Does this idea sound silly? need relationship advice!?

I have been with my bf for 6 months. Its been amazing and i felt like i found my soul mate up until just before christmas when we started bickering over the sillest of things. It all came to a head yesterday when the day was dotted with sniping remarks etc. I told him i wanted a 2 week break so we could both get abit of a head space and then continue the relationship in a new light, both of us having better attitudes. I usually go to his house on fri til mon but i wont be this weekend and instead will be seeing him the fri after. My idea is this...





i thought it would be a good idea to go on a 'first date' (kind of to mark the new start of the relationship)..where we would meet at the bar we had our first date and start over again that day then go for a meal then back to is. I just want to do something abit 'fresh' and think it will be fun to do abit of role play and pretend we are dating for the first time.





what do you think...is it wierd?





it would only be for that 1 dayDoes this idea sound silly? need relationship advice!?
no thats super cute and its good that u r putting in effort to make it work. ur a good gfDoes this idea sound silly? need relationship advice!?
everyone argues - the thing is - if ya really care enough about the person you will sort it out - if you have been together for six months [honeymoon period] and you are both carrying on and you think you need a break already - then phew - you have got problems





remember why you got together and what made it so special in the first place!





if that element no longer remains - boom off





if it does - sort it now - why wait?





now go get em tiger
thats not weird, thats really cute! u should totally go for it. good luck! %26lt;3
oh dear, if you are going on a 2 week break just because you've been bickering then your relationship is NOT going to work! six-months is the classic time to start doing this, it's the end of the ';honeymoon period'; and if you can stay with your guy after the six-month mark, then your relationship is pretty strong! however, what you have done is at the first sign of strain, you've called it off for 2 weeks, what happens if you do this ';break'; thing and 2 more months Down the line you start bickering again? is that another 2 weeks break for the two of you? what if you have kids - will you be going on breaks every few months when the going gets tough???





when you start bickering you need to sit down together and TALK! ask each other and yourselves WHY your arguing a lot and try to sort it out - don't blame each other, give and take, if your annoying your boyfriend because you use his toothbrush, then stop using his toothbrush, if your boyfriend annoys you when he goes to the gym every night, he needs to go only twice a week etc.





Honestly, i think your idea is crazy! work through your relationship! going on a ';break'; will NOT help!
sound like a great idea go for it! good luck for the future!
no its not weird, have fun good luck.
no it will add a bit of spice to your relationship its good to try new things good luck and have fun remember though on a first date ya never put out only a kiss LOL
i can tell you really want you and him to work.


you are sweet and i think that's a wonderful idea!


i just hope he doesn't think it's stupid and argue with you about it.


best of wishes!
sorry but i have to agree with chewy... and girley_05, yes this will be nice for the day, even a week - but it will NOT help in the long run! If you don't work through these problems now then it'll just happen again, maybe not straight away but a few months down the line your going to be right back where you are now! then what? will you go on another break? another ';first date'; ?????





i honestly think you need to work hard at your relationship if your going to save it, you can do this ';first date'; thing when your still together, you don't need to go on a break to do it! if your having problems it may be because your stuck in the same old boring routine, he comes round on set days, you do the same old thing - it's not unusual to start arguing more!





all you need to do is change your routine - maybe one night you can surprise him with a candle-lit dinner, or go out for this ';first date'; or go away for the weekend! go for walks, anything to break that routine your in!





don't break your relationship because times have got a little hard, just stick together, that's what it's all about!





I've been married for 5-years+ and after 3 kids (forth on the way) times definitely get bad! but we always work through it, we sit and talk and we COMPROMISE!





Your idea was not wierd, it was sweet - but it WONT help!





good luck hun! xxx
i think you already made your mistake. if you need a break, the relationship isnt going to last.





you have to stick with it through the hard times and good. if you accept a couple of facts and act upon them then your relationship will work much better:





1. you can't change what someone wants, accept that they want/dont want something and get over it.





2. everyone gets annoyed, its not personal. dont take offence unless they really cross the line.





3. set goals for yourself(secretive) and both of you(open) for the relationship.


e.g. challenge yourself to give him a strip tease twice in the next month. (secretively)


and


challenge eachother to try to prove how much you love eachother in the most creative ways possible. (openly)





follow those 3 things and the relationship will work much better. about the bickering, follow no. 1 and you will stop getting annoyed at eachother.





to actually answer your question, i think it would be better to go on a new creative first date. much better than the other one. try going on a walk down the beach, or somewhere romantic. do it on the full moon (find out when that is, i think it might be 22nd jan)





its a cute idea but i think you need to start with the open 'love-proof game' as soon as possible. good luck
Yeah you've got more patience than i do that's for sure. Whenever the bickering starts my relationships end. I can't take it.


But kudos to the role-playing date idea. That's pretty original. I like it. Hopefully he'll be into playing his part and not jumping backwards into the relationship by arguing.


You're gonna have to make sure you are both in the frame of mind to put forth a positive attitude and make this symbolic fist date a constructive one.


Good luck!