stupid. If you guys are babysitting, then YOU guys are in control. your brother %26amp; mother should suck it up.Family straining on our relationship..tips/advice?
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well honestly babe, im the youngest of my sisters, and im 18 and i get where you're coming from COMPLETELY. I just want to be treated like an adult for gods sake u know? but my parents think im this little girl whos absolutely clueless about everything. Im not. infact im very mature and know alot more than they do but they're just too stubborn to realise that their youngest is finally all grown up.That might be the deal (sort of) with your parents.they are unwilling to recognize the fact that you are basically an adult. so, what you need to do is, have that talk with your parents again, and say whatever you held back on saying last time. If they don't listen and things go back to being the same in a week, have that conversation again. Just don't blow up and make a scene and start fighting with your parents. They'll appreciate the fact that you are taking time to have a conversation with them. Show them that you really are an adult. As for your little brother and sister, dont give up on them. The only reason they listen to your boyfriend and not you is because they see him as an authority figure. So maybe you might need to work on how you come across when you babysit. Are you passive about things? Or do you decipline too harshly? Try talking to them more. have a conversation so they see you as a friend and less like their older sister being a prick. and just let them know whats up u know? well i hope this helps..and only a little more time b4 ur 18 and get to move out! lucky girl..wish i culd do that...
Suck it up til your 18. My neice is 14 and she always has to babysit her lil brothers and they are aweful and if she tries to disipline them SHE is the one to get in trouble. I feel bad for her, and I can see how you feel. Tell him its not your fault that theres nothing you can really do about it. Ya never know, he may have family issues that You will have to try to deal with later and he will want you around.
tell your mother that SHE is the mother not you and it should be HER raising them not YOU and since they WONT listen to you and only your boyfriend tell her that if she wants it any other way she'll grow up mature and take on the responsibility of her own children. if my mom done that i'd threaten to cease communication commencing on the day i moved out until she grew up a little. (i'm 20 now and moved out/married when i was 17)
my mother used to do the same thing with my sister.. but i told her i was tired of it and she had a choice. she could either be fair.. responsible.. and start raising her own kids rather than having one of her kids raise her other kids.. or she could risk losing her kid until she was straightened up.
Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
A quick summary about me. I am a serious bodybuilder, young, good and honest person.
Heres the scoop. I am currently dating this guy (We will call him ';Bob'; in this content). One major problem, is he still living with his ex. I asked him several times why he hasn't moved out. He has told me that he cant afford to move out because he has car payments and in debt. He also tells me that his relationship with his ex is very rocky. ';Bob'; tells me that they dont see much of each other because of their work schedule so the living situation is not that bad when his ex is not home. Another major concern to me is that they were once ';married.'; Meaning that they had a commiment ceromony. But around '05, that all fell apart when his ex abandoned him in a time when he was in need. ';Bob'; tells me that he will never forget that day when he abandoned him and that will never forgive him. Also, when ';Bob'; and his ex were together, he told me that they never had much sex, They went for a year or so without having sex. ';Bob'; tells me that he doesnt love him anymore. ';Bob'; also tells me that his ex has some serious anger issues and does this passive aggressive manipulation towards him; and that he has to be kind and help him around the house. I ask ';Bob'; what his friends think of his ex and they dont like him as well. However, ';Bob'; brings his friends over when his ex is around, but he doesnt allow me to come over when his ex around. ';Bob'; tells me that his ex disappears somewhere when he has company.
However, he just recently told me that his ex wants to get back with him. The other day, I had looked at his facebook account, and I noticed that his status says, ';Married to (his ex).'; Of course, I was hurt and devistated. I confronted him about it and he told me he did it to piss me off and that he is not in love with him anyway (I accuse him a lot of cheating). . Plus, that he is tired of me snooping around and me looking at his phone to see if he is cheating on me. I have MAJOR trust issues with him because, obviously he is still living with this ex. We have our arguements A LOT, but the make up part is incredible! Its hard for me to keep distant from him (or each other). I have tried so many times to leave him, but something keeps me coming back.
Now, my concerns are:
-Should I take his word and trust him that him and his ex are no more?
