But the romance factor is absolute zero in our relationship. It really bothers me. Has throughout our relationship but has really been on my mind a lot lately.
We live with roomates, one of whom is his best friend. Every weekend consists of hanging out and drinking with the roomates. We never ever go anywhere just the two of us. If I ask or try to plan something, he claims we don't have the money or he has no ideas Although there is plenty of money for beer. He tells me I am unsociable when I complain about hanging out with friends every single Friday and Saturday night.
I got nothing from him for my birthday last December, Valentine's Day. Nothing. Then our one year anniversary was this past weekend. I was expecting something. To go out to dinner just the two of us....flowers...a card. Something. Well we ended up going to a comedy club with the roomates for our anniversary.
The night of our anniversary was when I really started thinking about our relationship and if this is what I really really want. I know we women sometimes over react and think with our emotions. So I am wondering if you would mind giving me your insight on this subject. When I got upset about our anniversary my boyfriend again accused me of being unsociable and told me I expect him to have no friends. I don't think I was over reacting and I have talked to him about how I need him to plan things for us to do and not spend so much time with his friends but my words seem to fall on deaf ears.
Thanks for your opinions and insight in advance!Is it time to go (relationship advice needed)?
Dump him! He's immature.Is it time to go (relationship advice needed)?
No i think that you just need to let him know how you feel in any situation i cant stress enough because how does he know what your feeling. And then maybe your communication level will be thew same,i think he just a little confused on knowing you.
You aren't overreacting. Go with your gut feeling, he's not right for you. He's not committed to your relationship.
I'm confused. You 'totally adore him' but there is no romance?
I see alcohol abuse all over this question.
Just be happy you at least have a relationship
I feel as if I'm reading my own question,I to am in a so called relationship but alot older then you guys,and we have been together for about 3 months,and it doesn't help that he lives across a bar in town,but I am more out going and like to do things,but every weekend we are both at the bar,ooh boy,and I do care for him but sometimes I have second thoughts about us wondering if anything will come of this,I'm always making suggestions about what to do but seems we never do them,he's so use to the same thing day after day,and has his 2 over age boys living at home to,but I do wonder if I'm doing the right thing with all this,you are young,and I really feel your not getting the respect you deserve,you really need to rethink all this,good luck,
Dump your Bf right now. He obviouslt is making a fool out of you infront of all his friends. He showing no kinda affection and he didn not give you anything on valenetines day or your b-day. What kinda bf is taht?!!!!!!!! Leave him... he's no good. Apparently, he is sayign that his friends are way much more important than spending time with you. Leave that jerk for once and for all.
Some guys aren't big into romantic gestures. My parents have been married thirty years and one anniversary my dad boughht her a range hood for the oven. He's the practical sort, haha. He bought her flowers when I was born, and my sisters were born, but that's about it. They're happy. I think it bothers her sometimes because of all the Hollywood hype that fills our heads with clothes-ripping passion, or aww-inspiring romance, so when we find ourselves at the other extreme the disappointment is especially keen.
If you cannot feel truly happy with him, then you shoudl leave as it's only fair to both of you, but if you truly love him than you need to accept him for who and how he is. Have you tried talking to him about how much it bothers you that there's zero romance and alone time? Guys can be clueless, and don't always notice the elephant in the room.
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