Help!! 10 points.. I think i really messed up =/ (relationship advice)?

long story short my ex and i still love and care for eachother.. he just wants a friendship right now and i told him today that its too hard to just be friends with someone you love and told him that we shouldent talk anymore.. I didnt mean it though just said it out of anger.. what should i do? Im calling him tonight and i wanna know how i should explain it to him. Now he dosent wanna talk to me!! I need help!Help!! 10 points.. I think i really messed up =/ (relationship advice)?
Slow and Steady ... I think both of you need time to adjust.


Maybe, its a time delay thing. You can try again when your not both so sensitive.


Now if you really don't want to remain friends, then you will have to come to terms with it and let him know just that.


Another thing is that there had to be a reason why he suddenly decided that he wanted to just be friends?





the more that both of you talk the better the understanding will be.


You and he are the only ones that know what brought this about.


the one great thing that you both have is that both of you have been friends before.


both of you like the idea of being friends. Why not go with that


if you were going out with each other there was something that helped you both connect with each other in the first place.





Maybe you might want to reconsider and tell him that as well.


That you have had time to think about it and .you want to retain the friendship that you both have and maybe in time there will be that closeness again





the way I see it and that's only my opinion


the best relationship starts with being friends first.





Good Luck I really hope it works for both of you


DreamWishperHelp!! 10 points.. I think i really messed up =/ (relationship advice)?
To start off, I would only recommend you calling him if you really do want to be friends and wouldn't mind that if you can't get him back. If you believe ( which you shouldn't) that their is no hope for the two of you I would say to let him go and find someone that will care about you as much as you deserve to be cared about.





That being said I would call him and tell him sorry that you said that to him. I would make sure to say if you can't have his heart you would take his friendship any day.





Since I know you still want him that way, try your hardest to win him back as a friend because I know that's what you would do anyway. No one should ever lose hope and give up on things: the best things are worth fighting for. You have just said you guys still care for each other, so that right there should be the fuel that drives you back to the love you guys once shared.






Wow.... Well your going through EXACTLY what i went through a couple of months ago... I loved my ';now'; boyfriend again.... Well... I think you should give it time... Whatever your going to say wont change it.. Yes, its hard to be friends with an ex and thats what I told him too.. I told him i cant see him being with someone else if i still love him... So... Just be honest. If you cant be friends with him at the moment, then so be it... I told him i couldnt, we didnt talk for a month...And now, we're back together. He tells me im his bestfriend and girlfriend now. Im sure you two will get back together. Just give it time girl. Everything happens for a reason.
From an experience point of view, you are right. You probably shouldnt have yelled it, but it is best to not be friends unless you were good friends before dating. It happened to me and an ex, broke up and were still seeing eachother and being 'friends' for another 8 months then when he told me he was dating someone else, it hurt bad.
if its to hard to be friends it will be harder breaking up ...............but you will get over it this happened to me also and me and my ex stopped talking after being Friends, we stopped for about three months but then she just called me and said she missed me now we are together and its still kind of rough but you just gotta work towards what you want.
Keeping contact with your ex-s is hard. Unless you're the type of person who can be friends with your ex and not have feelings for them, then u go girl! If you're like me, a person who still cares for them, then its probably not a good idea to keep in contact. You should give yourself some time to heal and focus on other things than your ex and waiting a little while to clear things up is best. After clearing things up, move on and find someone else, its sounds to me that its best that way.
okay listen just say that when i you heard that from ur ex it killed me and want to still talk to you and be friends if that is what you wants.





cuz you love him


that you don't want to be friends


he gave you something thats means alot to you


and just say i love you enough to the point that if it means being friends then i'll do that just for you if it time you need then i'll give you time


listen if he loves you he will see that you love him enough to be friends with him


just be friends i mean don't stop loving him


he might just need time because he confused or he loves you enough to the point he doesn't want to mess up again


