Ok, I need some honest relationship advice on this...?

Ok, I'm going to start with a little background so that everyone can get the jist of what happened. My girlfriend (of 5 years) decided that she wanted a ';break'; about 4 months ago. She said she ';wasn't as happy as she should be, and make sure that I was the one, and get back to her old self, yadda yadda yadda';. I went my way and she went hers. I know that she hasn't dated anyone, and I really haven't seen anyone either.





Now, I just recently got a mortgage and started looking for a place, and I found some of her stuff while packing some old stuff up, so I sent it back to her. Then she calls me up after almost 2 months of not talking, to ask ';if I wanted my air mattress back? And if I had a chance to talk.'; Now, I had tried to get her to talk for almost 2 f'ing months and got nothing but complaining from her, and now all of a sudden she wants to talk? So, do I talk to her? I still do love her, but, it seems a little less every day. I am really torn as to what to do.Ok, I need some honest relationship advice on this...?
You guys had a long relationship. And its normal for couples that had been together that long to need some time alone or a break sometimes. One might feel a lack of excitement. Which is understandable that she wants to be left in solitude at times. The other party might not be used to it, which is fair, but some effort and understanding need to be worked into it. Try talking to her and work things out. You guys need a short vacation or good time spent together to reminisce of the nice old times and the reason you were together. Try communicating and reputting the spark back in your relationship. You obviously still care a lot of her and prolly vice versa too. From what u said, it sounds as if thats what shes trying to do. She prolly misunderstood when u sent her things back. Spend more time and do things together. Although you're reluctant to hurt her, if you dont feel the love for her after a while.. you know what to do. It hurts more in the longer term. But i wish all the best for both of you. Good luck!Ok, I need some honest relationship advice on this...?
May I suggest letting time fortell what the future truly beholds for you and your ex. girlfriend...If the situation allows you both to come together again,with both of your discrepencies, then you will know ';it is meant to be together.';...best of luck,and best wishes with your house hunting.
Whatever you do remember one thing. Ex'es are Ex'es for a reason.
It seems like once you sent her stuff back to her, she took that as a sign that you have moved on....


In her mind, you were officially over her at that point.


As long as you were still trying to get her to talk, in her mind you were still chasing her.


But when you are ready to part with the old memories of her, the chase was over.....


I can't tell you what you should do. In your heart, you know what you truly want to do.....





If it were me, I would find and date 3 women and see if I still think about my ex.....
Thats a really hard one. alot of people are going to say forget her and move on...but its hard to say. who knows the reasons why she really wanted take a break. its not that important.





at the end of the day, if you still love her, and she still loves you...why not talk things through. theres nothing to lose...
If you love her and trust her then you'd be a fool to not speak to her. I'd warn you to keep an open mind during this meeting. Give her a chance, she may open up and tell you what's really been bothering her.
Okay the answer is simple, sounds as if you are lacking in communication, yes you maybe talking but this is it just talk,with out meaning, by you sending her stuff back shows her that you do have concerns for her. Suggestion, purchase the book Five Love Languages, and Boundaries for Dating, and try to apply it to your relationship.
Well, like you said, she needed some time. Maybe when you sent back her things, it hit her that the two of you might really be done, and it scared her. Go ahead and talk to her, what have you got to lose?
Sounds like you are moving on and she hasn't met the one she's expecting so she's wanting you back. But remember that this will probably happen again if you do go back. Would just tell her that you need some time and space and let it go. You will always love the memory of her but that's part of maturity.
talk to her
dude if she wants to talk it's on your terms and i see how ya feel, this is something that if you love that much talk toi her but don't ruin it with a stupid thing like '; where have ya been';.
talk to her but it seems she is just trying to get with you again and if that wre me i wouldnt get with her.. there is a reason why she wanted a break ... yeah you know what i mean .. talkto her but stay with your gut and that all i have to say right now so umm... hope i kinda helped a little ... good luck .
it's difficult just to judge based on that. maybe, being a pessimist, she was just saying that because you sent her some stuff, so she also sent back. perhaps she thought you were trying to talk to her again after that long period of time?





optimistic? well... it's a stretch, but maybe she wants to talk about getting back together. after recollecting, maybe she's ready now.





breaks tend to be bad.. usually it's non committal, and is used as a tool to distance one's self before breaking up for good, to soften the blow. however, I know several people who have gotten back together for a much better relationship after ';taking a break';.





I know that wasn't a hard cut answer, but maybe it will give you some ideas into what is going through her mind.