-Do you think he is just using me because of my well kept physique (he has a thing for bodybuilders)?
-Am I just hard headed, naive, REALLY STUPID that there is something still going on with them?
-How do I forget about him so that I don't keep comming back? I cant go through this anymore.
Out of all the muscles I have and that they can endure at the gym, my heart can't take this anymore, it hurts...Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
even though u are not going to take this advice, still gonna type it. let it go, time heals all wounds. what doesn't break u only makes u stronger. ur heart won't start to heal until u have ended.Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
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i dont think you should be worried, because she is his ex for a reason, also she ran out on him so he will be the more angry person in this so i dont think he will be crawling back to her, i think you should trust him, i really do, your with him over his ex for a reason, he wants you more and unless he is like the town bicycle then i dont think you have anything to be concerned over, if you need more help feel free to ask me anything i'll try my best to help you out with anythingeye look
Heres the scoop. I am currently dating this guy (We will call him ';Bob'; in this content). One major problem, is he still living with his ex. I asked him several times why he hasn't moved out. He has told me that he cant afford to move out because he has car payments and in debt. He also tells me that his relationship with his ex is very rocky. ';Bob'; tells me that they dont see much of each other because of their work schedule so the living situation is not that bad when his ex is not home. Another major concern to me is that they were once ';married.'; Meaning that they had a commiment ceromony. But around '05, that all fell apart when his ex abandoned him in a time when he was in need. ';Bob'; tells me that he will never forget that day when he abandoned him and that will never forgive him. Also, when ';Bob'; and his ex were together, he told me that they never had much sex, They went for a year or so without having sex. ';Bob'; tells me that he doesnt love him anymore. ';Bob'; also tells me that his ex has some serious anger issues and does this passive aggressive manipulation towards him; and that he has to be kind and help him around the house. I ask ';Bob'; what his friends think of his ex and they dont like him as well. However, ';Bob'; brings his friends over when his ex is around, but he doesnt allow me to come over when his ex around. ';Bob'; tells me that his ex disappears somewhere when he has company.
However, he just recently told me that his ex wants to get back with him. The other day, I had looked at his facebook account, and I noticed that his status says, ';Married to (his ex).'; Of course, I was hurt and devistated. I confronted him about it and he told me he did it to piss me off and that he is not in love with him anyway (I accuse him a lot of cheating). . Plus, that he is tired of me snooping around and me looking at his phone to see if he is cheating on me. I have MAJOR trust issues with him because, obviously he is still living with this ex. We have our arguements A LOT, but the make up part is incredible! Its hard for me to keep distant from him (or each other). I have tried so many times to leave him, but something keeps me coming back.
Now, my concerns are:
-Should I take his word and trust him that him and his ex are no more?
-Do you think he is just using me because of my well kept physique (he has a thing for bodybuilders)?
-Am I just hard headed, naive, REALLY STUPID that there is something still going on with them?
-How do I forget about him so that I don't keep comming back? I cant go through this anymore.
Out of all the muscles I have and that they can endure at the gym, my heart can't take this anymore, it hurts...Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
even though u are not going to take this advice, still gonna type it. let it go, time heals all wounds. what doesn't break u only makes u stronger. ur heart won't start to heal until u have ended.Help me in my relationship situation-advice, please! For all the gays, women, and men I need your help on this?
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i dont think you should be worried, because she is his ex for a reason, also she ran out on him so he will be the more angry person in this so i dont think he will be crawling back to her, i think you should trust him, i really do, your with him over his ex for a reason, he wants you more and unless he is like the town bicycle then i dont think you have anything to be concerned over, if you need more help feel free to ask me anything i'll try my best to help you out with anything
Trust issues in my relationship. Need advice.?
So I've been with this guy for a while now and I seem to have trust issues with him. Here's why: He has cheated in two of his previous relationships (a failed marriage and the most recent relationship). He ofcourse has given me his side of the story but I dont think this its excusable. He says he agrees with that, is extremely sorry for his behaviour and would not want to repeat it with anyone.
