Pregnant, relationship, need advice please?

Okay first off, i just want to say if youre one of them people who leave negative nasty comments, please just ex this page out.. i really need advice without anyone being judgemental.. found out im pregnant, and now im 12 weeks along ... ok soo .. i was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years .. we tried and tried to have a baby.. and never seemed to work. things got rocky for 2 / 3 months, we broke up.. i found someone i was interested with, and startin dating.. well .. me and that guy broke up .. and my boyfriend n i wanted to try to make things work out, got back together, and then when i was supposed 2 get my period. i didnt get it.. so now im back with my boyfriend still, i realized over the period of time i wanst wit him how crazy in love i am with him n want him 4 the rest of my life 3824738percent positve.. but the thing is i dont think the kid is his. we tried 4 so long it never happen n all of a suddn im preg now.. so do i keep the kid n hav him hurt in the end wen its not hisPregnant, relationship, need advice please?
Whatever you do, don't get an abortion. I've heard of women who end up depressed for years after getting abortions. I would suggest you get a paternity test to see who the real father is. Let your boyfriend know that there's a possibility that the baby isn't his. If your boyfriend wants to be a father to this baby even if it isn't his, then you have a good man.Pregnant, relationship, need advice please?
You did not give your age, but I am assuming you are young. You are in a bad situation, but it is not the end of the world. Since the past cannot be changed you have to deal with the present. Do you have any type of support system? Is there a minister or someone that you can talk to? You really need someone to help think clearly. Abortion is a permanent fix to a temporary problem. Try to think hon about how you will feel in the coming years if you and your boyfriend do not stay together but your child is gone and you cannot bring it back. Besides what if it IS his and you abort. If he knows about you and the other guy then he must be willing to accept it as his.





If not, you could consider an open adoption where you could be a part of the childs life if you chose to be. Good luck honey.
look mama i personatly am against abortion...if oyu and that other ugy broke up...i dont see why you should get rid of the babii you know...you can talk to your boyfriend and i think is best if along the way both of you just go on beliving is his and raice the babii together...yeah i mean it would be easier to abort but think about it is a babii that there is a 50-50 wether is his or not your not sure....i (in your position) would nto get rid of it...i think is best if you just talk to him and fix things out...wish you the best of luck your in a hard situation...and dont listen to people when they tell you that your being selfish...there are more than one person involved in the situation...BEST OF LUCK...GOD BLESS YOU and GUIDE you to your decision!
I think that you should talk to your BF and tell him how you feel. Also make sure that he knows that there is a chance that the baby is not his. He may be more ok with it than you know. If he says that he is ok with it then keep it. If he says that it will bother him if it is not then don't have it. No matter what you do you will probaly have some kind of regreat. Look at it this way. If you tryed to have a baby with him but could not then maybe this is the only way you can have the baby you both want. It is totaly your choice. As far as hurting him I think that if you two make the decesion togeather there wil be les hurt feeling in the end. But if he loves you i'm sure that he will support you no matter what you do.





Good luck
just b/c its not genetically his kid doesnt mean he cant be a father to the child. dont kill ur child just b/c you messed up- thats not the baby's fault.


if you really dont want to keep the baby, give it up to adoption- so many parents want to have children but cant. also, you may never have a baby for the two of you, and you might have to end up adopting later- so why not have a child that is atleast half yours?
You said you already told him what happened while you were apart, so he should be aware that the baby might not be his. You also said he wants the baby, so that answers your question about if you should have an abortion. A lot of guys are willing to accept a baby that isn't theirs and raise it as if it was. You said you are back together with him and it seems things are going ok, so just have the baby and both of you enjoy it.


You never said how old you both are.
Have you really sat and told him all this? If so then how does he feel ? If he really Loves you it should never be an issue either he accepts this baby or he doesn't bottom line this best be settled soon so you both can decide whats best another question are you 2 ready for a baby? If so then again you both will have to decide if you can live together knowing its a possibility its not his but what if it is? then you will never forgive your self if you go threw this other option.


THIS WILL BE THE HARDEST DECISION YOU AND B/F WILL EVER MAKE!!!!!!


if YOU ARE SO SURE THEN don't get an abortion give this baby up for adoption instead there are so many people who want kids so help them and ck out this option I pray you can sole this for both you and your b/f take it slow sweets and best of luck.
from experience i have a son and i think you should just have an abortion. You dont want to go thru that humiliation of the kid not being his. I know people might thumbs down me for this but its the truth. I had a son from ex boyfriend and after that i had 4 abortions. And one of those abortions i was very confused about who the father was and in the end i was so happy i had the abortion because i felt horrible going thru that. Unless u want to tell him now before the babies born and u both can decide wheather u want it or not. If u want to keep it its gotta be something u really really really want.





If not its not gonna work and he might resent the baby.


goodluck hun, and i hope that helped.