I need some SERIOUSLY good relationship advice!!?

My ex and I were together 2 1/2 years. But my mind wasn't right. I have some demons from my past relationships and childhood I needed to figure out and he needed to progress with or without me. I moved to NY and he moved (to buy a house) to TX. Three months later (now) we still talk every day, say I love you, I even flew out to spend my b-day with him. We're making plans to see each other again this summer. All along I've told him that this time apart has made me change and come to some conclusions about my life. I told him and made it very clear I want to reconcile. But he's still very shaken up that I left to begin with even though when I was planning my move he was very supportive of my ';desire to better'; myself. Now when the topic of getting back together comes up, he becomes quiet. He says he's confused. I want to help him understand without pushing him. I want to work things out and move to TX to be with him. I thought it was what he wanted. Don't know what to do.I need some SERIOUSLY good relationship advice!!?
If you burn your hand on a hot pot, do you touch the pot again? Even if it looks cool??? Or do you approach it carefully and tap the pot before you grab it with your whole hand? Yeah...I thought so. Consider yourself the hot pot and consider your guy friend that scalded hand. Now you know WHY he ain't touchin' it again.I need some SERIOUSLY good relationship advice!!?
He is scared!!!


that's it silly


u two seem to doing good ..spend more time with him ...surprise him with something sweet like a home cooked meal or buy something for him the next time u see him ...and then after the mood is set, just pour your heart out and tell him that this time u're for sure. Tell him u've figured urself out and want to discover more with him. He'll see the glow and love in your eyes. And he just might believe you
Are you sure that is what you want? You just need to be able to tell him clearly what has changed. He needs to trust you again and leaving him really damaged that. Just make sure that this is really what you want and tell him why it is different now than three months ago. Good luck.
Sweetie, I think that ship has sailed. Besides, now that you've found yourself, how do you know you really want to be with him? I did the same - took a few years to find myself - but I never go back for seconds. The world is huge - there is a good chance that true love awaits elsewhere.





Luck!
Say ';Damnit dude, do you want me to move there and be with you or not?!'; Make him give you an answer so he cant keep pulling the ';ohhh i'm so hurt wa wa wa'; drama stuff. Know what I mean?
I think you have been very brave to make that move and allow him to make his move also..but now it seems he needs some time to sort himself too...so just give him the space he feels he needs but continue to keep in contact with him ..I know you are going to find this hard to do because you feel ready to make the commitment now but I think if to push him into anything it will just make back off altogether..try be understanding and patient with him for now.