While he was in his last relationship, he was constantly flirting with this other girl, which ofcourse then led to the cheating. He said it happened only once and then he went back to his girlfriend to try and work on that relationship, which eventually didnt work out cuz it was never meant to be. He has never told his ex that he cheated on her and says there is no need.
Now when we started dating, it wasnt serious from either side. We didnt establish we were to be mutually exclusive till just a few months back because I was trying to get out of a marriage where I had been separated for three years. During this time he got on a dating website and sent a message to a girl to meet up with her. This I found out only recently by accident because there was an e-mail on his cellphone. He now says he never met up with her ever and says that he has never slept with any other woman since he has been with me. Now I'm out of the marriage and free to commit to this guy. But once a cheater, always a cheater?? I like this guy and maybe we could have something good together but I am afraid to trust him. He has not given me many reasons to doubt him but something always stops me from getting too close to him. I dont know if its my gut feeling or if I'm just paranoid. Any suggestions?Trust issues in my relationship. Need advice.?
';But once a cheater, always a cheater??'; You said it!Trust issues in my relationship. Need advice.?
hey i would never imagine myself cheating on my bf....ur partner has cheated twice and with different ladies..so b extremely careful...i wouldnt go out with him..trust is a great issue..no trust no relationship..b careful..believe in urself...who wants to live in doubt? i wouldnt..so find urself another guy
Trust in a relationship is really important if you don't think you can then you'll be his babysitter the rest of your time together. It's not very fun and usually doesn't last long.
You have to trust yourself to know what is right and stop letting other things like him play with your mind.
Stand up for yourself now or really hurt in a few months or years from now when you spent all that time knowing and not acting on it. If you don't then you've played the game and are just as guilty because you choose too.
I would advise you to NOT get involved with this guy. Once a cheater, always a cheater is not always true, but this guy doesn't sound very trustworthy. Maybe you should take some time to yourself since you're just getting out of a marriage, and find a guy that's going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It's obvious you don't trust this guy and there's a reason for it.
I hate guys, e.g. when it comes to not telling the truth or being honest. I would be leery with a guy like that.
-It's not a UNIVERSAL FACT that once a cheater always a cheater
-if you don't have trust than you need to work on your relationship
He Sounds creepy and untrustworthy or a chode/lame-o.. I don't know try KEYLOGGERS?
While he was in his last relationship, he was constantly flirting with this other girl, which ofcourse then led to the cheating. He said it happened only once and then he went back to his girlfriend to try and work on that relationship, which eventually didnt work out cuz it was never meant to be. He has never told his ex that he cheated on her and says there is no need.
Now when we started dating, it wasnt serious from either side. We didnt establish we were to be mutually exclusive till just a few months back because I was trying to get out of a marriage where I had been separated for three years. During this time he got on a dating website and sent a message to a girl to meet up with her. This I found out only recently by accident because there was an e-mail on his cellphone. He now says he never met up with her ever and says that he has never slept with any other woman since he has been with me. Now I'm out of the marriage and free to commit to this guy. But once a cheater, always a cheater?? I like this guy and maybe we could have something good together but I am afraid to trust him. He has not given me many reasons to doubt him but something always stops me from getting too close to him. I dont know if its my gut feeling or if I'm just paranoid. Any suggestions?Trust issues in my relationship. Need advice.?
';But once a cheater, always a cheater??'; You said it!Trust issues in my relationship. Need advice.?
hey i would never imagine myself cheating on my bf....ur partner has cheated twice and with different ladies..so b extremely careful...i wouldnt go out with him..trust is a great issue..no trust no relationship..b careful..believe in urself...who wants to live in doubt? i wouldnt..so find urself another guy
Trust in a relationship is really important if you don't think you can then you'll be his babysitter the rest of your time together. It's not very fun and usually doesn't last long.
You have to trust yourself to know what is right and stop letting other things like him play with your mind.
Stand up for yourself now or really hurt in a few months or years from now when you spent all that time knowing and not acting on it. If you don't then you've played the game and are just as guilty because you choose too.
I would advise you to NOT get involved with this guy. Once a cheater, always a cheater is not always true, but this guy doesn't sound very trustworthy. Maybe you should take some time to yourself since you're just getting out of a marriage, and find a guy that's going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It's obvious you don't trust this guy and there's a reason for it.
