Please help - I need some solid relationship advice!!!?

**I ALREADY SUBMITTED THIS QUESTION, BUT I NEEDED TO CLARIFY THAT...


1.) SURPRISE, SURPRISE - I AM A GUY LADIES AND GENTS %26amp; I'M NOT THE ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP!!!


2.) WE DID NOT MEET AT A CLUB %26amp; WE WERE FAR FROM BEING INTOXICATED IN ANYWAY...





Ok, listen.. I started dating someone 6 mos. ago just 2 mess around %26amp; we got really, REALLY, serious, REALLY FAST!! THIS IS SO CRAZY!! This person has EVERY quality I want/need in a gf/spouse %26amp; vice versa. THE CATCH: This person is dating someone, they have kids together, they're not married %26amp; LOATHE their situation. We can't be 2gether yet for financial reasons %26amp; because she is currently in school. What makes this so hard is we never planned on falling in love AT ALL!! Our minds say ';STOP'; but are hearts won't. We really don't know what to do. People are going to get hurt (regardless). We both have kids and that makes it so much more difficult. We just need some GOOD advice...If one of us were married this would be so much easier...HELP!!Please help - I need some solid relationship advice!!!?
I hate the fact that you guys started fooling around while she was in a relationship with someone else. No matter how much they loathe each other now at one point in time they cared enough about each other to have children. And she will always have this guy in her life because he is her childrens father and they need to have a working friendship so they can raise their kids properly. And if you are going to be a part of her life then you need to be respectful to the fact that he is the father and you are the step father. It only hurts the kids to see the adults in their life fighting. Now because she was dishonest and cheated on him behind his back it's going to make that so much harder to accomplish. He's going to feel hurt, betrayed and embarrassed. With any luck he won't vent onto the kids. You need to come clean to her current partner asap. The longer the betrayal goes on the harder it will be to forgive. Tell your girl to spare his feelings. Ask a friend or family member to babysit the kids so they don't hear any fights. Say something along the lines of. This relationship hasn't been working for a while now and i think it's time we seperate. Your very important to the children and I'd like us to try and end this relationship on good terms for the sake of the kids because i don't want them to grow up remembering us fighting all the time. It's important we learn how to be friends because there are going to be many birthdays and eventually graduations, weddings and with time the birth of grandchildren. And i don't want either of us to miss out on these important moments in our childrens lives. I'm sure one day you will find another women and i will try very hard to get along well with her for the sake of the kids and when the time comes I would appreciate the same from you. And wait a month or so before she introduces you to the kids and her ex. It has to be done. What good is love if it is surrounded by deceit?Please help - I need some solid relationship advice!!!?
Everyone has to work on their relationship. Sometimes it can be hard but both the man and woman have to give a little. You should check out this blog: http://winningyouback.blogspot.com


It has a lot of relationship information that has helped me and some of my friends.
Slow down. Ask each other what you need form one antiher and do it in great detail. Have general topoics, but then, in details.








6 months is too soon,. Wait one year.
i agree with leg....... you should wait a year that's how long it takes for the mask to come off but if you are cheating on your spouses you should stop immediately if you remain close with no sex then dig deeper there ac tally be something there then
mayeb you two shoul dthink about your childrens life before you think about destorying theirs
Cold showers.


This is lust not love. Real love that lasts and you can depend on needs time to develop from the first initial attraction. You havent had time only pressure to part which makes it burn hotter, but it wont last and you will do irrevocable hurt.


How can you fall for a school age kid, with kids of her own, then seriously say she's an ideal woman to spend the rest of your life with?


She sounds like she has major issues do you really want to get invloved dragging all sorts of kids along with you?
My advice is despite who is in a relationship and who isnt this situation will not get any easier without honesty. If you are not the one in a relationship and the other person is with the upmost respect I would question if this is genuine or she would rather believe the grass is greener hence how quickly this appears to have moved along with you. If she isnt happy with her current partner and father to her children then she should explore this with him and tell him she isnt happy and wishes to leave. I dont think anyone should stay in a r'ship and be miserable at the same time however I dont think that unhappiness can justify an affair either. It is possible to protect the children from the consequences only if she owns up before it comes out. Both of you having children should not prevent anyone from doing the right thing. I acknowledge how emotions run away with us and no one plans to fall in love. Just think about it and spend time away from one another until she has made her mind up to stay or leave him although you are not the one in a relationship you are still condoning her actions. Take Care wish you well.