Okay guys, spiritually speaking, I need some relationship advice...?

Here is the story. It's really long but I'd really appreciate any insight you guys could provide because this is really bugging me... :-s





I met this guy (let's call him Mark) through a group of mutual friends. Mark, me, and our group of friends hung out regularly (almost daily) and Mark and I began to have chemistry. We started talking on the phone every night, at one point we talked on the phone for 5.5 hours like school kids... We spent some time together alone, outside our group of friends a couple times and started getting closer.





The last time we hung out together in a couple sort of way was with two of our other friends and we saw a movie. Mark was a very touchy-feely that night but I was trying to keep a little distance so as to not to be too touchy-feely in front of our friends. After that night, he stopped calling every day. We all hung out as a group at a local restaurant the night before he went out of town for a few days and everything was normal between us. Ever since then, he has not been around and I hadn't heard from him.





One day last week, he called to talk to me about the fact that we hadn't spoken. He told me that a friend of his had a bit of a crush on me and wanted to see how I felt about it. ';How I feel about which?'; I asked, ';You, or your friend?'; He replied ';Both.'; He then stated that he wanted to make sure I wasn't mad at him for not having been around and that he hadn't been intentionally avoiding me but that he ';had a lot going on lately.'; I told him that A, I was not interested in his friend and B. I was not mad at him for not calling but that I did miss hanging out with him and that he ought to come around more often. He stated that he would but has not. I saw him briefly at a friend's house last week but nothing since then.





A close friend of his mentioned to me, when we first started seeing each other, that Mark was a bit insecure about us because he is a college student and I am a homeowner and have a career going. He advised that I should try to be very reassuring toward him. I am not sure if I may have pushed him away, or if he is simply not interested anymore. At any rate. I really like the guy and I am not sure how to proceed...





For those of you who did, thanks so much for taking the time to read this and I really appreciate your advice!Okay guys, spiritually speaking, I need some relationship advice...?
I can't tell you what the best course of action would be, but I can tell you what I would do. If I really cared about him, or felt that there was real potential for the two of us, I'd give him one last call. I mean, if he's insecure about you, and you're not calling, he may be thinking you're just not into him.Okay guys, spiritually speaking, I need some relationship advice...?
Spiritually speaking the first response is absolutely correct.


Although, he obviously likes you.


He asked you how you felt about a ';friend'; and when you asked who, him or the friend, he said ';both.'; hmmmmm...





;-)
I would just move on and find someone that is more upfront with you and not insecure. There is nothing worse than trying to reassure an insecure guy throughout a relationship, it will wear you out.
(A Guy) He is insecure about something....He should have told you what ';a lot going on'; is....get this out of him, initiate the I'm interested in you body language.....Apologize for (make it up)...see what happens.
I'm afraid I can't help.





My idea of courtship is pointing at a girl and saying, ';You are attractive. Let's mate.';





I never have understood the whole relationship silliness. :)
Sounds to me like he took your lack of ';touchy-feely-ness'; as a lack of interest. Just come out and tell him you're interested. What do you have to lose?
Go hard or go home. Coyness and insecurity are relationship killers.
A helluva rouchy-sex session will fix things...
Let me say this first. YOU are not the problem. He was rejected by you, probably for good reason; and he resents that. Lola is right, he's playing games
Honestly, it seems like a game and I'd remove myself from a game player as fast as I could.





Good Luck!
Ok, so why does the guy have to ring you? If you wana talk to him or hang out with him, why can't YOU ring HIM?
It looks like that chapter is closed. Leave it be, he's got a bit more maturing to do.
Sounds like Mark is a tad shy around the ladies. Take the bull by the horns (metaphorically speaking), and tell him flat out that you like him and would like to date. Get it out in the open 100% then he will either step up or wimp out. Either way you'll know whether or not to keep hope alive or move on. Best of luck to ya!
Sounds like when you weren't ';touchy-feely'; back, he figured you weren't attracted to him like that.





He probably assumed you only wanted him as a friend.





Be straightforward and honest--guys love that...considering they are terrible at interpreting hints and ';beating-around-the-bush.';





Keep it simple. He'll thank you for it.
Have you attempted to call him and ask him to come over for dinner or drinks. If you haven't then do so but if you have then he is avoiding you because he isn't interested anymore. It's easier to avoid someone then it is to tell them you've lost that lovin feelin. My guess would be it's over and maybe next time you see him let him know in a nice way that it's ok with you, even if you arn't ok with it. Guys don't like weepy women.
If I were you I'd throw caution to the wind and invite him over to your place for something you both enjoy, like Chinese and a movie for example. He may just be shy. Guys are very sensitive to how girls respond to us and he may think you're not very interested in him.