I hate guys, e.g. when it comes to not telling the truth or being honest. I would be leery with a guy like that.
-It's not a UNIVERSAL FACT that once a cheater always a cheater
-if you don't have trust than you need to work on your relationship
He Sounds creepy and untrustworthy or a chode/lame-o.. I don't know try KEYLOGGERS?
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hey everyone, i have a lil problem and i need to know what everyone else would do if they were in this situation, especially the woman,.
ok, lemme start by saying my bf is 25, im 24 and we been dating for a lil over a yr and a half. i dooo love him and he loves me more then anyone else in this entire world, he is a very goodlooking guy and does have a great body BUTTTTT for some reason i find myself never wanting to be sexual with him. i do it only for him, but im never in the mood to anymore. like ever. hes not the best i have ever been with but hes not bad by any means. i dont know what to do. i find myself wanting to cheat all the time. and i think if the chance was there id do it. but we do live together anddddd i do love him and dont wanna break up. i think. i cant imange anyone loving me more or treating me better then he does. so my question is, if u were in this position what would u do. is it time to break up??? thanks in advance!Mature Answers Only Please/ Relationship/Sex Advice!!!?
sounds like you have no desire... has something happened recently???
do you feel sexual desire any other time???Mature Answers Only Please/ Relationship/Sex Advice!!!?
no it's time to spice it up. get creative. Make it fun for you too. It's not that you want to cheat it's that you're bored. adn get ou tfo that mind set that ';you do it for him'; that's not helping the situation. Go to a ';toy store'; find something interesting to you and intorduce it to him. That way when you go in the bedroom with him it's for BOTH of you and you'll find yourself enjoying each other and the realtionship a little more.
TCS, you are not being fair here. Did you tell him what you wanted while he made love to you? If not, we men are not mind readers. If you want something to be done sit down and talk to him about it. Don't fall for 80/20 rule. You have 80 percent with your bf and 20 percent of you want to give to someone for sex. Not good odds.
If you know you are going to cheat then he really deserves better than what you can offer to him. Good luck.
he was looking at next womans fanny he was?
he s looking for diffrent fanny he is?
he'z tired of your fanny he is!!
save save next womanz fanny
PLEASE DO NOT let your sex drive or lack of it for this man screw him up!!!!!!! If you have thought about being a cheater, leave him and never return. If you have had these thoughts you have cheated in the past and you will at least always have these thoughts. PLEASE do not screw him up.
you know i have been in that situation where i gave and done everything for the girl i was with and i was good to her in everyway but she had the urge to cheat and thats what you are feeling too and the love is their but your feelings are not and if you dont feel comfortable keeping your self sacred to him only i suggest that you tell him and be honest and say that you love him but you desire to be with other men and are thinking about it too and tell him that you dont want to hurt him and try to talk and work something out so that you two will stay togather and not break up.what you have to do is look into your mind and ask yourself what do you really want and is he giving you and making you feel how you really want to feel.and if not tell him on what you want done to you and how to make you feel better so that you will not have to think about sleeping with other men.and dont hurt him or his feelngs because it hurts and the nice guys that are out here are trying to find a woman that we can give all our love to and then we end up getting hurt because we do our best and its not good enough and then we hear why are men such jerks is because they meet the wrong ones.in this case you have a good man and if you lose him you will regret for the rest of your life.i know because my ex wants me back and what she done to me i cant forget,maybe one day i will but for now,im looking for my one and only.take care and god bless and i hope everything works out.
sounds like sex is just getting a bit same old same old. He is probably feeling the same way! Spice things up do something you wouldn't normal do. like dress up or role playing you may find he excels at it and you fancy him all over again!
