Relationship / Marriage advice, im such a....?

So Ive been together with my gf for almost 2 years and living together for nearly 18 months. We've been talking about marriage and I honestly know that she is the one. I went out last week and brought a ring, but she found out through me being pretty lame at being sneeky. Ive not spoken of the ring since and had only just began thinking about how and WHEN I would ask her (which wasnt going to be right away).





Anyway, last night she came home quite sad. She told me that she would of rather not known that I'd brought a ring. That she would of preffered it to be a complete suprise.





Well I feel like a complete moron and feel like Ive ruined the whole asking thing now, which is suppossed to be romantic and lovely and something to tell the kids about.





What can I do to salvage this mess?Relationship / Marriage advice, im such a....?
It's sad that she couldn't have wrapped her heart around that secret and let you do as you chose...but now she knows just do something that would seem impromtu to her and in the most romantic moment sweep her off her feet with your declarations of love and proffer the ring with your proposal. I'd be delighted. If she genuinely loves you so will she!





Hugs and best wishes to you both for a long and happy life together!Relationship / Marriage advice, im such a....?
You have me in tears and i'm not even joking, I am 41 and have had tons of marry me please questions without a ring even being bought. You are by far a wonderful man just because you love so deep you thought it would make her squeel with Joy if the answer was yes. Do you have a brother , just joking but don't dare be hard on yourself for being one in a million. I havn't heard of romance like this in a very long while.
do it when she least expects it tell her well i brought the ring back to the store. and that you will get her one out of a suprise. before she comes home from work have a dozen artifishal roses on the table and have nice slow music like chicago or bryan adams. have a dance with her take it slow. eat dinner watch a movie and go to the bed room and show her real dozen roses but fit the ring in one of the roses so when you are nealed down on your knees say baby will you marrie me and make the happiest man on this earth and i'll make you the happies wife on this earth. then watch a romantic movie of her choice and have cottan candy for her and sweets to make her happy then after the movie say you need to go the bed room you for got somthing light up candle lights all over and rose peddles laying on the bed for her. have her close her eyes though when you have her enter the room. when i ment by returning the ring don't do it. make her think that i know you will feel bad but you are going by her wishes she wants it to be a surprise. even a bubble bath too. treat her out spoil her roten GOOD LUCK I HOPE THIS HELPS!!
Well it was her own fault she found out about the ring by being sneaky. I think its sad that she is going to base the rest of her life on not having the perfect proposal.


If she loves you she wont care, how where and when. Im not implying she doesnt love you just stating that it should not matter.
Take her on a walk at a national park or something, and pay to have a message saying 'Will You Marry Me?' written in the sky... I'm not sure what it's called, but.





I doubt she'll expect that if she's already found the ring.
It shouldnt matter... It almost seems like she shallow anyway.. Oh no she found out about the ring, Big deal, you still hadnt proposed. What about the fact you love her?! You love her so much you are ready too commit the rest of your life too her... Doesnt that count for something?! Whats her next complaint?! The diamonds too small? The rings not Platinum?! Or white gold, or whatever her little fantasy dreams have her thinking it should be?! Is she going too complain cause you drive from the wedding in your car instead of a limo?! Come on... All that crap is material, its not important, whats important in life is you have someone who loves you, cares about you, will be there for you through thick and thin... Not that they accidentally, or purposely found out about a ring, or that the limo was your 2003 Corrolla... I dont know how she found out since you werent completely clear... But I think she should have been excited just by the fact you even thought that she was the one for you.... Next move, is too just surprise her if your still wanting too move ahead... Invite all your friends and family over while shes gone for an engagement party, have everyone yell surprise as she walks through the door. then you come through the crowd, and do your thing and ask her too marry you... she says yes, everyones there too celebrate it, and you all party into the night!... Or do the walk at the park, just before sunset, and watch it together, than just outta no where bring out the ring do your thing... The discovery of the ring is irrelivant... Just write down what you want too say before hand... you may botch it if you try memorizing it first... good luck
Dude, nothing is lost yet. you can still surprise her by the way in which u ask her to marry you.





be sure to do some thing out of the obvious and some thing that she would not expect.





i did it through the radio ;)





(my gal found out abt the ring through the receipt i left in my shirt)
Don't propose in the shopping mall :





This woman rejected when he did.
Just take her out like you used before. Show her love and tell her not to worry all is well. That you care for her regardless of what has happenned to her.


Make her feel good and respectable
wait until she least expects it. For instances,if your in the shopping mall in a few months, just fall to her feet,express your love and ask her to marry you in front of everyone.
My friend did the same thing you did. You arrange a romantic spot or a great restaurant and then take it from there all is not lost she will still love you and the ring.