I'm desperate and could really use your relationship advice! Male and Female opinions needed!?

I would really appreciate your help….and your honest advice:


My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years, when my best friend moved into town, shes single and I thought that I was missing out being 22 and single, so I started staying out really late, and sometimes not coming home. I basically told my boyfriend that I would do whatever I want when I want to… and we started to fight non-stop for about 2 months…. Finally one day I came home and moved out all of my stuff, including ½ of our furniture. He and I didn’t speak for 2 months, and then I realized that I was a jerk and I treated him like crap and that I still love him and I want to get back together with him. I asked him to have lunch with me and he did, we met last Saturday and I told him how I felt and that I wanted to work things out…. He told me that he still loved me, but he didn’t know if we should get back together… I asked him if we could start hanging out and talking and he said yes… But then 2 days later he started saying things like “you made your bed now lie in it”, “You broke my heart when you moved out and now I don’t know if I can trust you again…” and “I don’t know if we’ll ever get back together”, “Do you really think im going to let you control me again”…. And so I continued to apologize and beg him to see me and he said “I’m willing to talk to you and see you, but not as often as you like, and you have to accept that.” I told him I would and now its been 4 days and he still wont call me, and im dying inside! I don’t want to call him because he made it clear that he wants to be in control of this…. What do I do? What are the chances that he still loves me and wants to get back together? I’d appreciate your advice. My friends think that he’s just trying to make me hurt for a little while so that I can feel how he felt when I left.I'm desperate and could really use your relationship advice! Male and Female opinions needed!?
he hasn't called you because he is testing you to see if you can let him be in control


and he is probably is trying to make you hurt


i don't know why guys do it, but its a guy thing. He is trying to get his pride back


Hang in there- try not to think about him- he will call


but if he starts to act like a jerk to you call him out on itI'm desperate and could really use your relationship advice! Male and Female opinions needed!?
obviously he still loves you, he just needs time.


you can't expect him to just jump in head first again after the way you broke his heart %26amp; things like that.


just stick around, show him that you're not that person anymore, hang out with him whenever he will and he'll gradually trust you again.
Your a ***** and you ****** him around...you cannot deny that. You abused his trust and he deserves someone better. You are not a nice person but you should learn from this and balance your life and maybe youl oneday find someone as good as him again.
In a way its true





your relationship will never be the same because you bf will never know when your going to just walk up and out his life again.
he still loves you, he just needs time.
you should not play games with people
Well things most likely wont be the same. You were mean to him, you acted like you were single and didn't consider how he was feeling. Now he's wanting to take things slow and be your friend so you will have to take it if you really want him back. Since it 's been 4 days I don't see anything wrong with you sending him a text saying ';I just wanted to say hi and see how u r doing'; if not response from him then let it go. You always want what you can't have. Good luck
';you reap what you sow'; is my thought on this. You should have realized that coming back after leaving in that manner would not be easy. Give him time and quite honestly I wonder if someone else has been there for him while you were out playing with your wild side friends? Things are not going to move quickly with this relationship so be ready to work hard to regain his trust. If it is supposed to be, it will work out. If not you have learned a powerful lesson in life.
I really doubt your friends are right here. I think he had already moved on and you coming back into his life is complicating matters.





The chances are that he does still love you but you did hurt him and regardless of his current feelings he may have made the decision that you two can't have a healthy relationship and has decided to distance himself from any future heartbreak.





I'm giving long odds on you two getting back together.
he's definitely only doing that just to hurt you and make you feel guilty for leaving and hurting him . don't call him - as much as it hurts inside you need to give him space for a little while until he realizes that by 'playing your game' hes actually going to end up losing you . wait it out and he'll eventually call you and if he still hasnt contacted you after a while.. then let it go . if it was meant to be, he will eventually make the effort to get you back .
kinda sounds like your friends are right when people hurt you ur natural instict is 2 hurt them back. youve moved out partied and did god knows what and now you want to come back.. you have 2 evaluate yourself and figure out if you want a serious relationship or a single life. if ur ex is what you want then you have to start by admitting your wrongs and putting all your feelings out there. Then you tell him you know he needs his space and time to think and when hes done evauating ';himself' also youll be there... then leave him alone don't keep calling him.. find something to occupy yourself ';no more parting'; then if he wants to talk about ur relationship set ground rules that you want go out all night like before but you need your time to get out also... Compromise Compromise compromise... And make sure hes really willing 2 trust u again and has truly forgiven you because trust is key!