or be hurt


so just be friends and start like fresh


he may come back to you


and he may not you never know
I would wait a few hours to let him cool off... just tell him exactly what u feel just like u did when u were explaining the situation. Tell him that you really do love him and you don't want to be ';just friends'; but if that's really what he feels like he wants from you right now, then you can accept that (because you love him) and try your best to be ';just friends'; with him, but right now you just can't, and you only told him you would rather not talk at all because you felt like you couldn't handle just talking to him as just a friend because of the way you feel about him. You are so used to talking to him as your boyfriend and its weird as just friends it doesn't feel the same and it makes us not being together harder so I'll just need some time to put myself in the mind-frame of ';just friends'; before I can just jump into being ';just friends';... does that sound about right? do you have text messaging? because if he still doesn't answer in a few hours, send him a text message and let him know how u feel that way u know it's off ur chest and he knows about how u feel it will make u feel better that he does and maybe he'll text back. But
this is similar to me and my ex. except i didnt tell him i didnt want to talk to him. if he doesnt answer your call, you should definitely talk to him in person. its a little harder, but your point is much more effective. just explain to him that you said that out of anger. if he loves you still he'll understand. and if he just wants to be friends right now, and you really love him..then you'll let it be. whats meant to be will happen.
You were right to do that. If you want to be more than friends and he doesn't, then that is too much emotional pain for you to handle especially if he starts dating someone else. He may find that he misses you more than he thought and come back to you begging to be with you. That is what happened to me and m now husband. I told him I didn't want to be friends. We went our separate ways and four months later he showed up on m doorstep and we've now been together 6 years and married for 6 months. We are very happy.
something like this happen to me....just wait it out, give him time to cool off....and if he does have feelings for you and you guys still love each other and alll, and were ment to be together then he willl accept your appoligy and you guys can move on together, happily....theres no point in trying to talk to him now when he is all fired up....so just leave him alone for now and then make your move again. it worked out for me that way
you need to tell him exactly how you feel... ik it will be tough but you wont regret saying what you want to tell him... if you dont express how you feel you might not be able to again... and if you and him get back together then thts greatt!! :) but if you dont you just need to know its what was supposed to happen. try and talk things out with him!!





best of luck!!! :)
sorry but you screwed up...i did the same thing to my ex and its been about 2 weeks. she's starting to talk to me but not a whole lot...i know what your going through right now. it needs time and no matter how many times you say you didn't mean to say it you were still thinking it. just hope he's like my ex and gets over it...
here's something you should know., you should wait a while after a breakage to be friends, its too stressful and awkward.





do you want to talk to him?





then call him and be like hey im sorry what i said earlier, guys are, odd. he might just hang up the phone or be nice about it.





figure out if you want to talk to him or not before calling him.
iph he insist it that way...then u might as welll leave it the way it is..and give him some time to think over it..it was him who chose it that way at the beginning..and he's the one who's pissing u oph and threatens u to the point that u say it without actual meaning it... so its ok~~..give him some time..iph not..then i wud say...u better oph with someone else who will appreciates u..=D gud luck!
Give him space to miss you! You meant what you said anger or not, that is how you feel. If he just wants a friendship, give him a friendship. Let him come to you if he wants more than a friendship. But don't give him the milk, make him buy the cow!
you sort of put your foot in your mouth.Emotion are intense things give your self time to figure out your emotion and then talk to him. but if you want to be friends with him it IS not fair to drive him crazy by just being friends . you need to figure out what is best for the both of you.
Let him contact you and seriously if he doesn't then he's not worth the chase. In the future don't do anything to a man just to spite him. With men that usually never works it only pushes them further away than you wanted and makes them non-responsive.
if he doesnt answer dont leave a voice mail go to his house err sumthing





tell him the truth you dont have to make any excuse for the truth tell him you only said it out of anger and you didnt mean it hopefully hel understand good luck
i will help you.... if he doesn't want to talk just leave him a message and say something like this :





'; sorry babe, (is that what u called him ?) i was in a bad mood when i said what i said, and what i want to say is what u said, which was we should remain friends, just like u want. ) hope u forgive me...love....ur name mail the letter and ur safe...
Give him time to cool off. Then talk to him. Tell him exactly what you told us, and he'll understand. You might also want to talk face to face. It's a little bit more personal, and he'll be able to see your regret. Godspeed.
you should say to him that you are sorry and you didnt mean what you said. you need to tell him that you love him and it is hard just being friends with him and explain that. he should understand
When you call him, tell him you didn't mean it and you said it cause you were angry. You got carried away because you really want to be with him again. Tell him you're sorry and that you love him.
Give him time to cool down then call him. Then if he still doesn't answer leave a meassage saying you love and i thought about it and I would rather have you as a friend then not have you at all.
Just tell him the truth that you were angery and stuff like that explain everything he should understand if he really loves you
Sweets, You have to respect his wishes. It sounds like he wants some time to think about what he wants. If it's meant to be it will be. Give it time.
there are two ways you can approach this.





1)You can call him and tell him what you just said on here





OR





2) You can wait and see if he cares enough for you to come to you first.
just tell him how hard it is for you.. that he still wants to be friends and nothing more


when you still love him...


and that your sorry
Stay with it. Too much Drama right now. Let it settle down.


Good luck,


Juan
just give him some space. in a couple of months he'll cool down and you'll be able to talk to him civilly.
say what you just said on here....dont say things you dont mean you will regret it