So, I haven't been in a serious relationship for a little over a year now, it's been nice I guess, I have been casually dating and just enjoying life. About a month ago I met up with a guy I knew 5 years ago, but we were young and dumb back then so nothing worked out w/ us. Now, however, we started hanging out more, going out a couple of times a week, constant calls and text messages, etc. Our relationship seems to be going somewhere, but it's already been a month and we haven't even as much as hugged yet! Is this normal? LOL. At first I was happy that we weren't rushing into things...but now I'm wondering is anything going to happen at all? Is it good or bad when guys are taking things this slow?? We really enjoy each other's company, laugh a lot, but I wonder if he just wants to be friends? This has never happened before, usually men jump at the first chance they get and don't wait for anything...so any input, advice??? And sorry if this question seems so juvenille, I'm just curiousFeel like an idiot asking for relationship advice but...?
There is absolutely NOTHING! wrong with this . Taking things slow is the best thing you guys can do ...You have already talked in the past Now is the time for catching up. What you been up to where you been ..... how you do things... THis is the perfect time for observation!. He new you then ... but for the most part people change. Since you both seem to have such a good relationship HE Prolly wants to make things right... No mistakes... And wants to make sure you feel the same way before he jumps into dark waters. Drop him some hints ... get Flirty with him. IT sounds like you are a great person . I dont think he will let you pass by. Constant Text messages are just a way of letting you know you are on his mind... That is what you want... You have been single for a year .... a little longer will only Ensure your happiness! Go get your man girly! Sounds to me you are meant to be!Feel like an idiot asking for relationship advice but...?
He keeps coming around you but is moving too slow???
He's interested!!! My best advice to you is go slow yourself!!!
really get to know each other well. Some of the best marriages in the world start out with ';just being friends';.
It has only been a month.
If nothing has happened in three months, then it is time to start meeting other friends as well as keeping this friend.
Then after six months, if nothing has happened, nothing ever will!!! And you will have a fun friend to hang out with!!!
Good luck and may God bless you.
Some men wait for the woman to make the first move because they think the girl just may want to be friends, so they're standoffish until they're sure you're attracted to them.
This is perfectly normal, so no need to feel foolish. Remember that relationships exist on a number of levels, mental, physical, emotional, social, etc. When you go out a couple of times per week, is it just you and him, or a larger group of friends? He may be trying to insulate himself from making a move on you, or you making a move on him. Did the earlier relationship end badly? Did he choose someone else over you, or did you choose someone else over him? If you chose someone else, he might not think you are that interested in him. If he chose someone else before, he might not be that into you, and might do so again. The only way you are really going to know is to do two things: put the liplock on him, and then ask him what he would like to happen between the two of you. It may just be a booty call. So go carefully, and don't expect too much. But ask, or you will never know.
i don't usually give advice to chicks but here it goes
just be yourself and you'll be fine
there how was that
It could be alot of things.Maybe he was hurt before.Maybe he doesn't think you want to take things further.Just ask him.If you can't do it in person send him a text message and ask him where it's going?Good luck
breath young lady! breath! this is the best thing that has ever happened to you! read your question and you'll see what i mean...have fun and enjoy the
slow beautiful walk into a great and beautifully strong relationship, the man respects u,,,,and more...much more
Why are you waiting for him girl...make the move! It is the only way you will know, what harm can a kiss do?
this is not a juvenille question. it is a good that he is taking things slow bc it means that he actually cares about who you are and doesn't just want you so he can show you off or something like that. This is where it gets confusing. Now you cant tell whether or not he likes you or if he just wants to be friends. Talk to him and get to c if you can get a hint on whether or not he likes you. Just bc you guys haven't hugged doesn.t mean that he does'nt like you he is just still thinking on whether or not he's redy to be with you. Take your time. Don't rush into this. Enjoy your time with him. You never know what could be your last moment.
i know how u are feeling right now, been thru done that.
if that realli concern u, why dont u ask him casually, do u guys have the chance to move a step forward? if u r too shy to ask it face to face, texting would be gd too.
from my personal experience waiting can be nice but if you wait too long things might get awkward so you just have to decide if you guys will be able to withstand that
I'm in the exact same position as you and you know what?...I'm luvin' it! It's not that he's moving slow (u either), it's just that you guys are going with the flow and enjoying each others company. Eventually, you guys will get together...just don't rush it...wait for the right time. He already likes you or else he wouldn't be spending his time doing little things, like sending cute text msgs (because i know he is...;-)
Besides.....this isn't high school anymore. We're getting older and patience is more appreciated nowadays. Don't worry, things are going the way it should be....and your question isn't juvenile....you guys will work out.
:-)
I have heard of taking it slow, but come on... not even a hug?? I think you should talk to him and ask him how he feels about you: if he thinks of you as just a friend or as more than that. If he says he just likes you as a friend, then you know why he is acting that way. If he wants to be more, then tell him that he's taking it a little too slow.
Yeah, let him set the pace. The slower the relationship goes, the longer it'll last. Unless it just doesn't work out at all.
its good that guys are taking everything slow and easy is not good to jump to conclusion as u know. get to know this guy better and he probably just want to get use to things so waitt awhile stay friends at put
did you say you guys haven't even hugged yet? like you guys have not hugged when meeting up or saying good bye?
if that's the case, extend your arms out and hug the guy at said instances and keep the hug a little longer than you would with a ';friend.';
when people spend so much time doing what you guys are doing, it only means there is interest between the two.
going slow is good. you don't make rash decisions and make mistakes you later regret.
no. this question is not juvenile.
Guy prob thinks you're gonna dump him if he makes a move - you gotta make it.
This guys wants a relationship with you but he's just taking it slow being as all that stuff happened in the pass.You can know a guy likes you by the constant calls.Just go with the flow and pace.
Lol, well it looks like you might've met a keeper! He probably doesn't want to jump into things cause he wants to keep you around for a long time. Just go with the flow and sooner or later you'll recieve the first kiss, sigh* hope you don't have to wait too long!
I think he is just thinking like you, he doesn't know if he should say anything because he doesn't want to ruin anything or make you feel like you have to be with him, I use to be like that, what you should do is just get it over with and have a casual conversation at somewhere where you can both relax.
Just talk aobut it because trust me it is better to know, and just get it done, like ripping a plaster off!
it would probably be a good thing because then you know that he isn't shallow and that he has a heart he really cares about you and wants to get to know you more first
Maybe he has had some relationship problems in his past and wants to take it slow and get to know you better first. Enjoy it while you can because men like that are far and few. Good luck.
go for it tell him how ur feeling and see if he feels the same tell him u realize that 5 years ago u where younger an not so lucky at the time for it to work for u tell him but we seem to enjoy each other alot now and i would like to know should we keep taking this slow or should we go a step forward.but as i once said he will be urs by taking ur time
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