Perhaps this e-book can help you with your relationship? It's a free download so it's worth a shot I think.
ok, lemme start by saying my bf is 25, im 24 and we been dating for a lil over a yr and a half. i dooo love him and he loves me more then anyone else in this entire world, he is a very goodlooking guy and does have a great body BUTTTTT for some reason i find myself never wanting to be sexual with him. i do it only for him, but im never in the mood to anymore. like ever. hes not the best i have ever been with but hes not bad by any means. i dont know what to do. i find myself wanting to cheat all the time. and i think if the chance was there id do it. but we do live together anddddd i do love him and dont wanna break up. i think. i cant imange anyone loving me more or treating me better then he does. so my question is, if u were in this position what would u do. is it time to break up??? thanks in advance!Mature Answers Only Please/ Relationship/Sex Advice!!!?
sounds like you have no desire... has something happened recently???
do you feel sexual desire any other time???Mature Answers Only Please/ Relationship/Sex Advice!!!?
no it's time to spice it up. get creative. Make it fun for you too. It's not that you want to cheat it's that you're bored. adn get ou tfo that mind set that ';you do it for him'; that's not helping the situation. Go to a ';toy store'; find something interesting to you and intorduce it to him. That way when you go in the bedroom with him it's for BOTH of you and you'll find yourself enjoying each other and the realtionship a little more.
TCS, you are not being fair here. Did you tell him what you wanted while he made love to you? If not, we men are not mind readers. If you want something to be done sit down and talk to him about it. Don't fall for 80/20 rule. You have 80 percent with your bf and 20 percent of you want to give to someone for sex. Not good odds.
If you know you are going to cheat then he really deserves better than what you can offer to him. Good luck.
he was looking at next womans fanny he was?
he s looking for diffrent fanny he is?
he'z tired of your fanny he is!!
save save next womanz fanny
PLEASE DO NOT let your sex drive or lack of it for this man screw him up!!!!!!! If you have thought about being a cheater, leave him and never return. If you have had these thoughts you have cheated in the past and you will at least always have these thoughts. PLEASE do not screw him up.
you know i have been in that situation where i gave and done everything for the girl i was with and i was good to her in everyway but she had the urge to cheat and thats what you are feeling too and the love is their but your feelings are not and if you dont feel comfortable keeping your self sacred to him only i suggest that you tell him and be honest and say that you love him but you desire to be with other men and are thinking about it too and tell him that you dont want to hurt him and try to talk and work something out so that you two will stay togather and not break up.what you have to do is look into your mind and ask yourself what do you really want and is he giving you and making you feel how you really want to feel.and if not tell him on what you want done to you and how to make you feel better so that you will not have to think about sleeping with other men.and dont hurt him or his feelngs because it hurts and the nice guys that are out here are trying to find a woman that we can give all our love to and then we end up getting hurt because we do our best and its not good enough and then we hear why are men such jerks is because they meet the wrong ones.in this case you have a good man and if you lose him you will regret for the rest of your life.i know because my ex wants me back and what she done to me i cant forget,maybe one day i will but for now,im looking for my one and only.take care and god bless and i hope everything works out.
sounds like sex is just getting a bit same old same old. He is probably feeling the same way! Spice things up do something you wouldn't normal do. like dress up or role playing you may find he excels at it and you fancy him all over again!
Perhaps this e-book can help you with your relationship? It's a free download so it's worth a shot I think.
Ladies please help, relationship issue, advice neeeded!?
I am a Senior, and the girl is a junior. We have never talked, but she told 2 of my friends that she thought i was cute. Since then (2 weeks ago) everybody has made a big deal out of it, so i havent talked to her. Seniors (me) recently graduated so i wont even bump into her anymore. I have her screenname, and I want to get to know her. What is the best way to go about this? If i try to do it through AIM, how can i work the conversation without it getting awkward since we have never talked? Thanks for the help.Ladies please help, relationship issue, advice neeeded!?
Say heyyy!! I'm ';robert'; Whatp's up? Tell her well you seemed really cool to talked to...Idk from then on you just talk about anything..Eventually you ask her to hang out one day, but to not scare her for the first time ask her if a friend of hers and she want to hang with you and your friend..Make sure her friend knows your friend..Ladies please help, relationship issue, advice neeeded!?
Well the best way to go about that is to just talk to her before it is too late. If you don't you will never know what could have come of it; trust your gut if you think she is cute also. I met the man I love in high school I was a junior he was a senior we have been together for almost twelve years!
