I need some advice w| relationship problems..?

My boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 7months.


We've been argueing lately about the fact that I tend to


yell at him sometimes- %26amp; it's starting to get to be a lot of the time.


I don't mean to yell %26amp; I don't realize what I've said %26amp; done til it's pover %26amp; done w|, then I end up feeling bad.


Sometimes I just take something out on him that's not his fault.


Sorry isn't working so much anymore, %26amp; he's getting tired of it.


HELP!





Someone tell me what I could do to work %26amp; change this.I need some advice w| relationship problems..?
You need to self reflect,there's most probably something in your life that you are not happy with. Or my be it's how you were treated in the past and you never got over it. Now it's coming out expressed as anger,lashing out at the one you love. You need to talk to some one to be able to come to terms with your inner demons. A good reliable friend or maybe a councillor. Try talking to him about it just give him a little shaving of your pain, just to test the water. If he is understanding go a bit deeper but take it slowly. Just don't blurt out all your problems at once. Plus think three times before you open your mouth if you think your going to say something hurtful.I need some advice w| relationship problems..?
when you feel yourself getting ready to let rip, walk away till you have calmed down
Well you can think before you speak. When you feel yourself getting worked up stop and think about the situation, walk away for a minute if you have to.


Good luck.
Stay calm! Sounds like you might want to work a little harder at not yelling and getting upset before you loose him. No one wants to come home to someone who's always yelling or mad.





Sex and Exercise, try more of them, they're great stress-relievers!
wow. i feel you. i had the same problem. it just kept getting worse until i realized it was a big problem and i needed to change. i know its tough not to take things out on someone but the thing is when you realize your doing it again just stop yourself before you go too far. explain to him you do want to change for the good of yourself and the relationship. try to channel your frustration elsewhere. that way you can limit your outbreaks. try to find the source of your problem and try to find a way to remove that from your life.
Well, I think you are stressed out because of other problems such as work, family, etc. and your taking it out on him. This could very well break up your relationship if you don't change your way of relieving stress. Yes, you see, he is someone convient for you to take it all out on, and no it is not fair to him. You are going to have to work out your problems with the actual problem itself (the problem that is stressing you) and do your best to block those problems out when you are w/your boyfriend.
Sounds like you dont think before you open your big mouth.We are all guilty of that .What I learned to do is think for a minute before making a comment.Good luck
go to seperate rooms and think things through. my fiance and i go through this all the time. sometimes i come home in a bad mood and i take it out on him because he's the nearest thing there and i know that he loves me and that'll never change. but what we're doing is talking about the things that stress us out without being objective. not inserting your own opinion just listening to your spouse. just take a break, calm down and talk it out.
take some time apart. if it was meant to be then you two will realize that you dont wana lose each other and change.
You are what is called an ';emotionally abusive'; person. This is SERIOUS and will only get worse over time.





You need INTENSIVE therapy from a therapist/psychologist who specializes in emotional abuse. Visit drirene.com to learn more about emotional abuse.





The first step you must take is taking responsibility - you should NEVER say ';I didn't mean to yell'; because you are an adult and you control everything that comes out of your mouth. Stating ';I didn't mean to yell'; means that you aren't taking responsibility. You did mean to yell and you knew you were yelling when you were doing it.





The second step is MODIFYING YOUR BEHAVIOR. Right now, you believe it is okay to scream your head off when you get upset. You need to learn new behavioral techniques that you can apply when you get angry so that you can respond to your feelings of anger appropriately. Again, you'll need therapy for this.





One of the best things you can do is TAPE RECORD yourself constantly. You will inevitably tape record yourself having one of these outbursts. A couple of days after the outburst, listen to the tape recording. Listen to what triggered your anger, listen to how you reacted to the anger. You will be shocked at what you hear - you probably will sound like some kind of wild animal! When you can HEAR yourself - you are even more likely to be successful with your behavior modification.





It is quite embarassing to run around acting like a crazy monkey instead of a human.
have you talk to him??
well first of all don't yell at him if it's not his fault.....if you love him try to change.....i mean i know you guys will have your problems but if it's not his fault then don't make him pay for it!


cause if you don't change he will get tired and wonder somewhere else!!
When you think you're just about to yell. Walk away and think about it for a second. You can't yell at another adult. It shows no respect. He'll be tired of it and leave.





Imagine if someone does that to you. How would you feel for being yelled at? If you disagree, wait until you calm down and tell him why you disagree with him. I had a boyfriend who yelled all the time and I was sick of him. I just called him up and told him not to call me again. That was 3 years ago
OK, i hate to say it but you sound alot like my dad :S lol, my dad yells at my mum sometimes, and then after feels sick with guilt, what he doesn't relies is that my mum doesn't do anything to be shouted at...maybe your boyfriend thinks the same...for a fresh start i recommend, to not go out somewhere like a film cause during a film you cant talk to each other, so take him to a restaurant, or if your young like McDonald's or something...talk to him without shouting try and listen to every word he is saying and simply go with the flow, if he says something wrong, that you feel you don't like, ask him why he says that....maybe your shouting at him cause your preoccupied with something Else, when your with him...be with him not somewhere Else...





xx hope it works out
First of all you need to change you attitude, no disrespect but taking out your anger and frustration on someone that you love is kinda bitchy. If you love him you've got to change for him because he is not gonna be like whatever when you get into arguements for so long. Just talk to him about it, thats the best thing to do. Just be patient and think before you say something. Good luck : )
Stop and think each time you are arguing about what you are fixing to say to him, think will it hurt his feelings? Will it cause more arguments in the future? Whenever you want to yell or start to, step away, walk away for a few minutes to calm down before you even start...and then go talk to him calmly about it.
Stop apologizing for what you've said, but for the way you've said it. No one likes to constantly here I'm sorry for the exact samething all the time. Try walking away, and getting your thoughts together before you address anything. Sometimes some things are better left unsaid. If you two are arguing about petty things, then take a moment to think if the issue is worth speaking on at all. yelling solves nothing, stop raising your voice, and speake softly. Try expressing yourself without raising you voice. People tend to listen more when the words aren't coming at them at concert volume. Take time to think, it will change the outcome of the arguement.
I can say that I have been there done that. I think that for the sake of the relationship you need to start controlling these things. It is not fair to him and you are only going to hurt yourself in the long run. A man can take and take and when they are fed up they are my boyfriend at the time was fed up with my crap and I changed for the sake of both of us and our relationship and now we are married. I wish you the best.
I just went through this with my Girlfriend. I love her, but the yelling at me, for no reason, made me want to leave. Actually, I was about to leave 2 or 3 days before we had a talk. We sat down and worked through why she was so easy to yell at me for nothing. It came to surface that work was a major problem and she was still adjusting to living with someone. We are still working through it and talking about it. But the one thing we have is the fact that we know we love each other and we want to work through this problem. It's not an easy road to travel, but in any relationship there are tough times. If you want the relationship to last you MUST COMMUNICATE with one another. The biggest advice I can give is take a look into yourself and see what is the source of your frustration. Why do you get so angry? Is it him or is it something else? Like work or family? Answer that and you can move past this. Otherwise you may stop yelling at him, but you will take it out other ways. And that's not healthy for you or anyone you are with.








But for a quick fix. Every time you see him, give a him some attention (hug or kiss) and let the little things that start you yelling at him go away. Then TALK. Talk about anything. Your day, his day or what you want to do tonight, or over the weekend. Just start talking about things in general. See how that works out for you.