Thursday, July 29, 2010

I'm gay and I need relationship advice?

This guy, say his name is X, and I have known one another for a couple of years. We flirt quite a lot but the problem is he flirts with girls and claims to only be attracted to females. I don't know whether to let it go or not, we flirt and talk everyday and have through the course of these years, but it's just confusing. Any advice? Anyone been in this situation? I'm gay and I need relationship advice?
It depends on how you define flirting like if its just through words than it could be thats just the way he talks to people. He could be a very nice person and just seems to be flirting. I know of times when guys go to girls and tell them how they have a gay guy hitting on them. If its through actions then ask him out i dont know dont just think about the choices and consequence of your descision. It could be embarassing if you ask him out and and he is straight


I'm gay and I need relationship advice?
some straight boys play around to show off for their friends. Idk. If his name is X i wouldent go out with him anyway XD
A LOT depends upon your ages...if you are in your teens, both of you may be in puberty...a time when many, if not most, people experience same sex attraction. If both of you are through puberty you don't have much of a chance to do anything but accept what he says (he's straight). The one thing you can do if the two of you have been friends for some time is to catch him alone some time and tell him you would like to talk to him... If he's okay with it, then meet and tell him that you would like to tell him something but you would appreciate his keeping your confidentiality (not telling anyone...ever). If he agrees, then tell him that you hope he respects you as much as you respect him...and then tell him that you have considered him a good friend for quite a while but that you think he should know that there is something that you have been keeping a secret and ask him if it's okay with him if you share it with him... If he's okay with that, then tell him you're gay and that you hope that his 'knowing' will not cause any difficulties in your friendship. IF...and I reapeat IF you are attracted to him, NOW is the time to let him know that too. If he's gay or bisexual he may tell you at this time...also, if he's interested in you (in a romantic way) he will probably also let you know that too. If, however, he's straight and/or not interested you will have to accept his decision...and you should let him know that you 'restpect his decision' and hope he respects your 'coming out' to him. If, however, he decides to sever the friendship...you should know you aren't losing a friend...because a true friend would never let the friendship end just because you're gay.
Some people found enjoyment in flirting, the same like bullying. I think he is like that. You should stop doing that, because he is actually bullying with you.
well if he says he is only attracted 2 girls AND he flirts with them then maybe he is bisexual?...since he flirts with you also. ask him out! be brave you can do it! :D

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