Start with a compiment. We love those. Then mention that you heard she thought you were cute. Say you think she's cute too. Then try getting to know her better. If she's not interested then give up. Hope this works.
Say heyyy!! I'm ';robert'; Whatp's up? Tell her well you seemed really cool to talked to...Idk from then on you just talk about anything..Eventually you ask her to hang out one day, but to not scare her for the first time ask her if a friend of hers and she want to hang with you and your friend..Make sure her friend knows your friend..Ladies please help, relationship issue, advice neeeded!?
Well the best way to go about that is to just talk to her before it is too late. If you don't you will never know what could have come of it; trust your gut if you think she is cute also. I met the man I love in high school I was a junior he was a senior we have been together for almost twelve years!
Start with a compiment. We love those. Then mention that you heard she thought you were cute. Say you think she's cute too. Then try getting to know her better. If she's not interested then give up. Hope this works.
Really need some relationship/life advice?
this is a bit complicated but i'll dumb it down. I've been with my sig other for about 5 yrs now. I've also identified as gay for the past 6 years. I've had about equal boy to girlfriend ratio. Well i just went back to college not long ago...I have virtually no friends left and the person who i wanted to spend my life with ..well there are really 3 factors/problems at work here. First and foremost there is no passion, no conversation...nothing left..we barely say boo to each other anymore, we just go exist. 2nd off I've been having a 'breakdown'; and I dont identify as queer anymore I've been more interested in men lately and i have this feeling of wanting a more normal life. and 3rd and perhaps the biggest reason is that my sig other revealed an absolutely astonishing secret to me (they're a transexual)...now aside from all the other factors that play into that...it's not only changed the dynamic of our relationship, not only feels like i've been betrayed and trust is really gone but it has shifted my identity.
My problem is, I'm not so sure I'm ready to face the world alone and do the whole dating thing all over again. It could be forever until I find myself or somebody else. It's a scary prospect...I dont even have any friends and on top of all that I'm a pretty big tomboy and men aren't really interested in me so...I don't know what to do...but as much as I cherish what we had, the truth is i'm not happy ...and i'm not sure where anything is going anymore.
any advice?Really need some relationship/life advice?
If there are no feelings then that's it, bottom line. The who gay thing may have been a phase, fortunate for you. It's normal for younger people to have these curiosities. Do your best to move on. If you show guys that you are interested, they may come around regardless of the fact that you consider yourself a tomboy. If you find a man who makes you feel girly then right on.Really need some relationship/life advice?
If there was ever a time for a time out now is it.
You are wrong about guys and tomboy girls too
Sexual Identity in who you are and I can assure you that there are many people who are attracted to both sexes and many find love and stability in their life's.
I wish you well and if after a while you are still in turmoil see a therapist
WOW.
you have no feelings left for your sig other.
your gay, but lately want to be with men.
your sig other is really a transexual
and your afraid of being alone in the world....
I highly suggest a therapist
My problem is, I'm not so sure I'm ready to face the world alone and do the whole dating thing all over again. It could be forever until I find myself or somebody else. It's a scary prospect...I dont even have any friends and on top of all that I'm a pretty big tomboy and men aren't really interested in me so...I don't know what to do...but as much as I cherish what we had, the truth is i'm not happy ...and i'm not sure where anything is going anymore.
any advice?Really need some relationship/life advice?
If there are no feelings then that's it, bottom line. The who gay thing may have been a phase, fortunate for you. It's normal for younger people to have these curiosities. Do your best to move on. If you show guys that you are interested, they may come around regardless of the fact that you consider yourself a tomboy. If you find a man who makes you feel girly then right on.Really need some relationship/life advice?
If there was ever a time for a time out now is it.
You are wrong about guys and tomboy girls too
Sexual Identity in who you are and I can assure you that there are many people who are attracted to both sexes and many find love and stability in their life's.
I wish you well and if after a while you are still in turmoil see a therapist
WOW.
you have no feelings left for your sig other.
your gay, but lately want to be with men.
your sig other is really a transexual
and your afraid of being alone in the world....
I highly suggest a therapist
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