Help help help i need relationship advice from both men n women?

I've been dating this boy 4 a lil over a year. lately we have been having problems. I love him really and he loves me. but there is this boy I have been talkin to for a while lately. Well actually I dated him off n on about 2 years before my current boyfriend. I told my boyfriend about talkin to my x about 2 days ago. I told him that I was talkin to him again because he gives me the attention that my boyfriend once gave me but now I don鈥檛 get that attention from my boyfriend any more. an my boyfriend said that really hurt him. and tonight I was with my boyfriend and my x called but I didn鈥檛 want to show my boyfriend the phone so he got it away from me and when he was it was my x he didn鈥檛 talk to me the whole way home. He never cared before who I talked to. And to be honest I really don鈥檛 like my x anymore. I鈥檓 so in love with my boyfriend I don鈥檛 even want to look any other boy鈥檚 way. What should I do about this to make it better? Think about it is his point of view to. Thank you for your helpHelp help help i need relationship advice from both men n women?
Well it's understandable that your boyfriend was hurt when you told him that your ex is paying more attention to you than him. He wants to be the one that makes you feel special, not your ex.





You said that you don't like your ex anymore. However, when you mentioned to your boyfriend that your ex was paying more attention, he's probably feeling like you still have some feelings for your ex (even though you say you don't).





Then when he saw that your ex was calling you, he's probably feeling insecure about your relationship right now. No guy feels comfortable about his girlfriend's ex calling her, even if they are maintaining a friendly, platonic relationship.





So just apologize sincerely to your boyfriend about what you said before and assure him that you still love him. However, it seems like he hasn't been paying as much attention?? So let him know that and how you'd like him to act how he did before because it's making you feel..not special (for lack of a better word). Maybe he hasn't realized what he's been doing, so let him know. You guys have been going out for over a year so you should feel comfortable about telling each other things and being honest with each other (without yelling accusations and such =P)





Good luck and hope that helpsHelp help help i need relationship advice from both men n women?
Your boyfriend is probably jealous. He must really love you and doesn't want you cheating on him or anything like that. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know you really don't like your ex. Make him know you're telling the truth by kissing him or hugging him. When you're around him don't talk about your ex and don't answer your phone when he calls you.
OK, you slammed this guy you claim to ';love'; straight in the ground, by COMPARING him to your EX, then made it worse by CRITICIZING him too. I'm not sure what you thought would happen before you did this, but it was probably one of the WORST decisions you ever made. Guys do not gain appreciation for a girl who tries to make them jealous, and guys do not LIKE ';games';. BECAUSE you chose to tell him you have another guy that treats you better, HE NO LONGER TRUSTS YOU. Gee - he never cared who I talked to before..... what is WRONG with HIM you so ignorantly ask.





NO - the question is, what is wrong with YOU!?





THIS is how you treat people you LOVE??? AND you SAY you do not ';like'; your ex anymore, BUT you USE him and lead him on anyway. IF you were so ';in love';, HOW did you get involved with the ex again, and WHY did you think that would be OK? People who understand and KNOW what LOVE really IS, do NOT do it at ALL like YOU! You really did a great job of making this relationship REALLY bad.





FIRST, you MUST completely accept and understand ALL of the hurtful things you did, and accept the fact, that one of the consequences will be his lack of faith and trust in you. THAT is a very serious issue, and there is no guarantee you will ever get it back. You will have to show him you can be trusted - you cannot just expect him to give it back.


Once you understand, THEN you have to profusely apologize, beg his forgiveness, and be ready to answer ALL the questions he will ask. Even so, he may just say forget it.





If I were in his shoes I sure would.





HOW would YOU handle it, if HE compared you to his ex and told you SHE actually treated him better. Guarantee you would feel like dirt.
It wasn't a good idea to tell your boyfriend that you're talking to your ex because he gives you the attention you want. I can see why that hurt him. Most guys don't like it when their girlfriends are very friendly with their ex's but especially not when you say he gives you the attention you need. That's probably why he didn't like that you were getting a call from him.


I would just telling him that you have NO feelings for your ex. And really tell him. Do it in the sincerest way you can. And make sure he believes you. He'll say that he believes you but he'll just say that. Just keep reinforcing that you don't have feelings for your ex and your boyfriend will come around.
Why dont you tell your boyfriend what you just told us... Better yet, show him your post on yahoo answers so he can see how much you really do like him!
your current boy friend seems protective of the relationship you have with him
So you are making big mistake, if you say that you love your new bf then stop communicating with your ex, tell your ex to stop bothering you anymore and that you are happy with your new one, if you continue doing this you will lose bothe the love of your recent bf and the friendship of your ex..see this should be the case, when you are done with the ex, then move on to the new one but not openly commnuictaing and worst in front of your bf..get rid of him now, ok? good luck!
He doesn't own you so don't act like he does. He seems awfully possessive to me. That should be a warning sign to you. You have all the power though so if you are sexually active you should go down on him to let him know you are in charge. You are still love him so you should swallow it too.
tell him you dont like your ex anymore, youre just friends with him because you dont enjoy having enemies.


you have to show it to him though, like kiss him or something after that so he gets the message.
i don tknow what to tell you, i was in a similar situation, i didnt give my ex the attention she needed, and this guy was giving her lots of attention. i love her, and she loves me. but i guess she didnt love me that much since she broke up with me for that other guy. talk to your boyfriend, and explain to him how you are feeling. im positive if my ex did that, then this wouldnt have happened.
say ur real sorry and that u didnt cheat on him(cause that might be what he is thinking) u just wanted attention. He might get mad but he will get over it.
talk 2 your x he only a friend